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42 M Gainesville, FL

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 35–54
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 14
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a sapiosexual (Google it, I'll wait) INTP/Architect, but I get along well with extraverts. And yes, I do prefer that spelling. It's the Latin scholar in me.

If you're not into the whole MBTI thing, the sorting hat would put me in Ravenclaw. Yes, I am a *nerd*!

Be advised that I'm in a committed but open marriage with an *amazing* woman (yes, she has a boyfriend of her own), so I'm not your guy if you're looking for something exclusive.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Exploring, figuratively and literally.

Currently working a day job as a librarian, and I make pottery evenings and weekends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Finding my way around in the dark without making any noise. Draw whatever conclusions from this you will.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you're under 35, that I look like Moby when I have my glasses on.

Or, if you're over 35, that I look like Michael Stipe. I try to exploit this when I'm in Athens. Free drinks and such.

Or, if you're a postmodernist, that I look like Michel Foucault (Google him if you don't have a liberal arts degree).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Suffice it to say my tastes are eclectic, so I'll just give you what my HR director calls "the mountain peaks". Yes, I know it's cheating to list authors or directors instead of specific works, but I don't care:

Books top 3: Anything by Cory Doctorow or Bruce Sterling, and the World Almanac

Music top 3: Cowboy Junkies, Phillip Glass, and The Beatles. Does NPR count as music?

Movies top 3: Star Wars original trilogy of course, American Beauty, and anything by Stanley Kubrick

TV Shows top 3: Breaking Bad, Family Guy, Downton Abbey (lame, I know, but I don't have a TV)

If you want to impress me, take me out for dinner at The Jones Eastside or Paramount Grill; coffee or tea at Volta; or drinks at The Top or The Bull. After that we can head out to The Atlantic or University Club (yes I *am* straight)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:

A place to make pots; an Internet connection; good Japanese green tea; paper & pencil for sketching; quiet time; my imagination
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
In no particular order: design; systems; and (I probably shouldn't say this), sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In the studio making pots.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I go barefoot principally because I have a fetish for my own feet, but I tell everyone it's for health reasons.
You should message me if
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You're confident, intelligent, and comfortable in your body
You're the INTP's natural partner: ENTJ, or the ESTJ
You are okay being in an open relationship