Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Having spent the past 8 months in Belgium for my graduate degree, I
came home to write my dissertation. It's an exciting focus on
diaspora and conflict resolution.
Prior to achieving my undergraduate degree I spent 6.5 years in the
military. I was given a great deal of experience with other people,
cultures and adventures. My personal experiences shaped me into the
person I am now. One who still heavily identifies as, and always
will be, a veteran.
I identify as a genderfluid person. Biologically I am female, but I
am male gendered. This means that when you speak to me I prefer
male pronouns. If you happen to call me "her" or "she" I won't be
terribly upset, but it does matter to me.
I am heavily involved in the BDSM, poly and Leather communities.
Just because I am involved in them does NOT mean I expect my
partner to be. I can still do and thoroughly enjoy vanilla things.
Don't get too hung up on it.
I'm looking for someone to date casually. So serious isn't on the
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I just submitted my dissertation for my master's degree in
international conflict and security studies. Right now I'm looking
to move to Washington, D.C. and start a career in my field. When
I'm not focusing on the job, I spend a lot of time supporting my
community through service. Or playing rugby. I'm hoping to add
roller derby to my sports.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I love a good cigar. My current favorite is Connecticut 1999.
However I have started branching out. I have taken a special
interest in collecting straight razors. I actually do shave men's
When I'm not playing with things that are on fire or capable of
slicing open flesh I love to read a good book. I spend a lot of
time around my friends. When I remember to read I pick up books on
I am an absolute GEEK and love Dr. Who
, 90's cartoons and stand up comedy.
There are t.v. shows I can throw quotes from back and forth all day
long. My attention span for movies is... minimal. Sorry movie
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am 6'0" tall on a good day, and 5'11.5" on a short day. This
means that I have a LOT of leg.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The Count of Monte Cristo
Meredith Gentry Series
Kushieline series, by Jacqueline Carey
Cycle of Fire triology by Janny Wurts
Remember the Titans
America's Sweethearts (my FAVORITE romantic comedy)
The Princess Bride
Met Your Mother
1950's era rock n' roll
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. water- I am a Pisces, and it is incredibly important to my
2. my adopted family members- they make my life that much more
3. music- it soothes when necessary, and causes great
4. physical touch- going without touch, even the platonic kind, for
an extended period of time does NOT go well for me
5. alternative lifestyles (BDSM & polyamory)- this is not only
a huge part of my life, it is an incredibly large part of who I
6. stand up comedy- serves the same purpose as music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Following my friends around playing DD at a country bar. Relaxing
during the few hours that I am not working or in school. Attending
one of many amazing kink focused events.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have never had a monogamous relationship, and I'm not really
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Anything you've read interests you.
Or you know how to make kaboli pulau. Or any dish that I
As an aside I will not accept or appreciate blatant offers for sex.
They are tacky, rude and unwelcome.
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