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28 Mankato, MN Genderfluid


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Aug 18
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), French (Okay)
My self-summary
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Having spent the past 8 months in Belgium for my graduate degree, I came home to write my dissertation. It's an exciting focus on diaspora and conflict resolution.

Prior to achieving my undergraduate degree I spent 6.5 years in the military. I was given a great deal of experience with other people, cultures and adventures. My personal experiences shaped me into the person I am now. One who still heavily identifies as, and always will be, a veteran.

I identify as a genderfluid person. Biologically I am female, but I am male gendered. This means that when you speak to me I prefer male pronouns. If you happen to call me "her" or "she" I won't be terribly upset, but it does matter to me.

I am heavily involved in the BDSM, poly and Leather communities. Just because I am involved in them does NOT mean I expect my partner to be. I can still do and thoroughly enjoy vanilla things. Don't get too hung up on it.

I'm looking for someone to date casually. So serious isn't on the agenda.
What I’m doing with my life
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I just submitted my dissertation for my master's degree in international conflict and security studies. Right now I'm looking to move to Washington, D.C. and start a career in my field. When I'm not focusing on the job, I spend a lot of time supporting my community through service. Or playing rugby. I'm hoping to add roller derby to my sports.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I love a good cigar. My current favorite is Connecticut 1999. However I have started branching out. I have taken a special interest in collecting straight razors. I actually do shave men's faces.

When I'm not playing with things that are on fire or capable of slicing open flesh I love to read a good book. I spend a lot of time around my friends. When I remember to read I pick up books on international conflict resolution, Hinduism, alchemy and BDSM.

I am an absolute GEEK and love Dr. Who, imgur, 90's cartoons and stand up comedy. There are t.v. shows I can throw quotes from back and forth all day long. My attention span for movies is... minimal. Sorry movie buffs!
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am 6'0" tall on a good day, and 5'11.5" on a short day. This means that I have a LOT of leg.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Count of Monte Cristo
Meredith Gentry Series
Kushieline series, by Jacqueline Carey
Cycle of Fire triology by Janny Wurts

Remember the Titans
America's Sweethearts (my FAVORITE romantic comedy)
The Princess Bride

How I Met Your Mother
Dr. Who
The Big Bang Theory

Classic rock
1950's era rock n' roll

Middle Eastern
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. water- I am a Pisces, and it is incredibly important to my sanity
2. my adopted family members- they make my life that much more wonderful
3. music- it soothes when necessary, and causes great pleasure
4. physical touch- going without touch, even the platonic kind, for an extended period of time does NOT go well for me
5. alternative lifestyles (BDSM & polyamory)- this is not only a huge part of my life, it is an incredibly large part of who I am
6. stand up comedy- serves the same purpose as music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Following my friends around playing DD at a country bar. Relaxing during the few hours that I am not working or in school. Attending one of many amazing kink focused events.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have never had a monogamous relationship, and I'm not really looking to.
You should message me if
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Anything you've read interests you.

Or you know how to make kaboli pulau. Or any dish that I don't.

As an aside I will not accept or appreciate blatant offers for sex. They are tacky, rude and unwelcome.