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banjer

44 M Chappaqua, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:43pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Medicine
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I fish from a kayak ... a lot .

Grew up on City Island in the Bronx , never got an accent though .
Lived in Washington Square Park and various punk Squats on the Lower East Side... I miss the old NYC.
Boarding school in Vershire VT , following the Dead , college in western NC , all lower 48 traveled through.
MN the land of 10,000 treatment centers.
Back to NY , working in a local hospital , living in the burbs , and wondering how /why I managed to make it to 43 .

That's the abbreviated time line. In amongst that time I : Played Banjo professionally , learned how to build/wire/plumb a house , owned and lost 2 businesses , took care of horses , traveled in Sri Lanka/India/Nepal ,fell in love , fell out of love, outlived all my childhood friends , guided fly fishing trips ,worked on an organic farm , cast bronze bells , climbed trees , cut trees down, managed a forest , taught myself how to build computers , and got clean.

I'd probably make a good muse. I have a sprawling family/extended family that I adore , lots of nieces and nephews that I get to play favorite uncle to. I've been in some very healthy long term relationships , just none recently .

I managed to come through all my excesses with at least my health intact. People are usually surprised when they learn my actual age. I currently work the 7pm to 7am overnight at a local hospital , on my days off I am usually out paddling/peddling my kayak on western LI sound or Jamaica Bay . Most days that's 6-10 hours on the water with 5-10 miles covered ...keeps me pretty fit and moderately sane.

I am honest and above all forthright with my partners , I am also really really skeptical of this online dating thing.
If you managed to read all this and it sounds at all interesting or familiar drop me a line, at least we can have a laugh about the 80's in the city or maybe meet to kayak somewhere .
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a misanthrope who found out late(ish) that I enjoy helping people. Currently trying to put aside my need to enjoy the day so that I can finish up the next stage of my health-care education.
Enjoying the day, getting out on the water every chance I can get.

5/22/14 edit: Accepted, school starts in August.... Alternately thrilled and terrified.
I’m really good at
Thinking like a fish , taking care of ill people , and untangling knots ( both literally and figuratively).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a voracious reader of both trash and "real' books , in no particular order these are the first that come to mind:
The Hobbit
100 Years of Solitude
Of Mice and Men
Cold Mountain ( Han-Shan, not the more recent western film/novel..although I did read that as well)
Neuromancer
Lucifer's Hammer
The Unbearable Lightness of Being
The Marriage of Heaven and Hell
Currently re-reading Aubrey/Maturin novels

Movies/TV
The Godfather 1 and 2
The Remains of the Day
The Wire
Goodfellas
A Clockwork Orange
Star Wars
Recently binged on Madmen, now I see what the fuss was about

Music:
Bad Livers
MC5
The Who
Bad Brains
The Kentucky Colonels
Iggy Pop
The Stanley Brothers
Bill Monroe
Toots and the Maytals
Old Dixieland
Old Blues
Endless really..
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Tides, wind, what the forest was like 1000 years ago
On a typical Friday night I am
either working or paddling
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a wild eyebrow hair that insists on growing longer than the others
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You love the water
You day-dream about being an expat
You love to kayak and/or fish
You went to the Vershire School in the late 80's
You survived your wild teen years downtown
You know (without Googling) the Gil Hodges Memorial Bridge