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35 / M / Straight / Single

Reading, United Kingdom

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Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and very serious about it
Sign
Aries but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Offspring
Has kids, and might want more
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
From reading many womens profiles on this, i'm getting the impression that most of the men on here are sex pests of some flavour or another, that message too often. This puts me in a quandary, as though I might want to message you, i'm worried that i'm immediately bracketed as being part of said group, so...ladies...is it really as bad as that? Is there a safe-word to use? Mississippi?
Anyway...
I'm a single father of two originally from Dublin. For the most part I Teach acting as well as running a college course and directing and performing in a long improvised comedy shows. Life is all about discovering new paths and people to be fascinated in. I like to be challenged, it makes me a better teacher and actor and father.
I'm looking to meet new people and possibly find yet a new path.
I'm also fond of a good hat

For anything else, please ask!
What I’m doing with my life
I run a college course in Acting. I direct and still perform. And I raise my kids. Every year I do a marathon 50 hour improvised show. Ask me why...
I’m really good at
making stuff up. Discovering the game in everything. finding fascination in things, Oh, by "Discovering the game" I mean that I teach through the playing of games in class. It is not a hip reference to myself as a "player", which should be painfully obvious through my awkward use of the word "hip" and the need for inverted comma's around ""player"".
The first things people usually notice about me
Energy. And the hair. I have been accused, in the past, for mounting a charm offensive, but I worry it's because, in reality, the actors I know are slightly misanthropic, and so, in comparison, my desire to engage, can seem charming. Oh, and my accent. I thought for years that it was becoming anglicanised but then had the truth brought crashing home by many students that at times of enthusiasm, my Dublin brogue can be impenetrable
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
To many movies. I have one vice...dvds, but my favourites, the ones I watch again and again that comfort me as great at... Harold and Maude... Fear and loathing in Las Vegas, catch 22, the straight story, smoke, to begin with oh, and Eagle versus Shark, Buffalo 66 (if you in any way resemble Christina Ricci in this movie, you've got me), station agent. I have a feeling that this list will grow. Oh, and of course Synecdoche New York, which I feel that I may need to re watch continuously for the rest of my life

Actually, for books "The world according to Garp" is high up there.I can read "good omens" on a regular basis, and "Catcher on the rye" disturbed me more than any other work of fiction. I had nightmares after that one. I was almost homeless in New York at the time, so kinda stressed, but still. Tonnes of science fiction short stories. For reference right now I'm reading 'the count of Monte Cristo', dumas. 'The black count' Reiss, and 'portrait of the artist as a young man' Joyce. Thank god for a smart phone with kindle.

For music let's begin with Tom waits, move to Phillip glass, catching Damon albarns eye on the way. Dance with bellowhead, sojourn with Joni Mitchell, kiss Kate bush full on the mouth, lock eyes with radiohead, bite Stevie wonder on the cheek and bite beck where he wees...to begin with
The six things I could never do without
My Daughter. My Son. Music. Something to read. Chance to perform. Food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If I try, I mean REALLY TRY! Ya know, to the point of zen magic! can I become Bill Murray through will power alone? Ways to be an innovative and surprising teacher and...has any one else out there seen the series -'Carnivale'?
On a typical Friday night I am
Oh, God...Honestly...minding my kids
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like Kate Bush...big time...know all the words to Wuthering heights...and babushka
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're ok that I have kids that I raise. You're not mental and consider your neurosis more important than anything else in your life. You have a sense of who you are and what you want to do with your life. You don't hate men and want to punish then Fromm some knee jerk misunderstanding of modern feminism. I'm a pussycat by the way...x