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bar-singer

59 Castro Valley, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–54
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:12pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Law
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I am a seeker, and I'd be glad for you to help me figure out what I mean by that. Fortunately, whatever it means is pretty secondary: mainly, I am laid-back and think life is to a large extent about fun.

But you can definitely call me a creative. I've been a writer and am a musician now and have been/am serious about both. Many but by no means all of my best friends are artists of one sort or another. I like people who dream.

I'm a SERIOUS late-bloomer. Down side to that: I'm 58 years old and while I'm finally making decent bucks, I don't have a realistic retirement plan. Upside: I am seriously healthier and more vigorous than at any time in my life and could literally run circles around my 30-year-old self, plus my career is on an upswing.

Optimistic/at-least-semi-realistic side: I'd say I have more of my best days in front of me than 99% of the 58-year-olds out there. I've got something of a Peter Pan complex and I'm not ready to start talking about vegetables and my aches and pains all day like my parents did before they died. I'm young, you dadgum whippersnappers! Young, I say!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Having fun.
Working/playing with my music pretty much daily.
Taking advantage of the best professional opportunity of my life.
Staying in shape, and trying to improve my fitness constantly.
Last but not least, I'm looking for love without benefit of a map.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm funny and smart. I can write, and I have the gift of gab.

Fact is, I'm good at lots of stuff, especially modesty. I am almost certainly the most modest individual in the entire history of the human species, and I'll be glad to tell you so.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not sure why, but people I just met seem to tell me things.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite authors: John Fowles, Jorge-Luis Borges, George R.R. Martin, Vladimir Nabokov, Mark Twain, Fyodor Dostoevsky. I tend to have a few book irons in the fire at any time.

Or Kindle irons, to be accurate. I had actually given up reading for pleasure before the e-reader came along. Fie on the tactile feel of the book in my hands, etc., etc., etc. I prefer the tactile feel of my entire library in my pants pocket.

Favorite musicians: The Beatles, Elton John, The Beatles, Frank Sinatra, The Beatles, Frank Zappa, The Beatles, and the Beatles. And please, ma'am, drag me into the 21st century. I'm ready, lord, I'm finally ready.

If you want to see something really funny . . . First, get to know me so I'll be at ease with you . . . and then cue up The Sound Of Music DVD. I'll cry like a baby.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Beyond stuff like air, water and nutrition, really I'm pretty flexible. My life would turn upside down without any of a number of things, but if it does I'll just flip upside down and go with the flow.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, stupid crap, mostly, whatever obsesses me these days. But I have these little recurrent fantasies I run through my head in bed that help me get to sleep. Some of them involve being in a warm place when it is cold and/or stormy out, some of them involve being on a submarine, some of them involve being in outer space, and there are a few more. It started when I was a little kid and used to fantasize there was a werewolf outside the window and I had to be real still so he couldn't see me, and than I realized that made me feel safe . . . and still . . . and warm . . . and zzzzzzz.

When I'm awake, I think about lots of stuff. Probing strange ideas is like eating candy to me. Something I do a lot is think about stuff related to consciousness, will, and intent, how we perceive the world, whether the world is real, and why we want the things we want. Somehow, all that stuff seems related to me.

When I'm being really good, I work on my next song.

I don't spend a lot of time on regret, but I do try to spend enough time thinking about how to do the right thing with whatever's up next in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
OKCupid rates me highest on the "spontaneous" personality category, and I think that's probably right, so there ain't exactly a typical Friday night or any other night for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am not inspired to answer this question. But I'm (mostly) an open book, if you're curious, or alternatively I've answered about 1000 frickin' questions here, so have at it.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like intellectual conversation, intense, honest and open connection, and you're free to the possibilities of life.

You're active and at least in decent shape or working seriously to get there.

You feel good about your life and have joy to share.

You live with honor. (And you do it in the Bay Area.)

You speak English well enough to communicate your interesting ideas.