Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a seeker, and I'd be glad for you to help me figure out what I
mean by that. Fortunately, whatever it means is pretty secondary:
mainly, I am laid-back and think life is to a large extent about
But you can definitely call me a creative. I've been a writer and
am a musician now and have been/am serious about both. Many but by
no means all of my best friends are artists of one sort or another.
I like people who dream.
I'm a SERIOUS late-bloomer. Down side to that: I'm 58 years old and
while I'm finally making decent bucks, I don't have a realistic
retirement plan. Upside: I am seriously healthier and more vigorous
than at any time in my life and could literally run circles around
my 30-year-old self, plus my career is on an upswing.
Optimistic/at-least-semi-realistic side: I'd say I have more of my
best days in front of me than 99% of the 58-year-olds out there.
I've got something of a Peter Pan complex and I'm not ready to
start talking about vegetables and my aches and pains all day like
my parents did before they died. I'm young, you dadgum
whippersnappers! Young, I say!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working/playing with my music pretty much daily.
Taking advantage of the best professional opportunity of my
Staying in shape, and trying to improve my fitness
Last but not least, I'm looking for love without benefit of a map.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm funny and smart. I can write, and I have the gift of gab.
Fact is, I'm good at lots of stuff, especially modesty. I am almost
certainly the most modest individual in the entire history of the
human species, and I'll be glad to tell you so.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not sure why, but people I just met seem to tell me things.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite authors: John Fowles, Jorge-Luis Borges, George R.R.
Martin, Vladimir Nabokov, Mark Twain, Fyodor Dostoevsky. I tend to
have a few book irons in the fire at any time.
Or Kindle irons, to be accurate. I had actually given up reading
for pleasure before the e-reader came along. Fie on the tactile
feel of the book in my hands, etc., etc., etc. I prefer the tactile
feel of my entire library in my pants pocket.
Favorite musicians: The Beatles, Elton John, The Beatles, Frank
Sinatra, The Beatles, Frank Zappa, The Beatles, and the Beatles.
And please, ma'am, drag me into the 21st century. I'm ready, lord,
I'm finally ready.
If you want to see something really funny . . . First, get to know
me so I'll be at ease with you . . . and then cue up The Sound Of
Music DVD. I'll cry like a baby.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Beyond stuff like air, water and nutrition, really I'm pretty
flexible. My life would turn upside down without any of a number of
things, but if it does I'll just flip upside down and go with the
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, stupid crap, mostly, whatever obsesses me these days. But I
have these little recurrent fantasies I run through my head in bed
that help me get to sleep. Some of them involve being in a warm
place when it is cold and/or stormy out, some of them involve being
on a submarine, some of them involve being in outer space, and
there are a few more. It started when I was a little kid and used
to fantasize there was a werewolf outside the window and I had to
be real still so he couldn't see me, and than I realized that made
me feel safe . . . and still . . . and warm . . . and
When I'm awake, I think about lots of stuff. Probing strange ideas
is like eating candy to me. Something I do a lot is think about
stuff related to consciousness, will, and intent, how we perceive
the world, whether the world is real, and why we want the things we
want. Somehow, all that stuff seems related to me.
When I'm being really good, I work on my next song.
I don't spend a lot of time on regret, but I do try to spend enough
time thinking about how to do the right thing with whatever's up
next in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
OKCupid rates me highest on the "spontaneous" personality category,
and I think that's probably right, so there ain't exactly a typical
Friday night or any other night for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am not inspired to answer this question. But I'm (mostly) an open
book, if you're curious, or alternatively I've answered about 1000
frickin' questions here, so have at it.
You should message me if
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You like intellectual conversation, intense, honest and open
connection, and you're free to the possibilities of life.
You're active and at least in decent shape or working seriously to
You feel good about your life and have joy to share.
You live with honor. (And you do it in the Bay Area.)
You speak English well enough to communicate your interesting
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