If you're just getting out of a bad relationship and you're really just looking for friends, then that's OK. Just state that and be HONEST! If you're really just looking to get laid, then say so. BE HONEST! I'm sure there are many women out there that are looking for that as well. You also might want to consider what your meaning of "long term" is.
I myself am just getting out of a 20 some year marriage. He was a jerk. I have some wounds that still are not healed. That doesn't mean that I'm not looking to go out and have a good time. I'm not looking for a husband, but hey, you never know. I'm also not looking for a sex partner. But again, you never know. Things happen.
I'd really like to know what a "soul mate" is. Is it one person or can you have many? Do you really think that there's one person out there that will complete you? If so, you're missing out on a lot of us "lost souls" that are just trying to make it through.
Also, I live close enough to the beach that I can frequent it often. Where are all these couples that "enjoy romantic walks on the beach"? Seems to me that there are more people power walking with their head phones in and noisy kids throwing sand than anything else
Ok...about baggage and drama. Seems like everyone is bragging or complaining about having or not having them. EVERYONE has baggage and drama. Every life is full of ups and downs. Everyone ( God willing) has had some experience in their life that they will carry with them through their days. Its a matter of what you do with that baggage that makes a difference.