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I’m looking for
- Ages 23–39
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Apr 25
- Demisexual, Pansexual, Queer, Sapiosexual
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- Mostly vegetarian
- Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
- Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Less than $20,000
- Open relationship
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs
- English (Fluently), C++ (Okay)
I'm currently in the process of figuring out my gender identity. I've determined that I identify farther onto the feminine side of the spectrum. I'm not really sure of the implications of that, though. I grew up responding to and somewhat identifying with male pronouns. If you want to make me smile, though, you'll use female pronouns when you refer to me.
I've been described a few ways by those close to me, including annoyingly optimistic and as a productivity fascist. Also as a great girl-friend.
My relationship priority is making a romantic connection. I want one aspect of that connection to be spending passive time together. I'd like to be comfortable enough with someone that we can hang out with no particular agenda, but focus on our own projects or activities and share the same space. We'd be close enough to chat, to share, to touch, but we wouldn't need to be actively focused on each other. And it would be satisfying for both of us.
That's only one aspect of the connection I'm looking for, but it's a dynamic I've been missing in my life.
I'm very touch-oriented, and I have a high need for touch and (non-sexual) physical affection. I'm very sensitive to the difference between sensual and sexual touch and interaction. I have a strong preference for the former.
Until then, I spend my time tutoring math and physics. I'm also a knowledge consultant, focused on technical and logistical issues for individual projects. I'm passionate about math, science, technology, education, with a particular interest in where they intersect.
I have long-term goals that include a Ph.D. in Planetary Sciences, the private space industry, and personned missions to Mars.
I fancy myself a writer. Most of my writing lately has been blog posts, though I have been attending weekly poetry nights where I read occasionally. I do have some narrative projects that are not receiving the attention they once were.
It seems like others enjoy talking to me. Which is good because a meaningful conversation leaves me feeling satisfied like few other experiences do.
All of my lovers, past and present, have really enjoyed my massages. I'm great at rubbing shoulders, necks, backs, legs, feet. I guess it's not surprising that I excel at something so touch-centric.
I've been running for the past several years and I've developed a lot. I really love pushing myself farther than I think I can go. My pace is pretty respectable now. My preference is to run barefoot or in FiveFingers. I crossed the finish line of the Eugene Marathon 2014 and can now call myself a marathoner.
I feel comfortable now saying I'm good at ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship anarchy. These are all inter-related and incredibly important to me.
People also tend to notice my hair; it's thick with lots of body. Right now I'm wearing it a bit longer and shaggier. It's pretty curly and a bit mane-like.
Currently reading: The New Topping Book by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
Recently purchased music: All You Can Do by Watsky
Recent favorite movie: The Imitation Game
Recent favorite episode: Gotham episode 19 "Beasts of Prey"
Local eats: Falling Sky
Project: training for the Eugene Half-Marathon
Now for the rest. Here we go. I'm just going to list some of my favorite things, in general, without dividing them into categories or anything.
House of Cards, Matchbox Twenty, Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card, Rent, Halo, Alanis Morissette, Star Wars, Doctor Who, Star Trek, The Kingkiller Chronicle by Patrick Rothfuss, cribbage, Death Cab for Cutie, Questionable Content, The Decemberists, Wicked, Cruel Intentions, High Fidelity, chess, Penny Arcade, Nickel Creek, Magnolia, rice and bean dishes, Children of Men, Magic: The Gathering, Her, Interstellar, Dungeons & Dragons, The Guild, Across the Universe, Aimee Mann, Firefly, Cafe Yumm!, Texas Hold 'Em, Batman, Harry Potter, REM, musicals, showtunes, Law & Order, Aaron Sorkin shows, Family Guy, South Park, 30 Rock, The Who, Dan Savage, 10 Things I Hate About You, Beyoncé, Karmin, Trilogy of the Foundation by Isaac Asimov, Eminem, Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein, Watsky, SourceFed, ViHart, Holy Cow Cafe, Mirror's Edge, xkcd, P.T. Anderson movies, Richard Feynman, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Off the Waffle, Falling Sky, Cruel Intentions, 500 Days of Summer, Chasing Amy
And the list goes on, really.
- a book to read
- a friend to talk to (and cuddle with!)
- a pen and a pad
As an aspiring teacher, I'm also focused on education, particularly secondary math and science education. There are a lot of problems with our public education system, and I want to be part of the solution, not just a part of the status quo.
My own projects occupy a lot of my mind. There are many short term projects--an interesting math problem, a blog post, a small research project. I have some larger projects too: I'm learning to build Android apps because I have a couple of ideas I'd like to create and I'm planning and writing for a couple of long-term blog projects.
Politics and social issues are always on my mind. I'm an outspoken feminist. If you don't check your privilege, I'll do it for you. I support the legalization of marijuana, marriage equality, giving people control over their own bodies, abolishing civil marriage, strict gun control.
I'm always thinking about when I'm going to get my next run in.
Music makes me cry. There are certain songs that just hit something inside me, such as: Defying Gravity (from Wicked), I'll Cover You Reprise (from Rent), Your Song (by Elton John). There are actually a bunch more, but those are the songs that do me in without fail.
I don't really like receiving sexual attention. I prefer to focus on my partners' pleasure. Mutual pleasure is nice too, of course.
Oh, I'm a sub looking for a fem-dom.
Also, feel free to ask me about anything on my profile or my answer to any of the questions.
Right now, I'm really eager to find a strong romantic connection. At the same time, I realize I'm not exactly sure what I mean by that. So, if you are looking for a relationship with pretty fluid boundaries and the opportunity to explore your needs and desires, get in touch. I'm just eager for a passionate, deep connection.
I'd also really like to meet a dominant woman to help me explore my submissive nature.
If cuddling, conversing, getting you off, making food, going for a run, playing a tabletop game, drinking beers, in any permutation, sounds like a good way to spend time together, then we'll get along.
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