Over the past year or so, I've been doing a lot of self-discovery. One thing I discovered is that my desire for sexual contact is quite low (and I only desire sex with people I share a deep connection with) but my desire for touch is quite high. While I am open to all different types of connections and relationships, right now I am focused on finding partners to help me meet my need for touch. An example of what this looks like to me: someone to get together with a couple times a week, have good conversations, share some food, and spend a lot of time cuddling. Maybe they stay overnight (I really dislike sleeping alone). I'm open to the relationship developing into more than that; in fact, I hope the relationship grows. But, that is where I want to start, and it is important that sharing frequent and plentiful touch is a consistent part of the connection.
I enjoy all different types of people. Everyone has a story, has passions, and wants to be loved. My approach to relationships is to let them establish their own boundaries and levels of intimacy. In this way, each of my connections is as unique as the person I share it with. Over the last year, I've been focusing on my relationship with andytarr and gewilnian. We three have developed a very meaningful connection and are making a three-way distance relationship work.
I'm very focused on self-improvement. I try to always strive toward a goal of making myself better in some way. I'm a barefoot runner for fitness, and I'm conscious of my food choices. I read a lot and I'm always trying to learn more and understand new perspectives.
My girlfriend and boyfriend have pointed out a couple qualities that I hadn't really self-identified. First, I'm a sub. Being submissive shows up in a few places in my personality. Second, I have a foot fetish. That one surprised me to realize.
[Myers-Briggs: ISFJ (The Protector)]