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40 M Los Angeles, CA

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
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Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I suppose i could just go with the OKC profile cliche generator...easy-going..doesn't like hard and plays hard..likes to laugh..enjoys life..likes travel...can't believe i'm on a dating site..blah blah blah etc. I had a long self-summary before and suspect no one read it so here are the cliff's notes. i guess we are here to toot our horns somewhat so without any unnecessary bragging i will just say i have a career, i am reasonably smart, i stay in shape, i'm not "babebraham lincoln" but i'm not hideous, i don't act like a clueless dude-bro jerk, and i have a creative endeavor outside of work. right now i'm looking for a little sweetness in my life meaning some feminine energy, affection and presence, all of which are kind of lacking now unfortunately. (btw i'm probably not "online now", i just don't logout.) i'm not sure how to really give a thumbnail description of myself. culturally i come from a family that could be described as white trash veneer with a pinch of latino lowrider thrown over reservation native american but other than a random preference that surfaces here & there (a soft spot for oldies music & frito pies par exemple) none of those categories comes near to reflecting who i am. really, i'm a good guy...even my parole officer thinks so.
What I’m doing with my life
Blooming...and apparently being the only person on okc without a photo of myself climbing a mountain, about to ski down one or lounging at a palm springs resort hotel. (Consider this as the ultimate okc photo album...the one almost everyone here seems to strive towards: )
i work with my hands and lift semi-heavy stuff on my job. lets put it this way..i don't have metrosexual hands. i was a very recent member of the 'sooo busy..too busy' cult sweeping the nation & likely will rejoin at some point but i deprogrammed myself and have got into a nice routine of day trips, reading (preferably in griffith park), running/working out (which keeps me somewhat sane) and putting together a photo book. recently spent 3 days at a remote house in joshua tree. slept in a renovated was superb. (wrote this in the summer. i'm back on the grind working a lot). i'm not a surfer.. i know... huge dealbreaker here on okc but i feel i should get that right out in the open.
I’m really good at
i'm loyal & dependable. i'm always ready to pitch in and help a friend. and i'm a hard, diligent worker even when the job at hand sucks A. i'm resourceful..i have a new-found knack for unclogging stuck drains. can deftly turn an old receipt into a napkin at a moment's notice. making photographs...i nerd out over lighting..i've self-published a book & had editorial work here & there, most notably in the atlantic magazine...currently working on a self-published photo book. and to borrow a phrase from the okc profile template, i'm comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt or a dress & heels..ha.
The first things people usually notice about me
sometimes i'm told "you've got a deep voice.."

don't judge me by my cover...i have a lot in common with some of you gals who don't look at anyone without a beard and/or know..the "silverlake mountain man" or "williamsburg lumberjack"..(looking at you eastside stylist girls with your etsy stores).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
i had a pretentious big-ass list here before. i had a 'moment of clarity' and erased it. here is what i've been into lately.. tame impala, deerhunter, black bananas, terry melcher, orange juice, donald byrd, the damned, destroyer, jonathan wilson, the fall, aerosmith when they still did hard drugs, etc etc.. movies..hmmm. ..just sat through "rear window" for the 100th time and "white heat" for the first (how did i miss that one?? amazing)..."there will be blood"..i work in film so i guess i kind of take movies for granted. In the middle of an insane history of scientology...i'm an LA native and an old-timey LA history dork. just read and loved "white noise" by don delillo..also been re-reading some of george orwell's essays. I really like T. Rex and don't give a rat's patootie about "Game of Thrones" or "Breaking Bad". "True Detective" though, has won me over. Photography; torbjorn rodland, pl dicorcia. want to see john divola at lacma.
The six things I could never do without
oh jeez..unlike 99% of okc users i can do without my iphone. gone without things before and it didn't kill me..but these things float my boat

feminine affection..the arts-photography/painting/music/architecture/etc...pineapple...decent reading material..comedy...cruising around with a close friend..physical activity of some kind (i love workouts..they keep me reasonably sane).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
decadence and anarchy...

how 99% of you seem to be really just here to try and get free surfing lessons (and going by most of the female profiles, the dudes can angle for free yoga lessons)

how a lot of women here still seem freaked out by interracial dating:
On a typical Friday night I am
lately watching bill maher after getting home from a long work day, not so much for maher himself but for his guests..i tend to leave the weekend nights for the 9 to 5ers but i'll go out if the going is good..i tend to like the spontaneous over pre-planned activities..
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
1. i never write "LOL", "SMH" etc
2. not so much into heavy LA new-agey burning man spiritualist my experience w/people like this it often seems to be a cover for narcissism and insane self-regard bordering on arrogance...(i'm describing a particular type...not all people who are spiritually inclined..i respect true spiritual practice).
3. i still haven't fulfilled my dream of being the piano player in a brothel.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you know the sun is indeed larger than the earth..surprisingly, many here get this one wrong...and you're ok with uptalking valley dudes (slightly uptalking..i spent my 20s & 30s trying to rein it i'm getting older i don't care so much)