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bartenderstephen

32 Somerville, MA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.86m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Status
Single
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Let me defend myself from the personality aggregator:

I'm a total romantic. I mean I even like doing cliched things like escaping to a B&B for a weekend. Hell, your likely to get showered in flowers and impromptu bottles of wine.
I am increasingly love driven. My priorities are definitely changing. I don't put being love driven at odds with being sex driven, but rather other categories like being career driven.
We'd have to look at how they defined rational.
I'm easily considered a nerd, but simultaneously a babe and a bad ass.
I think I'm old fashioned, but only in the way that its old fashioned to be clever, tough, wily, courteous, and extremely self reliant.
I'm not conventionally spiritual but I have a deep respect for religions.
I'm pretty sure you can be wholesome and still enjoy your dirty mind. I find Betty Page perfectly wholesome, but I also enjoy very selective forms of modesty.
I've got to be considered far more spontaneous than that? I'm never afraid to lose a few hours of a sleep if something seems like a good idea... YOLO!
I'm polite enough that people's parents adore me. But other forms of politeness are add odds with integrity and getting stuff done.
Well I'm often dominant, but I really like strong female personalities that can push back. I pretty much seek out the strongest woman I can find.
Adventurous? I'll eat anything. I'm also a devout motorcyclist and ride a big BMW 1200 gs.
Somehow I got a lot of kink in my metadata because of conversations here then a date with a woman into a healthy amount of BDSM. It just sort of happened. I can rise to the occasion but I don't lead the league in anything.
I wouldn't say I'm aggressive so much as feisty, potent, and possessing of great vitality.
I certainly try to be big time giving. If someone asks for my help I feel pretty much obligated to do it even with life as busy as it is. I also like to pick up dinner bills because its classy and I can.
I don't always feel energetic, but my productivity is notably high and I like being out late and up early.
Ruthlessly independent and self reliant and capable. I could build you a house and we could live off the grid together.
Am I sex-driven? I think I'm healthy with a strong set of technical skills. Its a good way to ground a relationship. With all the texting these days and working too much, I like to firmly ground things in bodily physical experience. That didn't sound romantic, maybe I'm not good at being romantic?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Finishing up a great career in the culinary arts where I've been a wine buyer, bar manager, and worked on the most amazing team to run a really cool small restaurant. I don't bar tend much anymore because I don't like working past 11:00 p.m. (why I have time to date you and wake up at your same hour).

Slowly inching into a new career as a beverage technologist, which is pretty much a distiller but with a focus on product development and tackling the hard science of it all. How do you make whiskey from scratch? First we must invent the universe!

A little micro entrepreneurship project occupies a small amount of my time where I ship some equipment I designed around the world at a slow trickle. This is leading to some general machine shop work and I keep accumulating small jobs doing more and more.

I'm teaching a workshop this fall at the sMFA on aesthetics (through the lens of the culinary arts).

Otherwise its all reading books, being outside, and chasing skirts with a lot of sharing meals with loved ones in between. I'm sure some woman is going to catch me soon and take the skirt chasing out of the equation.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Connecting the dots and getting things done. Appreciating others. Criticizing the government. Complimenting artists. Loving lots of music. Knowing where to get the best of everything to eat and eating it. Getting around because I teleport with my bike or take the motorcycle. Being pleasantly ridiculous.

"What I like about you," she said, "is the serious way you make up nonsense."
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall with blue eyes. I'm all Levi's 501s, t-shirts and leather jackets. My uncommon vitality.

The last thing you'll notice: I do the right thing even when its the hard way. I'm a strong provider type (not that I want a damsel) and when the going gets tough, I test better than most men.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oliver Sacks' Hallucinations was brilliant. I love when I'm given short stories to read. Raymond Chandler, Garcia Marquez. I accumulate large piles of non fiction and devour journal articles. I go to matinees constantly. Zuzu, Wally's, the Plough & Stars. Lead Belly, Bo Diddley, R.L. Burnside, the Gun Club, the kinks, the Cramps, Tribe Called Quest, Pete Rock & C.L. Smooth. I eat out constantly.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
wine
women
& lip balm (not necessarily in that order)
2 wheeled transport
a dirty mind, (which is a joy forever)
my contrarian tendencies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how a zombie outbreak could be prevented if we buried people with their shoelaces tied together.

otherwise, carburetors & spark plugs, non linguistic thought, grounded cross-modal metaphors, the categorization of aromas, creative linkage strategies, the relationship of art to games to the objective scientific method, super normal stimuli, nth degree abstraction, the rhetoric of art, anxiety, complacency, cementing memories, retrieving memories, omelets, avocados, bacon.

Accurately representing myself but standing out so I can escape this rock with a total babe that I can be good to.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The only reason I don't have a shirtless selfie is because of my extreme farmer's tan.

Under my semi-gruff exterior there is definitely a romantic and an optimist?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you have character and can handle a character.

If you are mischievous, just plain curious or like to embrace the delicious trial and error of it all.

If you are lovely enough to change all my priorities in life.