bartenderstephen
32 Somerville, MA
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My self-summary
The name was chosen to imply my schedule which is pretty much 3-11 with a couple of week days off. But I'm an out late and up early type so I have a fairly easy time integrating into other people's schedules.

A busy urban life is all about rendezvous and stringing together small amounts of beautiful focused free time into relationships. I've got stuff to do and I enjoy someone else with stuff to do. But when we come together I like to feel that extra deep connection.

I'm a man about town and I use the whole city so I have an easy time getting anywhere you need me to be (one of my big complaints with women these days is they aren't very mobile). I don't fear the winter and there is no such thing as bad weather, only bad wardrobe.

I come with two incredible brothers (I'm the middle) who always bring something to the table that I do not which makes us a formidable force of hysterical amusement. I keep a really large circle of amazing friends who are fixtures at my house and many of us travel and vacation together. My restaurant coworkers are another circle of best friends and keep me grounded and well teased.

I'll get back to writing this later, but read my question section if you want a more telling summary.
What I’m doing with my life
Finishing up a great career in the culinary arts where I've been a wine buyer, bar manager, and worked on the most amazing team to run a really cool small restaurant. I don't bar tend much anymore because I don't like working past 11:00 p.m. (why I have time to date you and wake up at your same hour).

Slowly inching into a new career as a beverage technologist, which is pretty much a distiller but with a focus on product development and tackling the hard science of it all. How do you make whiskey from scratch? First we must invent the universe!

A little micro entrepreneurship project occupies a small amount of my time where I ship some equipment I designed around the world at a slow but growing trickle. This is leading to some general machine shop work and I keep accumulating small jobs doing more and more in that sector.

I'm teaching a workshop this spring at the sMFA on aesthetics (through the lens of the culinary arts). You can find it in the continuing education catalog.

Otherwise its all reading books, being outside, and chasing skirts with a lot of sharing meals with loved ones in between. I'm sure some woman is going to catch me soon and take the skirt chasing out of the equation.
I’m really good at
Connecting the dots and getting things done. Appreciating others. Criticizing the government. Complimenting artists. Loving lots of music. Knowing where to get the best of everything to eat and eating it. Getting around because I teleport with my bike or motorcycle. Being pleasantly ridiculous.

"What I like about you," she said, "is the serious way you make up nonsense."
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm tall with blue eyes. I'm all Levi's 501s, t-shirts and leather jackets. My uncommon vitality.

I'm the last motorcycle on the road.

The last thing you'll notice: I do the right thing even when its the hard way. I'm a strong provider type (not that I want a damsel) and when the going gets tough, I test better than most men.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Oliver Sacks' Hallucinations was recently brilliant. I love when I'm given short stories to read. Raymond Chandler is a guilty pleasure. Garcia Marquez still blows my mind. I accumulate large piles of non fiction and devour journal articles. I go to matinees constantly. Zuzu, Wally's, the Plough & Stars. Lead Belly, Bo Diddley, Link Wray, the Gun Club, the Kinks, the Cramps, Tribe Called Quest, Pete Rock & C.L. Smooth. I eat out constantly.
The six things I could never do without
wine
women
& lip balm (not necessarily in that order)
2 wheeled transport
a dirty mind, (which is a joy forever)
my contrarian tendencies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how a zombie outbreak could be prevented if we buried people with their shoelaces tied together.

otherwise, carburetors & spark plugs, non linguistic thought, grounded cross-modal metaphors, the categorization of aromas, creative linkage strategies, the relationship of art to games to the objective scientific method, super normal stimuli, nth degree abstraction, the rhetoric of art, anxiety, complacency, cementing memories, retrieving memories, omelets, avocados, bacon.

Accurately representing myself but standing out so I can escape cupid with a total babe that I can be good to.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The only reason I don't have a shirtless selfie is because of my extreme farmer's tan.

Under my semi-gruff exterior there is definitely a romantic and an optimist?
You should message me if
If you have character and can handle a character.

If you are mischievous, just plain curious or like to embrace the delicious trial and error of it all.

If you are lovely enough to change all my priorities in life.
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