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My self-summary
In a long term relationship with a partner who happens to be thousands of miles away for the summer. But I like sharing closeness with people, so I'm looking for that while my primary partner is away.

I get along very well with people who are technically minded (a physics math chemistry engineering type). People who want to fix problems.

I don't drink, and derive more enjoyment from hanging with people who do same, but this is totally not a requirement. I also have great times with ravers.

I like talking with people in technical, political, and philosophical realms. Let's talk about books you've read on queer theory, or economics, or non-pop-sci science.

I'm in favor of discarding traditions in favor of less limitations and restrictions.

I like riding bikes at night.

I like playing games of the board and card varieties.

I'm a touchy feely cuddle-type.

I am inquisitive, bodacious, and happy-go-lucky

I am also vegan, feminist, and intolerant of mysticism.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a tutor. I teach people how to think more clearly. I love watching people's faces as they dunk their head in the bucket of revelation.

The best thing about it is that revelations tend to come in waves.

I also work on learning new things, whether I can tutor them or not. Lemme know if there's anything out there you wanna help me learn.

I'm doing stuff. I'm going to the bouldering gym or going backpacking or hiking or contra dancing. Take me someplace, tell me an idea of what you want to do.

Point is, help me make every day an adventure with many things to learn.

Also I don't drink or do drugs. It's fine if you do, but it's extra points if you don't.
I’m really good at
I like to help clarify things in life. I like the fluidity of choosing when exhibit my rational side, but I also enjoy nonsense. I feel like I'm good at finding a comfortable spot to be at and letting my mood fit a spot on the aforementioned spectrum.

I feel like I have a reliably good temperament. When thing turn bad all around me (not common), my response involves figuring out a reasonable course of action and working towards ameliorating the situation.

I strive to be a clear communicator, and am working on my brevity.

I strongly seek people who can help me become more than I currently am; those who can offer insights and help me expand.

I do outdoor things occasionally, and have done more than 40 hours of each of the following: skiing, skating, biking, rock climbing, fixing bikes, hiking, kayaking, and canoeing. I tend to catch on quick to new activities.
The first things people usually notice about me
I get a lot of confused looks at first. I don't like rules I find unimportant. I do like openness, communication, and trust.

I'm pun friendly.

I am a touch slut and a cuddle bear. I like hugs and head rubs and the like. It's really exciting to be cuddly with new people. It's really comforting to be cuddly with friends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A friend once told me "the purpose of art is to shed light the human plight." But from my interpretation of this, I feel like some pretty technical books meet the art requirements. Anyways, here's some buzzword soup:

Kafka, Daniel Kahneman, Steven Pinker, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality, A People's History of the United States, Noam Chomsky, Naomi Klein, Nonviolent Communication.

These probably fit the definition of art much less, yet I still found meaning in these author and works:
Philip K Dick, Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell, Asimov's Foundation Trilogy, Neal Stephenson, Jonathan Safran Foer.

When I watch movies (not often) or TV (a rarity), I most look for new ideas and connections between ideas. Miyazaki's The Wind Rises fit me, likewise the TV show Black Mirror.

I am not interested in most movies labelled "comedy", or any TV show with a laugh track.
The six things I could never do without
- Understanding intent versus literalness
- Other great minds around me
- Learning more, from you, from books, and from my mistakes
- A smile that says, 'I see what you did there'
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A sample of things I think about might be:
gender issues, societal roles, veganism, physics, philosophy, math, language, function of governance and government, finding meaning without creating artificial meaning, food, how to bias my wording on OkCupid such that I automatically deal with the Dunning Kruger Effect.

I'm interested in all manner of life's puzzling questions, and can sometimes find answers.

What generic systems of thought let people find self-consistent truth without being stuck in logical fallacy? How can we help ourselves and one another escape our fallacies?

How to beat people in board games.

Below isn't something i think on often, but it's interesting and also the kind of thing I'd like people to show me if they come across. Here are the sounds of the Southern Ocean. I think they're glorious.
On a typical Friday night I am
Boring question. New question:
What's your favorite piece of internet?

Long term favorites have been
Tim Minchin's Storm 10 mins
The Greatest Speech Ever Made 3.5 mins
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My phone has about 3 days of audiobooks/podcasts on it and about an hour of music.
You should message me if
- You're searching for someone to spend some time with.
- You can't stop thinking.
- You think you know how I might improve myself.
- You want to become better at thinking, and might be able to teach me how to do so too.
- You fulfill some part of my ideal partner list at the top.
- You wanna take me to a secret hideout, be it on a picnic under a bridge or the top of the tallest building in the city.