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30 El Cerrito, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 6
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, and it matters a lot
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Italian (Poorly), LISP (Okay), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Seemingly simple on the outside, I'm frequently listening and observing rather than talking. Once you get to know me a bit more you'll know that I love to talk and share things. I'm pretty intense under the surface, but hey, life is just intense anyways!

I absolutely love what I do (see below), and I generally enjoy being happy with simplicity, even though life is rarely as simple as it seems.

If I described myself in three words (and an alliteration) they would be: caring, curious, and compassionate.

By the Myers-Briggs personality type: INFP
(I can resemble an extrovert on the outside, but its a learned trait)

By two random internet surveys I either belong in Portland or France, but I like the East Bay just fine, it's home.

Some great Scorpio traits (they describe me well):
A Scorpio can offer you...
... stimulating and riveting activities
... emotional connection and dependability
... promises they intend to keep
... loyalty and a select few friends you'll be able to count on
... investigative help and insightful advice and tips

Sounds good? Read on!
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a musician, I play bass in an active indie rock band with the guys in my pictures. I go to live shows, open mics, or house parties with creative people. I am also a web developer. I used to work home, that was pretty sweet for about 5 years. Now I'm working at a company, and I really appreciate all the time I had for things during the week before.

I like getting out in the fresh air, away from computers and such on my time off. Getting exercise is great which includes pick-up ultimate frisbee, yoga. Not doing as much of those now, but biking to and from work does add up.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to people. Talking to people. Enjoying and creating music. Being loyal to friends. Other stuff too I suppose.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think this depends entirely on the person, but just guessing, I'd go with hair or eyes. Or that I'm the one playing bass.

I'm Italian and Irish, so by my looks people guess I'm Jewish, or Middle-Eastern. I recently heard there may very well be some Jewish in my ancestry as well, unconfirmed, but I guess that may explain why people tend to guess that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I just keep realizing how important having consistently good food and exercise is the best thing for health and happiness. I like all different types of cuisine. Home cooked food is really great, and I like to make things myself if the time permits. Unfortunately cooking meals at home for one is just kind of a drag too, much better when you have someone else to cook for / with. I think cooking a meal together in the kitchen at home is a really romantic way to spend an evening.

As far as how I play, I have plenty of influences of the infamous 90's grunge era, and also the rock/metal artists, and what they were doing at that time (the late -90's and early 2000's). RHCP, RATM, Green Day, STP, Marcy Playgrounds (they had other good songs besides Sex & Candy too!! I'll know you read this if you can name drop another song by them), Primus, Metallica, the list goes on.

Listening to music, I have very eclectic tastes, including all of the above plus jazz greats, funk, dub/reggae, conscious hip-hop, bluegrass, indie, folk (talented singer-songwriters), classic rock, new-age (meditation music is great when I'm working), experimental, electronic, and things that span 2, 3, or even more of these genres!

Here and there, whenever something really good catches my eye I pick it up and read it on the train. Not novels, usually stuff about psychology or health.

Movies / Shows:
I don't have TV service at the house and I like it that way. Have DVD player though, will cuddle. :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
keys, wallet, phone (Just the essentials when leaving the house).

Other than that, my instrument, real friends (the ones you see in person, not just on FB!), and oh yea, amazing food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music occupies my mind a lot, and pretty much everything that I come across I think about deeply.

How am I supposed to fit the rest of my life into 2 days on the weekend?? Nonsense!

If your screen name is a song title, I'm singing it immediately.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing a show, or going to a show are two very likely possibilities. Fridays are usually low-energy though, cause the week is rough. Lets do something Saturday! :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm open to sharing and talking about anything, but my personality and what makes me shine is under the surface.

My gifts are shared with those I care for, trust, and those who show a genuine interest.
You should message me if
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If we match in the 90's (or even the high 80's) its probably a good idea. ;)

Ladies, trust me I do know what your inbox looks like. I'm sorry that you get flooded with all kinds of 'interesting' messages, and truthfully it sucks cause it makes it hard for guys who arent gaming or complete idiots to get through. I promise I don't copy-paste messages, and I'm really just interested in talking just enough to see if meeting in person is a good idea.

I've met some really awesome people in my life, and a lot of folks who are just kinda ok. I must say I'm looking for someone who belongs in the former category to spend my time with. Mostly what it takes is being true to yourself, the ability to be really present in the day-to-day moments, and being respectful and considerate of other people. I do look forward to meeting some more of you truly awesome types!

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