·How to enjoy life while living simply.
·How to make the world a better place for future generations.
·How all the diverse people on this planet to live together in
peace, harmony and mutual respect.
·Free will vs. determinism.
·Will I ever find a place to call home?
Throughout my life, I have struggled with monogamy and recently
have come to terms with my polyamorous nature. I seek a partner who
is open, understanding and accepting of polyamory
, preferably a woman who is
polyamorous herself. I reject the traditional family root and
Relationships, sexual and otherwise are on my mind. "Single" is not
the best descriptor of my current relationship situation, but it is
more apt than any of the alternatives offered. I live alone, am not
married, and spend almost every night in bed with only myself. I
believe in commitment
and honor my promises.
Please accept that as one gets older, commitments are cumulative.
If you are patient I will explain the situation and see open,
honest communication as important for any relationship.
I think of the two women to whom I am already committed.
One is the best friend forever, ariadne_west
. She lives in Upstate
NY and cannot relocate. It is not an ideal situation, but I love
her, I will always love her and cannot betray her. She understands
and accepts I'm poly and our relationship is anything but
The other is my soulmate. We've known each other a passionate
twenty years and remain in close contact even though she lives in
. She says she knows me from previous lives and knows
me better than I know myself. To her I will be connected in this
life and if she is correct, on into the next and through
I think a lot about the sustainability of our population both on a
global and personal level. There are far too many people on the
planet and it would be hypocritical for me to breed. I am childless
by choice and am not interested in becoming a father. You would
have to be very persuasive to convince me otherwise. That said, I
am open to a relationship with a woman who has children, including
ones who still live with her. I am open to different types of
family dynamics and at this stage in my life I might find benefit
in a co-parenting role to see what I might have missed. I can
mentor, teach, and be a role model. However, I am not interested in
being a father—biological or surrogate—with whatever that might
Family structures are something I think about. I notice that lots
of people put down 'family' as something that they could never do
without or that is important in their lives. If you are one of
those, then it is unlikely we will have common ground to find a
relationship. Family is something that has kept me down and held me
back. I've got to escape this cold, hard and lonely place. I know
that if I do I leave my family and the land where I was raised
behind. In doing so, I know I will pay a heavy price.
My politics are progressive but I grew up in a very conservative
and patriotic family that highly values military service. When I
chose to serve the land I dearly love in a way other than by
enlisting I paid a heavy price with my family. Still think I think
it was the right thing to do. I respect those who do choose to
enlist, and spending my formative years on military bases gives me
a perspective of what it is like to serve in the military. Maybe
not first-hand, but close second-hand. By channeling my energy
towards peace rather than war, I think I've accomplished more.
While I respect and tolerate differences, I would find it very
difficult to be in a relationship with someone who does not share
my key progressive values.
Being exposed to the military wasn't all bad. It helped me to
understand how transient life can be. I also learned at an early
age not to get too attached to any one place. A military upbringing
taught me discipline and how to work with others. As a student of
war, I value peace all that much more.
My experience with my family and social pressure to conform make me
wonder about free will and if it really exists. While I reject
predestination, I think that we have the illusion of choice and
that there is no free will either. What exists in reality is
something in between, a constrained choice—if you will—where we
can't always do what we want, but are responsible for what we
choose even if we don't want it.
On the West Coast I grew vegetables all year round. On my family's
farm I had more land that I could handle. I want to start a garden
here, but I need to find some land and that some work.