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  • Ages 18–99
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Last online
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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Portuguese (Poorly), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Intense, confident, dedicated, sincere, complex, hardworking, educated, successful professional. Tall, dark, and handsome, with deep brown eyes that turn green when I'm in a lighter mood and brown hair that is turning a distinguished gray. Fit and outdoorsy with a dry, ironic sense of humor.

Yo soy un hombre sincero, intelligente, intenso y trabajando muy fuerte. Mis cosas favoritas esta mis jardin y andar en bicicleta.

Sono un professionale chi è intenso, coscienzioso, sincero, complesso, intelligente, lavoratore trice e riuscito. Alto 1.83m, in forma adatto, con occhi bruno e pello diventaro grigio. Mio umorosismo es ironico. Mi piace giardino e guidare la mia bicicletta. Non allo stesso tempo.

Eu sou um profissional quem é intelligente, intenso e complexo. O meu trabalho é proteger meio ambiente.
What I’m doing with my life
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My life is dedicated to help people live in an environmentally responsible way. Along the way I want to experience life to the fullest. Living simply as if each day were my last, without regret.

I enjoy the finer things of life, which to me does not mean extravagance but rather appreciation and respect. I stay fit by bicycling, gardening, hiking, camping and yoga. I also like to ski (nordic) when I have the chance. I am a life-long learner and make it a point to do new things and go places I've never been before.

When you read this, please understand my location is flexible. It is important for me to get out of my comfort zone every now and then to appreciate more what I have. Recently I took up an opportunity to move to Switzerland, where my work was more valued and better understood. I've grown tremendously from the experience, but also know now from experience that this is not my home. I've also lived in Italy and have spent a considerable amount of time in Germany. While I love Europe and lived there for a total of four years of my life, America is where I belong right now.

If there is a place in the world I feel is home, it is Eugene, Oregon. If you live in the Pacific Northwest then I am more likely to meet you than if you live anywhere within 8,000 km of my current location. While my journey is far from complete, when I feel like my work is done I will return to Eugene.

I still have ties to my family's farm in Upstate New York and my future involvement in its operation remains a work in progress. I will be spending significant time in New York this summer and for the foreseeable future. The challenge has been a healing experience that will leave the planet a better place than when I found it.

I'm not quite yet ready to retire. Right now I have the luxury of time and means to travel and explore situations, which means that I will be changing my location frequently for the foreseeable future. That means the place listed on my OKC profile might not be where I am at that particular moment. If you read this and think I am not 'near you' then don't take my location too seriously. I could end up anywhere that the situation seems right.
I’m really good at
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Growing organic food and other things. Traveling, getting lost, and getting found again. Remembering really trivial things and forgetting some things that seem pretty important, at least at the time. Laughing at myself and getting people to laugh with me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People who meet me tell me that I have a certain intensity—some say 'aura' and others use the word 'energy'—that some find attractive and others find intimidating. First impressions with me are seldom neutral.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A lot of my reading is work-related, covering food, agriculture, globalization and restructuring the economy. Michael Pollan, Wendell Berry and Paul Hawken are among the most influential and accessible authors I favor. When I read things that are not work-related, I enjoy novels that describe other cultures and exotic places. The last great novel I read was David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. I am also reading more books about writing, about the nature of being, and about ecology, biodiversity and sustainability in general. Thomas Piketty's Capitalism in the 21st Century has greatly influenced my view on the on-going and seemingly permanent economic crisis. Subsequent to that, I have read a half-dozen books on the global financial crisis from a range of perspectives, and think that a restructuring of the economy is needed to have a stable, sustainable recovery.

The most important thing about a movie is the story. With books and movies both, I don't need a happy ending. The best actors and all the special effects in the world can't save a weak screenplay. The plot has to be interesting and the dialog realistic. My favorite genres are film noir, spaghetti westerns, and avant garde. Then there are some times when I just want to have a good laugh. I'm not afraid of documentaries or foreign films, but I don't have the patience to sit through plotless crappy fluff. See my journal for more on my opinions about films, if you are interested.

My tastes in music are wide-ranging. On most occasions, mainly for background music, I listen to ambient, jazz and trance. Lately, I've been on a folk kick, and listen to a lot of roots music. I grew up hearing Garage, Psychedelic, Punk and Heavy Metal. When I'm feeling nostalgic, I'll put on Jefferson Airplane, the Ramones, Led Zeppelin or one of the Nuggets collections. As for the Beatles, I'm a John fan all the way. I'm still open to all kinds of music and listening to something new.

I also like to move to the beat and dance. Whether at the Drum Tower at the Oregon Country Fair, bouncing on the floor at the WOW Hall to World Beat, contra dancing to good old country, Celtic or folk, doing the samba to Antonio Carlos Jobim, or doing West Coast Swing to Old School Soul and Funk all works for me.

I appreciate Trance, ambient sounds like Eno, Enigma, Stereolab, and B-Tribe. I fondly remember the Pacific Northwest Grunge / Indy scene and feel privileged that I was able to be a part of that scene in the '90s. When I lived in Eugene I would regularly enjoy local acts like the Sugar Beets, the Ovulators, and Laura Kemp.

I'm a vegetarian and love to cook, using fresh ingredients that I grow myself. Since moving back East, I've had to deal with more animal products in my diet. I enjoy a wide range of cuisines--Mediterranean, South Asian, and Northwest Fusion are my favorites, but I am always up for new tastes. Cooking unleashes my creative side. Simple dishes prepared from scratch with high quality ingredients can be most satisfying.
The six things I could never do without
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Life requires more than mere survival. Health, the beauty of nature, meaningful work, organic food that I've grown myself, curiosity, and new ideas all make life worthwhile. As The Man takes my life away from me, I am left with fewer options.

If we find ourselves together at the end of the road, I can do without everything, except you.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
·How to enjoy life while living simply.

·How to make the world a better place for future generations.

·How all the diverse people on this planet to live together in peace, harmony and mutual respect.

·Free will vs. determinism.

·Will I ever find a place to call home?

Throughout my life, I have struggled with monogamy and recently have come to terms with my polyamorous nature. I seek a partner who is open, understanding and accepting of polyamory, preferably a woman who is polyamorous herself. I reject the traditional family root and branch.

Relationships, sexual and otherwise are on my mind. "Single" is not the best descriptor of my current relationship situation, but it is more apt than any of the alternatives offered. I live alone, am not married, and spend almost every night in bed with only myself. I believe in commitment and honor my promises. Please accept that as one gets older, commitments are cumulative. If you are patient I will explain the situation and see open, honest communication as important for any relationship.

I think of the two women to whom I am already committed.
One is the best friend forever, ariadne_west. She lives in Upstate NY and cannot relocate. It is not an ideal situation, but I love her, I will always love her and cannot betray her. She understands and accepts I'm poly and our relationship is anything but conventional.

The other is my soulmate. We've known each other a passionate twenty years and remain in close contact even though she lives in Northern California. She says she knows me from previous lives and knows me better than I know myself. To her I will be connected in this life and if she is correct, on into the next and through eternity.

I think a lot about the sustainability of our population both on a global and personal level. There are far too many people on the planet and it would be hypocritical for me to breed. I am childless by choice and am not interested in becoming a father. You would have to be very persuasive to convince me otherwise. That said, I am open to a relationship with a woman who has children, including ones who still live with her. I am open to different types of family dynamics and at this stage in my life I might find benefit in a co-parenting role to see what I might have missed. I can mentor, teach, and be a role model. However, I am not interested in being a father—biological or surrogate—with whatever that might entail.

Family structures are something I think about. I notice that lots of people put down 'family' as something that they could never do without or that is important in their lives. If you are one of those, then it is unlikely we will have common ground to find a relationship. Family is something that has kept me down and held me back. I've got to escape this cold, hard and lonely place. I know that if I do I leave my family and the land where I was raised behind. In doing so, I know I will pay a heavy price.

My politics are progressive but I grew up in a very conservative and patriotic family that highly values military service. When I chose to serve the land I dearly love in a way other than by enlisting I paid a heavy price with my family. Still think I think it was the right thing to do. I respect those who do choose to enlist, and spending my formative years on military bases gives me a perspective of what it is like to serve in the military. Maybe not first-hand, but close second-hand. By channeling my energy towards peace rather than war, I think I've accomplished more. While I respect and tolerate differences, I would find it very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who does not share my key progressive values.

Being exposed to the military wasn't all bad. It helped me to understand how transient life can be. I also learned at an early age not to get too attached to any one place. A military upbringing taught me discipline and how to work with others. As a student of war, I value peace all that much more.

My experience with my family and social pressure to conform make me wonder about free will and if it really exists. While I reject predestination, I think that we have the illusion of choice and that there is no free will either. What exists in reality is something in between, a constrained choice—if you will—where we can't always do what we want, but are responsible for what we choose even if we don't want it.

On the West Coast I grew vegetables all year round. On my family's farm I had more land that I could handle. I want to start a garden here, but I need to find some land and that some work.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I didn't realize that this was a trick question until I stumbled on the profile of the person who wrote it.
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You share common values with me and wish to share witty conversation and companionship with an experienced man of the world.