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22 Seattle, WA Man, Gender Nonconforming

Man, Gender Nonconforming

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 23
Queer, Pansexual
Black, Indian, White
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Hey ya'll, my name's Bryant. He/his pronouns work for me. No longer living in Tacoma, but I do visit regularly for all you Tacoma folks out there! Fine with talking with folks located outside of WA.

This site has been really good at introducing me to some of the closest friends I have today, and I'm hoping I'll have the same luck :).

For the folks interested in dating: If you're NOT expecting Mr. Suave, you got your guy :p. I'm pretty awkward when it comes to romance and tend to not take it too seriously. Down the line, you'll find someone who loves sharing ideas and doing things out of the blue. A good blend of lightheartedness, discussing emotions, and bluntness tends to come with the territory, but it'll be worth it :D.

I switch between ENFP and ESFP if that matters :p. I'm usually so bogged down by theory that I can barely consider its application. I prefer doing solitary activities (like reading and writing) in public than alone. I am more relationship orientated than focused on principle and logic. I thrive on spontaneity and openness and feel constrained by order and control.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've graduated college! So now I'm just figuring things out. I got plenty of ideas of where I want to go, so now it's just putting them into action!

Currently work as a Program Specialist at a community college and a homeless shelter in downtown Tacoma.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing stories and poems, telling stories, living in the moment, finding entertainment in life's misfortunes.

My way of giving and receiving love is Quality Time (Check out the 5 Love Languages for those who are interested)! I'm really good at giving my undivided attention to the people I'm closest with and LOVE to receive the same :). I've always been the type to enjoy the journey more than the destination. "Who cares about Disney Land, we had a great road trip!"
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically: My height. I tower over everyone :S lol.

Personality-wise: It depends on the day and who I'm with. Some notice that I'm a very sociable and loud person. Some view me as really intense and quiet. Some notice that I'm femme and I have no qualms showing it!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a nerd for books by Queer, trans*, and women of color, fiction and theory books being my main interests. (This is how I know I'm more of an N than a S for you Myers Briggs folks out there xD). Fav books: What Night Brings by Carla Trujillo, Linden Hills by Gloria Naylor, Redefining Realness by Janet Mock, Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver, Push by Sapphire, Another Country by James Baldwin (I would recommend this one in particular a million times over)

Tbh, I don't really watch movies or TV. These are my fav movies: Black Swan, Skin, Dreamgirls, A League of Their Own, Selena, Chicago (can you tell I like musicals ;) )?
Watching bad movies and making fun of them has always been a fav activity haha. I've probably seen Showgirls way more than the avg. person.

Most of my favorite shows were produced before 2001. Don't judge me! True crime shows, 90's black sitcoms, old school cartoons, and reality television to an extent lol. I'm very slow to watching a new series.

Top 4 Songs
1. Go Deep by Janet Jackson
2. Diary by Alicia Keys
3. Sky's the Limit by Notorious B.I.G.
4. Rain on Me Tamia

Like my fav shows, my favorite music was produced from 1990 to 2005. I've definitely been trying to expand my musical interests. Soul & R&B is, and always will be, my fav genre: I love love love Tamia. You are my soul mate if you love her too ^__^. Alexander O'neil (Love the 80s), but i also like Old School and Underground Hip Hop and some pop and rock. I discovered that Funk has been a hidden gem that I've learned to love after countless car trips with my parents. Smooth Jazz has been a very good relaxer from time to time. I've played hard rock occasionally and I despise most mainstream music (hence why I'm stuck in the past!). Rebecca Black is probably in the top ten haha. Ask me why XD.

Fav food: I'll eat anything and will most likely enjoy it, but I gotta say, seafood is the greatest =D!!! Also Indian food :P.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Relationships: I wouldn't be the person I am without all the people in my life. And they all challenge me to be a better me.
Music: A great comfort for me. Just a warning, but I replay songs ALOT.
Books: I read everyday ya'll. No joke. I'll probably make a facebook post about my next reading.
Humor: I'm the most comfortable with people I can laugh with XD.
Daydreaming: I could spend a grip of time staring in the distance, staring at the ceiling, at a special someone ;D lol, and I might be thinkin something completely random. I have very interesting thoughts that play out like movies in my head: It beats T.V.!
Love: This doesn't necessarily have to pertain to romantic love. Love of friends and fam are my life force!

What didn't make the cut:
Video games: ...I need something to occupy my time during breaks haha. Plus, I do bond well with people I can game with, whether they are a beginner or not :p.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what I should write next, my feelings lol, state of affairs, race, gender, and queer stuff, community, relationships, practical methods of transformation, and how can I be my best for the people around me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
inside lol. I just got off work. I'll occasionally want to go out, but sometimes making a cocktail, playing video games, and having good conversation is exactly what I need.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been known to run into doors in dark well as falling on stairs in two story houses. Ehh, best I could think of ;P. Maybe you should ask me something you wanna know...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You'd like to take the risk! I will message just about anyone. If there's anything I've learned to do from going through college is to allow connections to happen and to let relationships flow. I'm not about to purposefully prevent a potential connection from happening with another person UNLESS I have good reason to. So let's BOTH be brave.