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bdongray

44 M Fremont, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–57
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 27
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Firstly, you'll see I'm married, however my wife and I are in an open marriage, and before you say "yeah... all guys say that" go see her profile nubiantigress69 where she confirms this.

I am often told I am intelligent (but I am not elitist about it), enjoy music, walks or more likely cycling, watching movies and DVD. I believe I'm optimistic, creative, and good at conversation, sometimes deep (as in philosophically), but it doesn't have to be.

While the calendar claims my age is some number, everyone says I'm more like a 30-something, including a recent trip to a doctor who did a full body assessment and calculated me as having the body of a 31-34 year old.
Wii Fit usually says I'm in my late 20s! LOL

I love to laugh and have been told I have a great smile.

Coming from England, I still have a British accent.

I am fun-loving, innovative, and can (and like to) talk about many topics. So if you enjoy a good conversation, that'd be great!
What I’m doing with my life
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Moved to the Bay area in 2006, having lived in Minneapolis for 11 years.

I work with computers and networks, but work is work, and I'm sure it'd be pretty boring to talk to most people about (outside of the office).

I like to do fun things although they're probably not typical male activities, I enjoyed a solar eclipse a couple of years back, it was fun at ComicCon (I loved wearing costumes - and seeing everyone else's), and I do like improv, karaoke, and musicals.

I enjoy cycling too, for recreation, not for racing, BMX, or whatever, just to relax and stay reasonably fit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I enjoy photography, but I've yet to get a proper set (eg backdrops, flashes, props), but I'm told I do very good shots.

I feel I can fix most things around the house.

Most things to do with a computer (not that into games though), playing music (with practice), I have a high end (studio quality) keyboard, and a couple of acoustic guitars!

People tell me I'm good at singing, which I'll have to agree to when people have even requested me to sing a song of their choice at karaoke bars! But when I hear myself ... ugh, I hear all my flaws!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile, my eyes, my British accent.
Yes I've been in the USA for years and haven't lost the accent. People always notice it. And they tell me not to lose it as the ladies like it. Well... feel free to enjoy it too!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books are the "Hitchhikers Guide To The Galaxy" series, however much of my reading is more about watching YouTube videos on philosophical concepts, positive inspiration, news, or just fun.

Favorite movies are "Contact", "Matrix" series, and "Bill and Ted" - LOL. But it's really simply SciFi.
On TV I enjoy comedy "Big Bang Theory", "Tosh.0", or shows such as "Person Of Interest", old "Star Trek" and if they're on "M*A*S*H" (which seems to be rare now). I like documentaries such as "Through The Wormhole" and "Cosmos".

I like most music, as long as it's not discordant, and no "unintelligible shouting" for lyrics. My playlist is typically on random of my favorite 800-ish songs of all genres. I love clever lyrics, especially if they broaden my perspective on life, so I enjoy many artists.

On food, I love anything strawberry, and eat tons of fruit daily.
For me chocolate is a treat, love it! But I know it's not exactly healthy, so it's less often. Maybe that makes it all that nicer next time! Same is true for ice cream - especially mint!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Never is such a strong word, I can do without many things I like, but technically I cannot do without eating, drinking, breathing, keeping warm (while not too hot). I feel given the right location, I could do without shelter, but they tell us that we can't.

However, in the spirit of what I think they're really asking, what I would miss if I went away, is my eyesight, the Internet including email, music, conversation, human contact, finally, openness & honesty (which I'll count as one item).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Being a nice, positive, and helpful person. Family. Scientific concepts, meaning of life, the universe and everything. And if there's an event, party, or Halloween, then what I'll wear for a costume.

Frequently it used to be building something for Burningman but after going for 8 years straight, that's dwindled away mainly due to the organization, people's camps drama, it seems to be losing it's novelty, as well as everything else in my life needs higher priority than a weeks camping in the desert.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, I don't end up going out that much, as most people want to go to noisy places (eg clubs, bars, etc), but I like conversation and a noisy place is no good to have a good chat. Recently it was suggested there are lounge bars (or clubs), but I've yet to find one. If you know of one... tell me! Thanks.

However, I do enjoy a Karaoke bar, and especially enjoy singing (although that's not usually a Friday).

On the topic of loud music vs conversation, I have noticed when some people have a party, it is common that the music is cranked up, which means conversation is (again) difficult. When I have a party, I enjoy to chat, but I don't want silence, so the music is BACKGROUND. However, I will admit to needing to turn the music down when someone else gets in my car.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why would I want to give it away publicly?
And put it on the Internet!
Talk to me, I'm pretty open.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you smile, like conversation (and I don't mean gossip about the latest reality TV show), and have a profile photo (that is actually you).

You're cool about the poly lifestyle, me being in an open relationship, or whatever name you attribute to it.

I do like curves, but that is (of course) way too subjective, what one person thinks is thin (or not), another will disagree, and everyone curves differently. But all I know I'm not guided by the mainstream media's idea of "an ideal person".