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57 M Croton-on-Hudson, NY

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
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Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from masters program
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Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I'm an island of stability in a seeming world of chaos. Interested in many things, you'll find a wide variety of books in my library. As you might guess, I have a natural curiosity about the world we live in. Of course, this means that I can converse about many topics - and tie seemingly unrelated things together.

Being widowed has given me a new perspective on life, giving me an appreciation for the "now" - a chance to "smell the roses". I've started to travel within the USA, and have built a "bucket list" of places I want to see and things I'd like to do (with someone special). Hopefully, I'll be able to check off as many things as possible from this list which includes the following regions/areas/sites/cities:

1. Great Britain and Ireland
2. Germany and Scandinavia
3. Australia and New Zealand
4. Patagonia (Argentina and Chile)
5. Hawaii (all islands)
6. Hong Kong, Bejing, and the Great Wall.
7. The Galapagos Islands
8. California (with a road trip from SD to SF on the PCH)
(I love the region, and recharge my batteries there.)
10. The Pacific Northwest (Washington & Oregon).
11. Yellowstone National Park.
12. The Grand Canyon

Most of all, I'm a person who tries to take a positive view of life - even when the world is crashing down around me. No, I am not a Pollyanna - I am a realist. It is this general faith that things are not terminal that helps me make it through the day.

ps: If you like what you see, don't wait for me to write you.
I don't bite --- but if you'd like, I'll nibble. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Commuting to a location in Lower Manhattan for a career that I hope to extend until retirement. A byproduct of being in NYC is that I can enjoy all of the cultural things that only NYC has to offer, as well as meeting people in reach of our mass transit systems.

I'm also catching up on pleasure reading that I put off while studying for my degree. Besides that, I'm meeting with new people, seeing new places, taking part in new activities in order to keep growing as a person.
I’m really good at
Moderately obscure trivia and solving problems. (This comes in handy when playing Scrabble, as I do know a three letter word for the cross between a Yak and a Musk Ox.)

I am a information sponge. And I tend to use this trait effectively, as it has been a great help for me in my career. Having both breadth and depth of knowledge allows me to come up with ideas which are keys to solving important problems on the job - and allows me to more easily deal with problems that pop up in life.
The first things people usually notice about me
Actually, I'm not really sure about this one....

Yet - if one gets to know me a little, one will find that I have a big laugh when genuinely amused. I find a lot in life which will bring a smile to my face....

And I shouldn't say this being a New Yorker --- But sometimes, on rare occasions, I will pay attention to the Walk/Don't Walk lights that NYC erects to test our innate jaywalking skills. :-)

If you haven't guessed - I have an unusual sense of humor....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Any Mickey Spillane "Mike Hammer" novel
and "Harpo Speaks". (I wish I could have met
both Mickey Spillane and Harpo Marx.)

Plays: (Off Broadway) Freud's Last Session and Million Dollar Quartet. (Broadway) Chicago and revivals of The Man Who Came to Dinner, Boeing Boeing, and Don't Dress for Dinner. Recently, I saw "Old Jews Telling Jokes", and it was a hoot.

Movies (in no order): A Hard Day's Night, A Night at the Opera, A Day at the Races, Duck Soup, Casablanca, The Left Hand of God, Champagne for Caesar, My Man Godfrey, The Great Dictator, The Godfather (parts I & II), How the West was Won, Once Upon a Time in the West, The Americanization of Emily, and The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly. (I love old films - both drama and comedy.)

Music: The Beatles, Sam Cooke, Willie Nelson, Patsy Cline, and Frank Sinatra. (I could listen to them all day!)

Food: Sushi, Peking Duck, Chicken Cordon Bleu, Dim Sum, Crawfish and Sauerbraten. (Call me anything, except late for dinner!)

Need I say more here? Except, to say that I went out of my way to have Peking Duck on the last day of a San Francisco vacation.
The six things I could never do without
1. Smartphone
2. Computer(s)
3. Car
4. Books
5. TV/DVD-BluRay
6. Friends and Family (Most Important)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Shoes and ships and sealing wax, of cabbages and kings....
On a typical Friday night I am
Enjoying dinner with a friend or two (if I'm lucky).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
If I were to admit it here, it wouldn't be private any longer.


I will tell you after we've gotten to know each other. I'll bet you a cup of coffee or a drink that you'll never guess what that secret could be!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 47–63
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're curious about enigmas, are looking for friendship and/or a love interest. (The best relationships seem to develop when two people are "best friends" first.... for lack of a better description)


Recently, I've found out how to have an OKC Journal. It seems like a good place to post some of the things going on lately. So if you're interested to find out what I've been doing, try this link....



How to start your own okc journal.

Today – 3:33pm

In response to How to start your own okc journal. by Non_Sequential:

Welcome to OkCupid.

As a newcomer you may not be aware of the okc journal community. This is because management has decided that it might distracting you from your dating quest. And while at times that assumption may be correct I think that becoming part of journal community will help get you through the often time frustrating world of online dating. At the very least, you will meet some good people with amazing stories to share, opinions to voice, and advice to give. And all for free.

The following steps will help you join in on the fun.


Download the "OKCLeft Menu" script created by okc member sharper00.

While you are there, you will also need to download his"Journal Expander" script. (note- in order to properly install either of these scripts on your computer, you must first install the greasemonkey extension.)

Go to the journal post of another member, like any of these by either SaneasIeverwas, Discovery80, gretagarbo9, Psychicman7, or praghmatic.

At the very bottom of all the comments you will see 4 little icons.

Click the one that looks like a pencil.

Then click on the green post button.

Finally, click where it says "Read it here"

Now you have a journal and a journal tab. Bad news though, when you click "View my profile" the tab won't be there anymore. Good thing you downloaded sharper00's "OKC Left Menu" script, because that is how you are going to access your journal.

Okay, some more bad news. :( That little green 'write a post' button, it won't work for you. Pressing it will just bring you to a screen, telling you that the journals are in retirement.Bullshit.

Remember when you re-blogged that other member's journal post? Well, re-blog it again but from within your own journal.

Now press the 'edit' button of the newly re-blogged post.

Fill in the title and body fields with you new journal post. Goon, tell us all about your new goldfish. Then press the 'update post' button.

Congratulations, you just posted your first original journal post. Now wasn't that fun?

Next, provide a link to your journal in your profile, so that other newcomers can find it. Because, sadly, when they view your profile, the journal tab will be missing.

**Also, if you don't mind. Re-blog this post and provide a link to it in your profile, so that those who follow after you can join the journal community.

See, it wasn't that hard after all. ;)

Have a blast.

And thanks to everyone who provided me with the tools, ideas,and inspiration necessary to put this all together. You're all terrific.

**NOTE: Don't just direct people to this post, re-blog it and direct them there. The more that people re-blog and link to it the better chance that the newcomers will have at finding it. Besides, I may not always be around and all you will have done is pointed them to a dead link.