I play baseball (hard ball, not soft ball—the real deal, on a real team), skateboard (still going since I was 10), and am a Scientific Writer by day for Merck Millipore. I like to make people laugh and am good at it. I am a liberal (tree hugger, anti-war, PETA member, animal rights advocate...) and being that is truly important to me. I am a busy guy and used to being very social, but I take frequent breaks from that—it’s essential to me to step back and regroup often. Some say that is unfriendly or lazy, but that’s really not my concern. I am an intelligent romantic. I love talking about literature, beauty, the world of ideas and how it's all expressed in art, society and the human condition. I prefer to see the world, to read the world's truths, poetically rather than literally or logically--I prefer to make deeper connections with things and people.
Life in general thrills me, there's a fundamental beauty to this world that I love. I am happy, I'm not trying to find that--I'm looking to share it. Every day and everyone I know is important to me. My art and writing reflect my empathic impulse towards people and animals--I will always root for Hope in any situation. I try to live my life this way, with respect for every living being and a reluctance to take anything wonderful for granted. There is an obvious irony that comes with living this way: I have little patience for people, attitudes and ideas that aren’t basically kind and generous—that’s when I square up and get tough. I fight the good fight.
I appreciate struggle and pain. My optimism doesn't prevent me from seeing the shittiness that's out there. I admire those who battle their demons, quietly or out loud. I wish those who struggle for good all the best.
Full disclosure: I am not looking for a traditional relationship. I am looking for friends who shares my interest in an open relationship that is based on further exploration of this world's beauty and love; I'm not interested in limiting that. I am totally new to the idea of polyamory--but that's where I am right now. I have been married and have had one serious relationship after my marriage. Honestly, "the One" is a beautiful notion, but I'd prefer more of a slow, romantic friendship. I do think it’s folly to assume that platonic friendships between women and men with working parts are very realistic, but It’s a wonderful and interesting mistake to make. I make it all the time.
I have fun with my life and I have irreverent, stupid fun. I am hilarious to be around and can have you laughing until you can't breathe. I live sarcastically, I love gallows humor. I'm not easily offended and hope you aren't either.
I am not cranky or bitter--this world is too special to be a bummer. I am a vegetarian for ethical reasons and I do not drink or do any drugs. However, I do not really advocate my lifestyle--that's your decision to make. I like to kick it, but I have grown a bit tired of the party/club scene. I prefer something more authentic and intimate.
While I don't drink, I am comfortable around drinking. I don't like a partner or a date who absolutely has to drink to have fun (or who drinks every night)--and caring for the night's drunk is not fun for me, and it’s really out of the question in less I’m in love with you.
I work hard at what I love to do. I am a published, working writer (music critic, hopeful novelist and short fiction writer) and visual artist (painter, picture maker) and I sell and show a good share of my works. I am a die-hard optimist, my cup is full even when things are bleak. My dreams are my plans.
Manners and politeness to others is big with me. I'm not up tight by any means, no way--but people who aren't kind to strangers won't work with me. For instance--if you are at a crowded club and someone is trying to walk through, make way for them--we've all been there. And tip your waiter/waitress.
No kids, but do have a nephew and a niece that I adore.
Who I'm looking for:
A kind, attractive, dreamer to share some un-structured, un-labled, soul expanding time with. Book smarts are not a must, a sense of humor and wit is. I'm in decent shape, I'm a bigger guy--but I'm strong and atheletic. As I mentioned, I am interested in unique relationships--not in traditional ones. Looks are important to me (just being honest,) but I don't have any set standard for beauty--other than neglect, neglect is unattractive. I love a partner who has strong interests and is comfortable with their hobbies and activities outside of a relationship. I'm not a jealous guy, and I am looking for someone who is comfortable with me having many friends and networking contacts.
I can do Hip Hop, I don't mind a little Country. I don't mind a bit of Religion and I love kids and pets. I'm funny and I'm smart--and I can do either or both better than most men.