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31 F London, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:04pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Disclaimer: Finding myself quite busy at the moment. I don't want to say flat-out don't message me though, because I like humans. I guess... don't expect too much, don't be offended if I don't reply fast or can't meet right away. Or if I've left our conversation lapse. I swear I'm getting to it.

Don't take anything I put here too seriously. Most of the time when I decide something about myself the opposite winds up being true eventually anyway.
I'm a musician. I mostly focus on contemporary classical music but I play around with lots of different things and I'm always looking for new ones. I like lots of kinds of art (in the broader sense of the term). I'm pretty active and I especially like running and cycling. I love to travel more than just about anything else, alone or with friends. I love early mornings a lot but I'm usually bad at them. I'm nostalgic and silly and laugh loudly. I'm kind of inarticulate but I try really hard. I adore animals. I'm fond of ledges, both as real things to sit on the edge of and look down at people while drinking tea or metaphorical things to leap off of.
Someone close to me has recently described me as passionate. Someone else close to me has observed that I am perhaps a little too controlled for my own good (but I'm working on that). Take from this what you like.
If asked, my friends and partners would probably tell you that being on the receiving end of my affections means a fair bit of lighthearted mischief and strangeness.

obligatory queer disclaimer: I'm way more into women than guys and my perfect label would really be homoflexible.
I fully admit to listing myself as bi only because messages from clueless straight dudes are really fucking entertaining and making good stories to tell my friends.

I'm poly/nonmonogamous and I care about doing it right. I adore my two totally amazing partners, ferneyhough and ShinyName and I'm feeling pretty full-up on committed, full-time Relationships for the time being. I am interested in pretty much anything else- in particular more casual-type dating or friends with whom I can enjoy sexy funs but obviously friends with whom I don't get naked are also awesome. I like people, and I like making connections and seeing where they take me.

While we're here, I may as well mention that being poly, people I sleep with need to be down with regular STI testing and be able to talk about it like adults.
What I’m doing with my life
Navigating all the strange little adventures that lie between stumbling off the plane in London a few years ago and becoming queen of the universe.

I've spent my whole teenage-to-adult life planning to be a professional freelancing classical(ish) musician but am now in the last few months finally getting too fed up with everything that goes with the career that isn't actually making music. Now looking into getting a 9-5 in arts admin and having fun doing music on my own terms. I could be annoyed at how much time and effort I spent working towards a career I'm now not taking but I'm really happy to be a bad-ass bass clarinet player and I've had a lot of fun, and I think I've got a lot more fun in store. First stop- going back to uni for a year, at least that's the plan at the moment. That won't start for a while though, trying to get some whatever job in the meantime.

I tend to measure my success in life with how often I find myself in weird and interesting situations that I could not have predicted the week/day/hour before. Also, it's an unofficial goal that at any point in time, me from 5 years earlier would be astounded and impressed to see what I'm doing now. I like to surprise myself and I'm generally pretty successful.
I’m really good at
terrifying question. I suppose music-y things of many kinds, for starters. Lesser but still perhaps notable skills include making food, knitting and wearing awesome boots. The latter often preferably in an equally-awesome combination of tights and skirt.

I appear to be a champion ikea pax wardrobe-assembler. I've had to assemble about 6 of them in the last year. I don't even need the instructions anymore.
The first things people usually notice about me
head covered in indigo fluff. that I am wearing an awesome T shirt. goofy (or sexy? according to some probably-not-entirely-objective sources) Canadian accent.
People often tell me I read as younger than I am. I am choosing to believe this is my youthful energy and charming good looks rather than any lack of emotional maturity (...)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: many! but especially anything by Murakami, Ann-Marie MacDonald and Sarah Waters. It is dangerous to give me a good novel, if I like it you may not see me until I have finished it.
Also, I am a huge Edward Gorey fangirl. I like to read him aloud to cats. If you let me I will probably read him aloud to you.

movies: I like lots of things but I tend to like in particular strange foreign films. I wish this didn't make me sound super pretentious, I'm promise I'm not. I just love me some surreal.

I don't watch much TV, but the stuff I do watch is pretty trashy. Whatevs.

food: I'm easy to please as long as it's vegan. I lovelovelove most kinds of Asian food though. And red wine. I'm a serious kale addict. Kale is magical green magnificence. Olives. Spicy. Tofu. I like to be fed by other people and seem to have a talent for making friends who like to feed me. I'm not a bad cook myself though.

*I'm almost completely still strictly vegan but I make a very few exceptions and if you care and want to know more I'm happy to talk about it.
Also, on the subject of veganism- if you're not vegan, that's entirely cool. Don't be a jerk about it and I won't be a jerk to you (I feel this is obvious, but I've had problems in the past). If we hang out and get food together, be willing to be patient while I figure out if I can eat somewhere or not. Ok? Good.

music: This question intimidates the hell out of me but I'm giving it a go. Among many, many others... Thelonious Monk. DeVotchKa. The Herbaliser. John Coltrane. Kronos Quartet. Zuco 103. Besh O Drom. The Beatles. Thomas Truax. Kimmo Pohjonen. Molly Lewis. Malcolm Arnold. That 1 Guy. Jorane. Mary Halvorson. Socalled. Septeto Rodriguez. Music my friends make. Music my friends and I make together. Dutch jazz. Live music I discover in playing in cafes when I just intended to go have a drink. "Experimental" music. Music I find in dusty corners of other peoples' CD libraries.
The six things I could never do without
- my bass clarinet.
- people to play music with.
- tea. I take tea far more seriously than your average person.
- my beautiful fat professional passive-noise-canceling headphones and something great to plug them into.
- long rides on trains or buses or my bike. or really, whatever else is available, as long as I'm moving.
- somewhere fun to escape to
I spend a lot of time thinking about
all the strange little interactions and connections between humans and reality and time and minds and desire and moments and coincidence and beauty and struggle and luck and and and.
also, probably sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
the boring answer is hitting the gym and trying to convince myself to go to bed at a decent hour so that I'm not totally dead at work early the next morning. I usually fail at the latter.

Assuming this question is actually asking what I like to do when I go out- usually hanging out with friends/partners in one of my favourite pubs or queer spaces. Sometimes (not often enough! hint hint) going to see some music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
this is probably a good place to mention that if I'm at all into you I'm usually (re: if you get me drunk enough, sometimes not, but also sometimes still yes) intensely bashful and awkward about any advances made or received until the ice has been broken. You're invited to find this cute, because there's not a damn thing I can do about it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 25–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
you want to be my friend.

you have something you want to show me or teach me.

I also enjoy random banter from pretty much anyone. tell me something.

Honestly, if your profile is too short or otherwise nondescript I probably won't bother writing back. There are a bazillion people on here. Be weird and stand out.

If I stalk you and I don't message you, it's not necessarily because I don't want to. I'm just tragically awful at first messages. I can also take insanely long to respond sometimes. Don't be offended if this happens.

I like messaging back and forth but I also like meeting face-to-face. I've had great success with okc both platonic and romantic, and I've found the best way to achieve either is to meet up without any expectations and see what happens. Although, don't let that stop you from specifying if you've really got one or the other in mind.