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36 F Vancouver, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:27am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
hello :)

i care about being with what is authentic in myself and others. i experiencing awe in nature. i love to cuddle. its important to me to contribute to thriving in our world while giving myself joy.

i combined architecture & social justice, then worked in minimalist architecture in nyc. i left to recover myself, study empathy & interpersonal neurobiology, travel & sculpt. now i'm considering humanitarian architecture again.

i see intimacy as a shared place we nourish through time - in joy/pain & physical proximity/ distance. i like to be met in verbal, physical, emotional resonance.

i'm interested in men who want monogamy & family while also nourishing our deep connections with others. i'm drawn to men who deeply care about people and create secure connections. i'm looking forward to finding my guy to be silly with, laugh with, understand/be understood by deeply, wake up next to, and love life with. :)
What I’m doing with my life
sculpture, empathy, interpersonal neurobiology.

integrating, letting go, creating space internally & externally.

communing with nature. immersing myself in beauty.

taking steps to make meaningful contributions in our world.

breathing deeply. cuddling. love. nurturing connections. creating.
I’m really good at
things i enjoy:
awe. presence. resonance.
holding and being held with warmth.
empathy. meaning. love.
cuddling. nurturing kids.
creativity. adventure.
purpose. connection.
The first things people usually notice about me
friends said:
"you are physically beautiful, deeply inquisitive, passionately authentic, and gender fluid."
"i first noticed your intensity... i had a sense from the start that there was a lot of energy beneath the surface in you."
"your 'you'ness... your playfulness -- your eyes!"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
food. juicing. organic. humane. dark choc. blueberries.
tv. colbert. stewart. snl.
movies. the holiday. my neighbor totoro. princess mononoke.
music. recently: the xx. astrud gilberto. purity ring.
fav games. scrabble. cards against humanity. tetris! dr. mario :)
enjoy in portland. kennedy pool soak. cuddle party. ecstatic dance.
books. the neurobiology of we. in a cradle of words. pablo neruda.
The six things I could never do without
six things i appreciate today:
understanding transparency responsibility intimacy connection love.
On a typical Friday night I am
this friday i sat overlooking the marsh and ocean with my mom chatting, made dinner, and watched seth meyers (which wasn't funny.) last fri night i hung out on the beach with a friend, got a fish taco, and rested after a 5 day workshop on polyvagal theory :) my friday nights do not include loud music, alcohol, bars, etc. i much prefer coziness, nature, connection, and hugs.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i grew up on/in/beside the atlantic ocean - the ocean is in me.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–44
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
any of these are true for you:

life and the beauty in & around us are sacred to you too.

you are a minimalist and enjoy having few things.

you co-nurture intimacy through presence and continuity... (looking for more than simply an oxytocin hit, although i like oxytocin too!)

you have faced and integrated trauma from your past. the more of this work we do - the more geography free for us to play in.

you like to communicate and you like to share stillness.

if some of the above are true and you'd like to do the following:
- go for a walk drinking something yummy and noticing together
- take a salsa or swing class
- soak in the kennedy school pool
- play scrabble or rummy someplace fun
- go paddle boarding together
- some other fun idea i haven't thought of