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36 F Portland, OR

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Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
east coast transplant :)
i'm here to find my bud to cuddle & enjoy life with.

i follow resonance where it takes me. i like to connect w/ the essence in nature and with people who try to understand themselves & each other. i explore expression, connection, touch & gender in photography. i enjoy bronze & aluminum sculpture & minimalism. i love my nieces & nephews. music, soaking, hot springs, saunas, cuddling, massage, and appreciating beauty all feel good to me.

i'm monogamous & poly-cuddly. i love empathy, gender fluidity, exploring mutual desires, honoring boundaries, and feeling safe to be quiet, silly, & playful together. i enjoy affection & terms of endearment if they arise naturally after connection, trust, safety, & mutual respect are established.

i'm interested in meeting men who want monogamous partnership & family, and are open to affection & emotional intimacy in community. questions i value: how have you healed past pain? how do you deal with internal & external conflict? who and what do you love?
What I’m doing with my life
discovering more and more of myself
I’m really good at
things i can do:
listening in nature.
minimalist design (architecture.)

first i did architecture work related to social justice but the aesthetic wasn't there. then i was a minimalist architect in nyc and got to work on beautiful stuff, but the connection to love and purpose wasn't there. the last couple years i've been studying interpersonal neurobiology and focusing on my creative expression. i love left/right hemisphere integration, the process of getting there, exploring secure attachment, and healing charged implicit memories. i am blown away by the power of empathy to heal trauma. i commit much time to exploring this and supporting others through empathy.
The first things people usually notice about me
asked friends, they said:
"what i know about you is that you are physically beautiful, deeply inquisitive, passionately authentic, and gender fluid."
"i first noticed your intensity... i had a sense from the start that there was a lot of energy beneath the surface in you."
"your 'you'ness... your playfulness -- your eyes!"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
best recent performance. alonzo king lines ballet, sf (amazing)
favorite video right now. girls chase boys.
food. juicing. organic. humane. dark choc.
tv. colbert. stewart. touch. voice.
movies. the holiday. my neighbor totoro. princess mononoke.
music. recently: the xx. astrud gilberto. j.mcmorrow. daft punk. i.michaelson.
fav games. scrabble. and suprisingly cards against humanity.
enjoy in portland. kennedy pool soak. cuddle party. ecstatic dance.
books. the neurobiology of we. in a cradle of words. pablo neruda. the master and his emissary.
The six things I could never do without
six things i appreciate today:
1. spring is coming through the buds and branches and all the spaces outside feel like lush rooms now...
2. the supportive presence in my life of those who love me.
3. making beauty with my hands
4. good driving music & having a car to take me where i want to go.
5. having space and time to get organized and create order
6. my mom
I spend a lot of time thinking about
internal process, personal growth, conscious relationship, compassionate communication. i enjoy being met in this place.
On a typical Friday night I am
maybe cuddle party or ecstatic dance. or home, cozy.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–40
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
are some of these true for you? you're committed to authenticity, nonviolence & growth. warm, empathic, loving, affectionate. love nature, leave this world better, want to nurture family.

i don't get drunk, smoke, or do drugs. i enjoy sharing this lifestyle.

if you want to write and don't know what to say, i'd love if you shared what made you laugh today!

ps - if you are sarcastic i probably won't get it. much easier for me to connect with sincerity.