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bellaphant

40 F Saint Petersburg, FL

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 21–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:06am
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I generally try to follow this motto: Think deeply, speak gently, love much, laugh a lot, work hard, give freely, and be kind.
(Don't get me wrong, I love a good argument. But I strive to be assertive and speak my mind without offending and alienating my audience. Am I always successful at this? Not even close.)

My mother says I am the most misunderstood person she knows. Need to ask her more about what exactly she means by that.

Someone recently told me that the first time they heard me speak, my voice sounded like honey. In the past, someone once described my singing voice as sounding like amber. Once when I was waitressing, a customer told me that my speaking sounds like singing, and that I had the nicest voice she'd ever heard. That made me laugh. I don't like how I sound on tape, but I mention these comments so you'll know that my voice shouldn't annoy you too much, unless you don't like to hear a woman's voice in a lower register. But it's not freakishly low. I'm not quite Nico.

I prefer 24-hour clocks because they make perfect sense (though I do like analog faces on watches--go figure). For the same reason, I am trying to make the mental shift to the metric system.

I don't prefer profanity, unless it's in the bedroom or used infrequently for pronounced emphasis.

INTP: one of the rarer personality types. Sometimes I test INFP, INTJ, and INFJ. Which is to say, I am without question introverted and intuitive, but tend to straddle the thinking/feeling, and perceiving/judging fronts.

Tri-doshic. Really. But I don't practice Ayurvedic wellness.

I am lipstick, dresses, and blue jeans and tees. I REFUSE TO AGE.

Need to update this profile; most of its content is haphazard and pretty ancient. Also, I lost about 8 pounds since that Habitat for Humanity photo was taken.

This section used to include a list of what I saw as my most prominent pros and cons. Later, I removed the cons, because (although honest) they seemed to indicate that I lacked confidence. After that, so many pros with no cons seemed to indicate that I lacked humility. So they had to go, too. And here we are. (Stay tuned--I think I will be revisiting this section; it seems like a useful exercise, after all.)

Please note: I currently live in Troy, NY, but am planning to relocate to St. Petersburg within the coming year. Initially, I expected to be joining my girlfriend there, but our relationship ended, and I'm moving forward with my plans, anyway. I changed my OKCupid location to try to make a few friendly connections online ahead of time, so it's less lonely when I arrive. I'd love to hear about St. Petersburg neighborhoods, rentals, real estate, and best places to work, job leads, etc. I am a copywriter and creative marketing professional. If you message me, I will send you a link to my LinkedIn profile :-)

To continue my earlier format, another thing I "don't" is passive-aggressive. I'd rather have someone punch me in the face than play games. Because at least it's straightforward; there's no guessing how the puncher feels, or how you should respond (run! and grab a bag of frozen peas).

Other deal-breakers include: chronically hurtful self-centeredness, unwillingness to admit wrong or apologize, dramatically changed patterns without explanation, excessive need for attention, unwarranted jealousy, attempts to arouse jealousy, double standards, psychopathic lack of emotion, narcissism, inferiority complex, hypocrisy, deceit and lying, secret relationships, absence of ethics, and meanness. Also, what behavioral psychology experts refer to as modus operandi major fucking asshole. If you are this, or are a selfish, ungrateful, spoiled child, your charms will only work on me for so long not work on me.

We all have issues, and I'm no shorter on shortcomings than the next person. We all make mistakes, and I'm very forgiving. But I am quick to express my regret when I err, and quick to make things right again. I pretty much expect the same in return, and won't stick around to be treated like a permanent doormat by either friends or passion partners.

Wow. I sound so negative. I actually don't tend to focus on these kinds of things. I'm more interested in looking at the positives, and cultivating love and stability in my life. Love. And stability.

So, what's the deal?

Was I recently hurt? Yup.
Real bad? Ohhhhh, yeah.
Bitter? More sad, angry, baffled.
Will I ever get over it? YES. With a little help from my friends.

Perhaps you will be one of them :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Making the best of it.

It's worth mentioning that I quit smoking August 1, 2013. And I quit drinking alcohol on August 17, 2009. I love beer. But it leads me into crippling mediocrity :-P Next, I need to quit Diet Coke; I am a fiend when it comes to that stuff. Then maybe I will give up coffee and/or caffeine. Then fuzzy water (bubbles are bad for your bones).

Also, last year (spring of 2013) my gastroenterologist recommended that I go gluten-free. So, I've been doing that for over a year now.

Thought to mention that I just got braces the other week! So, I will look a bit like a twelve year old for the next ten months. But my friends say I look adorable :-B

Started a new blog this year that I keep forgetting to develop. Oops. Seventy3seconds.Tumblr.com.

Member of: Meetup.com/Capital-Region-Lesbians - Check it out :-)

Completed a six-week Berklee songwriting program through Coursera last summer, and became addicted to MOOCs! Considering pursuing a Coursera specialization or one of the vocal training programs offered through Berklee online.

About a year ago, I started practicing mantra-based meditation on an almost daily basis. I find it very challenging.

Work: Currently employed as a marketing copywriter at an online college in Albany, NY. Background in writing, editing, media production, design, content strategy, marketing, advertising, creative direction, UX design, and usability.

Hobbies: I just started taking adult gymnastics classes (!!!) and am planning to join a local female barbershop chorus in the near future - ultimately, my intention is to sing with the Toast of Tampa show chorus . (If you're wondering, I'm a bass.) Also, I enjoy taking Lynda.com courses; reading; studying Buddhism and Science of Mind; design; punning; growing herbs, orchids, and other plants; reading and writing gregg shorthand ; blind drawing ; cartomancy ; handwriting analysis; dream analysis ; skeet shooting ; singing; songwriting ; being more charming and entertaining than my OkCupid profile.

Want to learn how to: play tennis, piano, and guitar; read braille; stenotype; converse in sign language; speak, read, and write many foreign languages; crochet; compost; identify plants, trees, wood grains, birds, and butterflies; build furniture and sheltering structures; sew; cook; preserve herbs.

Want to learn more about: the Higgs boson; scientific explanations of extrasensory perception; barbershop harmony; creole languages; American folklore ; drawing and comics ; etymology ; organic gardening ; architectural design ; civil engineering, especially bridge building ; physics; math; logic; filmmaking ; documentary video production; museum exhibit design.

Enjoy: learning learning learning learning; analyzing; ideating; optimizing; making things with words, pictures, and/or sounds; walking; improving from the inside out.

Aim to: laugh more, travel abroad, serve others.

Life Goals: always changing. This is a pro and a con. At the moment, I want to develop some of my ideas for pilot sitcoms and write a musical comedy. I also want to win a Fulbright and earn a PhD one day. Among 23 other things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...thinking, writing, singing along with the song, daydreaming, making people laugh, learning just about anything, wishing you the best, celebrating your wins.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
...is that I fly in the face of all their expectations.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Now Reading:
Actually, I've fallen into the terrible habit of browsing St. Pete rentals and real estate on my smart phone before I fall asleep at night. Previously, I read books before bed. Where I left off:
- Journey to the Center of the Earth by Jules Verne
- A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's Court by Mark Twain
- Origin of Species by Charles Darwin

Recent: Blood, Bones, and Butter
Recently Re-read: Around the World in 80 Days
One of My Favorite Books: The Great Bridge

Like to watch: educational TV (such as Military, History, Science, Nat Geo and other, similar networks), TCM, USA network, FOX news, live performance, Jennifer Lopez doing anything.

Like to listen to: Radiolab, Joel Osteen, Howard Stern, Charles Krauthammer, Deepak Chopra's voice, How Stuff Works podcasts.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Clouds & Sunshine
2. Melody & Harmony
3. Pen & Paper
4. Here & Now
5. Art & Science
6. The U.S. Constitution
7. Breaking the Rules
8. Tragedy & Time (the har-hars)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...my purpose in life. And wondering when I'll know what it is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...falling asleep.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Surely you wouldn't pry.
You should message me if
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...you feel like it.