(Don't get me wrong, I love a good argument. But I strive to be assertive and speak my mind without offending and alienating my audience. Am I always successful at this? Not even close.)
My mother says I am the most misunderstood person she knows. Need to ask her more about what exactly she means by that.
Someone recently told me that the first time they heard me speak, my voice sounded like honey. In the past, someone once described my singing voice as sounding like amber. Once when I was waitressing, a customer told me that my speaking sounds like singing, and that I had the nicest voice she'd ever heard. That made me laugh. I don't like how I sound on tape, but I mention these comments so you'll know that my voice shouldn't annoy you too much, unless you don't like to hear a woman's voice in a lower register. But it's not freakishly low. I'm not quite Nico.
I prefer 24-hour clocks because they make perfect sense (though I do like analog faces on watches--go figure). For the same reason, I am trying to make the mental shift to the metric system.
I don't prefer profanity, unless it's in the bedroom or used infrequently for pronounced emphasis.
INTP: one of the rarer personality types. Sometimes I test INFP, INTJ, and INFJ. Which is to say, I am without question introverted and intuitive, but tend to straddle the thinking/feeling, and perceiving/judging fronts.
Tri-doshic. Really. But I don't practice Ayurvedic wellness.
I am lipstick, dresses, and blue jeans and tees. I REFUSE TO AGE.
Need to update this profile; most of its content is haphazard and pretty ancient. Also, I lost about 8 pounds since that Habitat for Humanity photo was taken.
This section used to include a list of what I saw as my most prominent pros and cons. Later, I removed the cons, because (although honest) they seemed to indicate that I lacked confidence. After that, so many pros with no cons seemed to indicate that I lacked humility. So they had to go, too. And here we are. (Stay tuned--I think I will be revisiting this section; it seems like a useful exercise, after all.)
Please note: I currently live in Troy, NY, but am planning to relocate to St. Petersburg within the coming year. Initially, I expected to be joining my girlfriend there, but our relationship ended, and I'm moving forward with my plans, anyway. I changed my OKCupid location to try to make a few friendly connections online ahead of time, so it's less lonely when I arrive. I'd love to hear about St. Petersburg neighborhoods, rentals, real estate, and best places to work, job leads, etc. I am a copywriter and creative marketing professional. If you message me, I will send you a link to my LinkedIn profile :-)
To continue my earlier format, another thing I "don't" is passive-aggressive. I'd rather have someone punch me in the face than play games. Because at least it's straightforward; there's no guessing how the puncher feels, or how you should respond (run! and grab a bag of frozen peas).
Other deal-breakers include: chronically hurtful self-centeredness, unwillingness to admit wrong or apologize, dramatically changed patterns without explanation, excessive need for attention, unwarranted jealousy, attempts to arouse jealousy, double standards, psychopathic lack of emotion, narcissism, inferiority complex, hypocrisy, deceit and lying, secret relationships, absence of ethics, and meanness. Also, what behavioral psychology experts refer to as modus operandi major fucking asshole. If you are this, or are a selfish, ungrateful, spoiled child, your charms will
We all have issues, and I'm no shorter on shortcomings than the next person. We all make mistakes, and I'm very forgiving. But I am quick to express my regret when I err, and quick to make things right again. I pretty much expect the same in return, and won't stick around to be treated like a permanent doormat by either friends or passion partners.
Wow. I sound so negative. I actually don't tend to focus on these kinds of things. I'm more interested in looking at the positives, and cultivating love and stability in my life. Love. And stability.
So, what's the deal?
Was I recently hurt? Yup.
Real bad? Ohhhhh, yeah.
Bitter? More sad, angry, baffled.
Will I ever get over it? YES. With a little help from my friends.
Perhaps you will be one of them :-)