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beneficence

33 M Los Angeles, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:58am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Okay)

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My self-summary
Oh gee golly, where to begin... i grew up in the northern suburbs of chicago... i was the ritalin poster child of the year in 1989 and then again in 2010. i went to school for creative writing, philosophy & photography - all of which have become hobbies. i moved to the city (chi) for 5 years after college. had enough of -10 winters. moved to LA in March of 2009. and i love, love, love this wondrous city!

i co-created/co-edit a Chicago-based, literary/art magazine called two with water - www.twowithwater.com

some things that i thoroughly enjoy:

*the great outdoors... hiking/exploring/camping/road trips/travels
*farmer's markets
*photography
*arbitrary details
*snooty, snobby wines & beers (*turns nose up)
*architecture & design
*music - making it/collecting lps/going to shows/spinning vinyl
*abandoned-ness/forgotten places
*museums
*rewiring old electronics/re-purposing things
*creating/making/art projects (solo & collaborative)
*writing/reading
*cooking
*bicycling
*running (once in a while)
*old motorcycles/cars
*existential moments
*banging on pots and pans
*dancing like a fool (mostly to soul/funk)
*late night/early morning philosophical ramblings
*the company of family and friends
*listening to stories, as well as telling them
*observing the world that's spinning around my little head
*making lists
What I’m doing with my life
after school my father looked at me and said (in the straightest face) "congratulations... what now?" to which i responded, "i think i'll get a job... (those ellipsis, as well as the following are to denote time elapsing)... perhaps i'll go back for my masters." he looked at me and my smart-asshole face and uttered (the inevitable) "what the hell will you do with a masters in creative writing?" a fair enough question i suppose... needless to say i was a bit perplexed and a tad bit irritated by his insistent inquiry into my future... i mumbled in a barely recognizable, muted monotone voice that i would continue going to school and get a doctorate's in creative writing... then i could perform semi-colonoscopies. to this day my sense of humor has caused a rift between us and he still won't donate money toward my triumphant return to academia. and so... and so, i have worked a slew of jobs, most of which were unrelated to my degree. i currently work as a behavioral therapist; it's pretty rad most days!

i guess i do what i can in the moment and hope it helps all those involved/connected (present and future)...

i currently live in silver lake, up a hill a bit... a family of skunks sometimes hang out under my front steps... sometimes i catch them eating the cat food on my neighbor's stoop... it's pretty adorable... i stare from a distance and chuckle.

oh and i recently built a darkroom in the back-house behind my house... pretty psyched to get back to processing/printing film!
I’m really good at
fixing/figuring-out shit.

planning adventures & showing others intriguing/strange/awesome places in and around LA.

coming up w/ pun-credible names for new/imaginary businesses.

laughing at inappropriate times.

being sarcastic (in all earnestness).

being honest, earnest & genuine.

using far too many adjectival modifiers.

the unnecessary and grammatically incorrect usage of an ellipsis and exclamation point!
The first things people usually notice about me
Hmmm, maybe my interspersed gray/white hairs or perhaps my ridiculous puns and insatiable sense of sarcasm...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Words: H. Murakami, M. Chabon, S. Williams, D.F. Wallace, J. Eugenides, D. Sedaris, R. Moody, D. Eggers, J.S. Mill, the unbearable lightness of being, A. Dubus, News from nowhere and other writings - William Morris, Bukowski, random philosophical nonsense & so many more.

Film: Chinatown, Cohen bros., The Graduate, The Running Man, je t'aime je t'aime, Ingmar Bergman, melancholia, wet hot american summer, Woody Allen (most everything), The Triplets of Belleville, Darren Aronofsky, Primer, Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu, Inception, David Lynch, Godfrey Reggio & lots of documentaries.

Television: mr. show, sifl & olly, twin peaks, 6 ft. under, arrested dev., upright c.b., curb your enthusiasm & freaks and geeks. i haven't watched t.v. in years... clearly.

Music: TOO MUCH! Here are some absolute favorites... PHILIP GLASS, zappa, sun ra, kurt vile, FELA KUTI, liquid liquid, sun city girls, screamin' jay, herbie hancock, THE BOOKS, miles davis, TALKING HEADS, faraquet, ash ra temple, DJANGO REINHARDT, patsy cline, n.m.hotel, ghostface killah, JAMES BROWN, tinariwen, THE VELVET UNDERGROUND, hawkwind, GRAILS, the zombies, eno, FUGAZI, nick cave, TOM WAITS, nick drake, CAN, steve reich, MULATU ASTATKE, menomena, quantic & TORTOISE. **I also love most of the classics and many well-known modern artists.

cuisine: (mostly vegetarian) sushi, indian, salads, cherimoyas, ethiopian, french, italian, thai, (chicago style) deep-dish pizza, avocados, kale, mushrooms, latin, mexican, middle eastern, okonomiyaki and (i recently started eating) fish.
The six things I could never do without
.art.
.words.
.nature.
.sounds.
.affection.
.family/friends.
.the ability to question.
.a sense of humor (id est. jokes).

*dang, that's eight... i'm no good at following rules.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
whether or not any of us know what we're doing... with our lives... in this crazy, amazing world we live in. we stumble between familiar avenues, saunter across foreign crosswalks, step up and down stairs and slide between revolving doors and we act like we have the answers, like we have things figured out, but more times than not it's merely a facade. we don't know shit about this whimsically-enticing place that we inhabit AND that's the beauty. it's the happenstance and the serendipitous moments that make life worth all the work... it's the mystery, the moments of chance, the "crazy" old woman that hacks up hackneyed expressions whilst keeling over on the bus stop bench, the little girl with the purple popsicle stained lips and the fragile, withering, old man with the dirty hands that smiles at you while crossing your path... it's all the little things that go unnoticed (most of the time). i am always trying to be as aware as possible of my surroundings.

humans AND nature AND human nature... connections... stop texting, leave your television off for one night, get outside and explore damnit!

how i can refute Bertrand Russell's statement that "all human activity is prompted by desire." - i think he was onto something...

existence, the plausibility of a utopian society and utilitarianism (especially pertaining to ethics).

what i want to be when i grow up...
On a typical Friday night I am
what a typical question...

here's a typical answer...

attending art gallery openings/events, going on a night hike, grabbing some delicious food and drinks with friends, going to a show (music or comedy) OR perhaps i am laying low and cooking something tasty. maybe i am working on an art project, writing music or planning my next great escape.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
that i'm on this silly dating site.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you are inclined to do so & we share some things in common, especially the urge to make life an ongoing adventure!