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benjamin_niemcz

37 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:08pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Looking for somebody with a huge heart, who knows how to have a sparkling great time. There is nothing more important to me than expressing what's inside the mind, the heart.

Professional musician, Photographer, Explorer, Tech Nut, Film Fan, Runner, Biker, Reader, News Junkie, Prolific Texter. Are those all really me?!?! I guess so.

I love making music and shooting photos/videos. I could spend all day doing those things, they are life to me.

But a third activity has risen recently: people lover. Who would have guessed? Just when I thought I was destined for isolation, I discovered that I love to get to know people, to share otherwise solitary experiences with people and to open the heart to those who wish to receive it. Doesn't have to be a romantic opening, just a willingness to reveal things in my soul that will resonate with others, help them, excite them, challenge them. I'm digging that!

If you also want to share matters of the heart, we are destined to talk. The contents need not be romantic, love-based or even have much depth. The contents must be honest and heart-felt though. Those are the most fulfilling and rewarding things of conversation. Let's start the chat soon.
What I’m doing with my life
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Full time conductor of several ensembles. I used to sing professionally but gave it up to fulfill my dream of leading musicians. I made the right choice, leading musical performances is my passion above most other passions, second only to sharing those experiences with people. To me there is nothing more thrilling than presenting great works of art to a packed house of listeners both experienced and new. Enlightening and exciting the minds of those receivers is a satiating feeling like few others. I'm happy and lucky to be able to make music for a living. For several years I struggled to be recognized, and no doubt hard days will return. But for now, life is stable and good. Again, I'm lucky.

I also spend considerable time shooting photos and videos, mainly for my ensembles. I have photographed models, shot informational videos and have even participated in movies, but at my core I just love to shoot. So, I may coerce you into modeling at some point! Or not, I just love to create images.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bringing together many disparate pieces into a musical whole. It's a lifelong pursuit, getting good at such a process, but I've had some good, lucky experiences with pulling together forces for a common good. It's a thrilling feeling, merging so many minds, heart, voices and instruments into a coherent whole. It's the ultimate rush to conduct the finale of a symphony or the final chorus of a major oratorio, sort like a two-hour roller coaster!

I'm also good at creating visually pleasing images, both for marketing and for fun. My passion for this is strong.

One thing I previously never would have admitted to being good at is sharing the contents of my heart. I find I cannot go a week or even a day sometimes without opening up to somebody about some important matter or feeling. When the heart opens up, conversation is limitless.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My enthusiasm. Some have told me it's a little larger than life but I think it's a healthy strength. I try to stay positive, and I think this is apparent to even those who don't know me.

Don't let my shyness fool you. I open up quickly, especially with people who also want to open their heart.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Nabokov, Dickens, Woolf, Kant, Nietszche, C.S. Lewis, Chomksy..

Movies: Shawshank, The Shining, Clockwork Orange, Color Me Kubrick, Art School Confidential, Sneakers, The Reader, 2001, any Cohens..

TV Shows: Deal or No Deal, Maury, Charlie Rose, Access Hollywood, Simpsons, ET Insider, ET, American Experience, PBS..

Music:
Popular:
Coil, U2, Stone Temps, Pearl Jam, Black Eyed Peas, Wilco, Billy Joel, James Taylor, Elvis Costello, Michael Jackson, Madonna, Paul Simon, Jay Unger, various folk musicians, lots of pop.

Classical:
Adams, Antheil, Bach, Beethoven, Busoni, Beach, Barber, Brahms, Carter, Debussy, Dvorak, Dante, Eisler, Franck, Gretchaninoff, Howells, Honegger, Holst, Ives, Janacek, Joubert, Krenek, Lalo, Liszt, Mendelssohn, Mozart, Nono, Ockeghem, Persichetti, Quantz, Rachmaninoff, Ravel, Rahn, Schoenberg, Tavener, Taverner, Thomas, Thompson, Ungar, Ussechevsky, Vaughan Williams, Vazquez, Wagner, Walton, Xenakis, Zemlinsky as well as most of the classic pop bands of the 70s, 80s, and 90s. I love electronic music, too.

Experimental/Avant Garde:
Stockhausen, Partch, Feldman, pieces featuring the Ondes Martenot, Theremin, samplers, unusual contemporary electronic instruments, Cage, Crumb, Carter, Babbitt and more.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The City

The Country

Great Art

Deep Relationships

Medium for Communication

Coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The next big thing. As a musician I'm constantly concerned about the future, so my mind thinks a month, six months, a year down the road. While I'm working on the present tasks I'm making sure the future is jam-filled with all things art.

I also think a lot about how to inspire people to maximize their talents and not waste any of them. Every person is gifted in some way, and I feel called to speak passionately to them about unearthing talents that they may not yet have discovered. I run an ensemble populated with late bloomers, and it's marvelously satisfying to see a retired person pursue something they originally thought was impossible, only to find out that with a little hard work it became fully possible. Awesome.

And...the viola.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing in a small orchestra. I took up the viola to better relate to the players I conduct, and I've fallen in love with this type of music making. I rehearse and perform six days a week, so my free nights are a little opposite of the standard 9-to-5er. The great thing about rehearsing on a Friday night is that it filters the people who are truly committed to making great music. I was nervous at first about giving up this night, but it's proven immensely enjoyable.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The confidence can be a front for insecurity.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You want to share the matters of the heart.