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benjamin_niemcz

37 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Thirty-something working professional classical musician: conductor (four choral ensembles including a youth chorus), singer, composer looking for cultured, educated woman with whom to listen to music, attend the opera and the symphony, rub shoulders with donors and other lovers of great art, jog in the park, sample wine, sip champagne, grow our own food, take train trips, visit the mountains, and discuss great literature.

Seeking a strong and abiding intellectual connection, need not be specifically in music, can be any of the humanities or sciences that require broad thinking and problem solving.

I like Singing, Conducting, Photography, Graphic Design, Film, Live Performance, Coffee, Raw Foods, Running, Biking, Hiking, British Literature, 20th Century Art, MoMA, The Battery, Brooklyn, Flight, Maury, Piano, Skin, Hair, Elocution, Contemporary Music, Vintage NY, The Park, Tall Buildings, Bridge Architecture, History of NY, Blue Riders, Schoenberg, Strauss, Wagner, Africa, Victoria Falls, Smart Cars, Recycling, Companionship, Independence, my Steinway, WOS, Freud, Kant, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Plato, the Philharmonic, the Met Opera, NYC Opera, Carnegie Hall, Nikon Cameras, Canon Cameras, Hasselblad, HD, avant garde intelligentsia, silly names, name games, game faces, face offs, off-colours, colour diversity and more.
What I’m doing with my life
Professional classical conductor, singer, composer, web designer, videographer and photographer. Being happy, somewhat content, seeing the positive side of everything, spending time with friends, family, eating great food at amazing restaurants or at home, exploring parts of the city that are unknown to me and more. A quadratic vacation, I split my time between singing, conducting, shooting/editing music videos and photography, with some other activities. I moved to NYC in 2003 and despite the hardship of life without a car (I grew up in suburban Chicago with nothing outside of access to an auto) love the city and the myriad creational opportunities. I am a freelance videographer and specialize in filming classical music concerts and recitals, effectively giving me a rare life in front of and behind the camera.
I’m really good at
Problem solving, especially mechanical problems like use of space, gauging time, bringing together disparate parts into a cohesive whole.

I strongly identify with humor found in Arrested Development and the Christopher Guest films. I'm the sort of person who is shy on the ground but electric on the stage. Add some wine and the stage will descend to the floor, so not all is lost. When I take pictures I am stern in look but light in spirit. All I can say is give me a chance to smile in person.

Smiling, laughing, being a faithful friend, earnestness, taking seriously every conversation, being relaxed, chill, fly, all of it. Confidence, interviewing, profound topics in conversation, talking current events, getting to the essence of a thing. I easily detect phonies, that is, people who don't feel free to express their feelings. There is a time and a place, but to people who choose not to emote, that to me is vapid.
The first things people usually notice about me
My skin and youthful face, stasis, smile, laughing, positive attitude, enthusiasm in perpetua. Then my artistic side, depth of expression but alongside that my severe lack of smiling in both photos and in person. I've never felt the urge to be any different, and apparently people value a smile. So I try from time to time to move those facial upward instead of down.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Nabokov, Dickens, Woolf, Kant, Nietszche, C.S. Lewis, Chomksy..

Movies: Shawshank, The Shining, Clockwork Orange, Color Me Kubrick, Art School Confidential, Sneakers, The Reader, 2001, any Cohens..

TV Shows: Deal or No Deal, Maury, Charlie Rose, Access Hollywood, Simpsons, ET Insider, ET, American Experience, PBS..

Music:
Popular:
Coil, U2, Stone Temps, Pearl Jam, Black Eyed Peas, Wilco, Billy Joel, James Taylor, Elvis Costello, Michael Jackson, Madonna, Paul Simon, Jay Unger, various folk musicians, lots of pop.

Classical:
Adams, Antheil, Bach, Beethoven, Busoni, Beach, Barber, Brahms, Carter, Debussy, Dvorak, Dante, Eisler, Franck, Gretchaninoff, Howells, Honegger, Holst, Ives, Janacek, Joubert, Krenek, Lalo, Liszt, Mendelssohn, Mozart, Nono, Ockeghem, Persichetti, Quantz, Rachmaninoff, Ravel, Rahn, Schoenberg, Tavener, Taverner, Thomas, Thompson, Ungar, Ussechevsky, Vaughan Williams, Vazquez, Wagner, Walton, Xenakis, Zemlinsky as well as most of the classic pop bands of the 70s, 80s, and 90s. I love electronic music, too.

Experimental/Avant Garde:
Stockhausen, Partch, Feldman, pieces featuring the Ondes Martenot, Theremin, samplers, unusual contemporary electronic instruments, Cage, Crumb, Carter, Babbitt and more.
The six things I could never do without
Urge
Integrity
Truth
Essence
Coffee

And Coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The opera. I sit in the orchestra and am typically blown away by the spectacle, and I don't even love opera that much! I came to it late but despite being a novice, I am hooked.

Fashion. I have a boring, banal look but I notice clothes on other people instantly, watch fashion shows, read fashion magazines and more or less rejoice in the most vain of things!

Ways to improve what I do, ways to expose my self to unfamiliar art, especially music. Because of that I'm a champion of new music and support new, great pieces written by local composers. Though most of what I hear is sub-par, there are enough tiny masterpieces here and there to make contemplating such things a pleasure.
On a typical Friday night I am
Planning future concerts, at City Winery, in the park, on the promenade, making French press coffee, watching a movie, listening to new music, at Lincoln Center, Carnegie Hall, playing my piano, practicing conducting...

My work requires me to be alone a good deal of the time, so it's no surprise I'm working on music, a photographic essay, videos, occasionally viewing a film.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Fear can make me do anything.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 25–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You love popular and classical music, enjoy technology, are a walking contradiction, have no typical Fridays and cannot wait to get out of NYC and travel!