I am Ben. it has been years since i have dated someone i really had fun with. Everyone has a mean side. Nobody wants to do anything. Dates are mundane. physical attraction has mattered more than really enjoying each other.
I want someone who can beat me in tennis (i suck!), will hit the gym with me, will grab some of my brushes and attempt to paint so we can sit outside and enjoy a nice breeze. I want a girl who will hike , or go bowling, or teach me how to do whatever the hell "mudding" is!
I want to call you, not because i am lonely, but because I want to do something fun with my best friend....because i missed your smile or ridiculous laugh. I want a girl who is a real sweetheart, but calls me on my shit.
I want someone who misses me, because i am fun to be with, not because i tell her she is pretty and dispel her insecurities...although, i will do that too.
I want someone who expects me to be my best at all times, and tells me when i have fallen short. I want someone who appreciates me wanting her to be her best.
I want someone who will try to arm wrestle me. I want someone who will play my guitar better than i do....this is not difficult..lol. I want someone who wants to find all of the amazing things life has to offer and thinks it has more to offer with me in it.
I want sex to be something we end up doing because we enjoy every second we are together, not something we do because we have needs. I want to need only your amazing personality and company. I want to need only your smile and your arm.
A lot of women want an arrogant prick to tell them how much they want to bang them....lol. I hope, one day, for your own self worth, you realize that you too have been settling for people who don't deserve you and will never cause you more joy than pain.
I want to admire and respect you. I want to brag about you to my friends until they think i am the wussiest dude on earth. I am not a wuss, but i want to endure their ridicule for your sake.
I want you to brag about me. I want you to think i am the sweetest, most fun, and sexiest guy you know. I could be, if you let me.
I have dated too many very hot and very unemotional women. The world is riddled with women who have been hurt to the point of not being able to feel...and men who have been hurt to the point they only seek gratification. These people are more harmful to us than good. Have you ever dated someone and later looked back and thought, man, i really sacrificed everything my spirit wanted or needed in that relationship? We all have. Is is not fun, and recovery from such relationships is traumatic and long, because we hurt not only from what the other person did, but also because we have allowed ourselves to be used and degraded.
I am done with that bs. I hope you are too. If you aren't consider it. I don't care if you have a past. We have all been through pain. It is ok. I am only asking you to choose to rise above the pain and have fun with someone that is more interested in who you are than seeing you naked.
*sidenote....i am a very sexual person, but i want our relationship to be based on something deeper than the need to fulfill a biological urge.