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41 Portland, OR Transfeminine


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 8:50am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Has dogs

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My self-summary
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Hi! I'm Ben.

I am an out and proud transfeminine queer individual. I'm looking for someone who respects and celebrates this. I was born male, and I have been on female hormones for about 4 months. I am open to dating all kinds of people.

I think the gender binary is a cultural fossil that fails miserably to express the wide variety of gender expression!

I am currently a bartender at the Performing Arts Center and a volunteer organizer for my labor union, UNITE HERE! I am passionate about social justice, and very active in the local activist scene!

I'm kinky. We'll leave it at that for now.

I smoke weed.

I am a proud atheist, but I try not to be a douche about it.

I love theater, especially opera, and I go often to local performances! I also love to cook good food and snuggle at home with some Netflix :)

I am looking for someone who can make me laugh but who also loves to laugh at my goofy, often inappropriate (I can relate anything to sex or poop) humor. But be ready to go from poop jokes to Proust references at the bat of an eye (just kidding who the fuck reads Proust?). I love to talk about philosophy, Art, especially literature and theater, politics and, of course, relationships and feelings!

I am looking for someone who can have fun without having to spend a bundle or go cliff diving or something.

I love games, be they video or board.

I am perfectly happy being single, so I have no intention of settling for someone who is not really right for me. That's why I'm here.
What I’m doing with my life
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My goals:

Empower working people to resist corporate oppression.

Grow and strengthen the movement of poor and middle-class people to reclaim our Democracy.

Raise the consciousness of the world about Lesbian, Gay, Biesexual, and Transgender equality, one person at a time.

Reverse the often corrosive and toxic effects of religious belief on our society by encouraging people to question and examine their faith more closely.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making real connections with people, making people feel at ease about the fact that they are speaking to a "man" wearing a dress, public speaking, running meetings. I am one of the best chant leaders in town!! I am also good at causing straight guys to be confused lol!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm Trans. After that, my laugh (goofy but endearing), my smile. I also have a nice pair of legs! ;) Work what you got Mama!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The God Delusion, A People's History of the US, Guns Germs and Steel, The Omnivore's Dilemma, If on a Winter's Night A Traveller, Ishmael, Dune, Gravitys Rainbow, Red mars, Illuminatus Trilogy, Pillars of the Earth, Molloy, Watership Down, Left Hand of Darkness, Song of Ice and Fire series, Love in the Time of Cholera, Alan Mendelsohn The Boy From Mars, The Sound and The Fury, The Sotweed Factor, The Name of the Rose, The Plague, Shogun, Hitchhiker's Guide, The Tunnel, Chaucer, Shakespeare, T.S. Eliot, Joyce.

Movies: Edmond, Star Wars IV-VI, Rear Window, Akira, Cohen Brothers, Team America, Old School, Zoolander, The Mission, Goodfellas, Airplane!, American in Paris, Singing in the Rain, Super Size Me, Wizard of Oz.

TV: Family Guy, Lost, The Office, Dr Who, Black Adder, 30 rock, Little Brittain, Dexter, True Blood, Mad Men, Frasier, Twin Peaks, Parks and Rec, Red dwarf, Walking Dead, House of cards, Homeland, Friends, Spartacus

Music: Philip Glass, Robert Cray, Puccini, The Pixies, My Bloody Valentine, Dead can Dance, Tribe Called Quest, Biggie, Dead Prez, Mob Deep, Hendrix, Arcade Fire, Elvis Costello, Dillinja, Mary J. Blige, Bob Dylan, Coltrane, Nirvana, Silver Sun Pickups, Loxy, Verdi, Marvin gaye, Bill Withers, Abba, Black Star, Ella Fitzgerald, Roots, De la, Hank Williams, The Cure, Janelle Monae, Julie London, Madonna, Gaga, Dee-lite, Kruder and Dorfmeister, Diana Ross, Salt N Pepa, Prince, Isley Bros., P Funk, NWA, Diplo, Santo Gold, Living Legends, All booty music, Common, Kanye, Eminem, Pharcyde, Bad Brains, Beastie Boyz, George and Ira Gershwin, Badu, Outkast, Goody Mob, Journey, Billie Holiday, Santana, Earth Wind and Fire, Beyonce, Brittney Spears, Oasis.

Food: I love to cook, and I like feeding people. I like all kinds of food, but comfort food is closest to my heart (and stomach): stuff like mac n cheese, chicken pot pie etc. I cook a lot of soup. I also cook quiche often.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(not necessarily things and not necessarily six) books, Internet, phone, chocolate, laughter, music, friends, uh trimet?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The fact that I spend a lot of time thinking


How to make the world a better place! Work issues and grievances, organizing strategy, direct action plans, how to grow my union and make it stronger, how to get workers to stand up and speak up!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working or sometimes dancing!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
See above
You should message me if
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You are a good tipper and treat strangers and those serving you with respect. You are not desperate. You have good self-esteem. You believe in being positive.