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benjiesque

36 M Washington, DC

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Politics / Government
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Finnish (Okay), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I was once described by a Jane Austen fan as the perfect combination of Bingley and Darcy. All of the complexity and mystery of Darcy but with all of the light-hearted fun of Bingley.

After growing up in Oklahoma and living abroad post-college in Finland, I've now been in Washington, DC for ten years and am completely infatuated with the city. DC's a symbol, an ideal, a place where the highest reaches of the imagination can be climbed. And if that isn't reason enough to love living here, I don't know what is.

During the day, I work (for) the government. After, I act, sing, dance, write, and make music. I like to take photographs, but probably am not good enough to consider myself a photographer.

I don't have a "type" really, except that I really love to date women who are smarter than I am, especially if they're snarky about it. The main protagonist in the film Contact combined with the mother on Gilmore Girls is maybe my ideal woman. I've never met anyone like this, but if you are that person, please write me straight away.

Because it turns out it matters a lot, it would be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat, I like horror movies, I have travelled around another country alone, and I like the taste of beer.

A recent personality test I took described me with the following words: forceful, persuasive, spontaneous, defiant, inspirational. If OKC describes you as more adventurous, more friendly to strangers, more literary, more energetic, and more confident, we'll very likely get along.

I am composed of dopamine, norepinephrine, and oxytocin.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Desperately avoiding these locations in DC.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Here, you can judge for yourself by clicking each link:
* photography (Flickr)
* dancing (YouTube)
* acting (YouTube)
* filmmaking (YouTube)
* writing (LiveJournal)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Here's some testimonials my friends wrote about me back in the Friendster heyday of 2006:

"Nobody can bumpsydaisy like Clyde bumpsydaisies. I was almost embarrassed to be bumpsydaisying next to him. Clyde, you are my bumpsydaisian hero."

"clyde is the person with whom i feel completely comfortable showing the side of myself that i like best. and he brings it out whenever we're together, because he always reciprocates with the inventive, adventurous magic that i crave. i vote clyde for hetero life mate in 2006."

"Clyde is like a little kid on Christmas morning. All the time."

"the most splendid thing about clyde is that he thinks of hundreds of fabulously entertaining ideas per hour. sometimes i come dangerously close to being jealous of clyde because he's so cool, but then i recover my senses and remember that the lord giveth and in clyde's case he giveth far too much."

"We haven't decided if it's more embarrassing to know him, or not know him."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Radio/podcasts: Radiolab, This American Life, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, The TED Radio Hour

Books: Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen, Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace, White Noise by Don DeLillo, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead by Tom Stoppard, A Song of Ice and Fire by George R. R. Martin, A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius by Dave Eggers, The Cornish Trilogy by Robertson Davies, and Blink by Malcolm Gladwell.

Movies: Rifftrax, Casablanca, Annie Hall, The Red Violin, Magnolia, The Talented Mr. Ripley, Singing in the Rain, Life Is Beautiful, Amelie, and Apocalypse Now. Also into awful sequels of classic films, like Grease 2, or just bad films in general, like The Room. If they made a sequel to 12 Angry Men and called it 13 Angry Men it would automatically qualify to be in this list. I would also like to see Air Force Two and 22 Jump Street. I find the main sentiment in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button to be the most inspirational message of any film ever made.

In honor of the new The Fast and The Furious sequel, I've come up with some sequels to other classic Hollywood films that I'd like to see made:
* Good, Bad, and Ugly
* Lord of Rings: Return of King
* Silence of Lambs
* Gone With Wind
* Potter 5
* 2 Pulp 2 Fiction
* The Lawrence of The Arabia
* Shawshank Redemption 2: Tokyo Drift
* My Big Fat Greek Divorce Hearing

TV: The West Wing, Orphan Black, Rome, Firefly, Veronica Mars, The Wire, Jeeves and Wooster, Mad Men, Gilmore Girls, Six Feet Under, How I Met Your Mother, Inside Amy Schumer

Theater I've been in: A Little Night Music, Arcadia, Dracula: The Musical?, The Mikado, As You Like It

Music: Jeff Buckley, Nina Simone, Patty Griffin, Eric Whitacre, Joao Gilberto, Sufjan Stevens, Lady Gaga, Girl Talk, Morrissey, Elvis Costello, ZZ Ward, DJ Earworm

Food: Kyota sushi on the Hill, spicy Thai, Oyamel with its Mexican tapas, vegetarian Indian, Granville Moore's Belgian gastropub, Sonic ice, German beer, Clover coffee, funeral potatoes, Post Grape-Nuts, all-day brunch from Ted's Bulletin, groceries from Wegmans, Mundee's Mustmayostardayonnaise, anything extremely sour, spicy, or bitter
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Question marks? Slash/stroke—oh, don't forget em-dashes and en-dashes—semicolons; and of course, ellipses...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A few years ago I had the opportunity to give an IgniteDC talk about why everyone should learn how to dance. So, these five minutes are pretty indicative of the kind of stuff I spend a lot of time thinking about: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvzt56mDKOI

If you're curious about what Blues dancing is, listen to the report NPR filed on it a while back: http://www.npr.org/2011/08/20/139790041/the-healing-power-of-blues-dancing
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a quest to find the best brunch in the world. Oh wait, that's my typical Sunday morning.

Suggestions accepted, regardless!

...also, which seat should I take?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm addicted to buying Philips Hue light bulbs. They're seriously the most obsessively awesome technology for your home.

(My only consolation here is that when I click the link to Philips Hue, I see four other men who also admit to being addicted to them.)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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"Colorless green ideas sleep furiously" is a sentence that was invented by linguist Noam Chomsky to demonstrate how a perfectly syntactical English sentence could have no meaning. Then someone, a poet I assume, named C. M. Street found a way to make it have meaning:

"It can only be the thought of verdure to come, which prompts us in the autumn to buy these dormant white lumps of vegetable matter covered by a brown papery skin, and lovingly to plant them and care for them. It is a marvel to me that under this cover they are labouring unseen at such a rate within to give us the sudden awesome beauty of spring flowering bulbs. While winter reigns the earth reposes but these colourless green ideas sleep furiously."

Like those colorless green ideas, the beauty of the passage and its meaning grows on you the more you read it.

If you can take something that seems utterly meaningless and make it beautiful, I want to meet you.

I promise to try to do the same.

—OR—

You're new to the area and need help getting into social dancing in DC. Or you're an actor new to the area and want advice on which companies to work with.

You want to volunteer with me at Dave Eggers' new after-school writing program, 826DC.

You want to play German-style board games like Agricola or Settlers of Catan.

—OR—

If this or this moves you.