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My self-summary
I recently had a letter in's "Love Letters!"

I'm imperfect, and I hope you are too. I work as hard as I need to, and play as softly as I can.

I am not a slender man, but neither does the very ground tremble with my every footfall. However, I am a regular exerciser, with a 1st degree black belt in my thrice-weekly karate class. I've also recently completed the Couch to 5k running program, ran the Rugged Maniac and Warrior Dash races, but due to bum hips have been pulled from running for the foreseeable future. I'm hoping this is not permanent, and am trying to find a workout that does as much for me. I've been actively losing weight - still have a way to go, but I'm slowly getting there.

I am divorced (for real, truly, permanently divorced, and have been for years), and a single dad to the coolest thirteen-year-old kid ever. She is my life, and I have her 1/2 of the time. Until recently, I worked for a publisher in Waltham, and teach karate to kiddos on the weekend. I was formerly attempting to be a nursing student, but the realities of dadding, working, etc., made committing to a regular lab schedule impractical. I am instead finishing off the degree I *should* have finished in 1997 if I hadn't been so into making out/sleeping in/not finishing degrees. It's in creative writing, and I am lately churning out some stuff that many people don't hate. It's fun!

Politically, I am a liberal. Progressive ideals and causes are very important to me. If you don't believe that same sex couples should be allowed to marry, or if you think cutting funds to PBS and NPR and education are the way to a stronger nation, I am not the dude for you. Also, if you keep guns in the house, it will never work.


Also, I considered growing my hair out for locks of love, and failed horribly. I got to the point where I was one dirt bike away from looking like the bad guy in an 80s movie, and cut it off.
What I’m doing with my life
As I said above, I am a father, and there is nothing more important in my life. Beyond that, I'm looking to spend more time out of the house, do more writing, save the world, create the perfect cheesecake, shed a few pounds, get back to Prague, and meet new and interesting people.

I once had to watch Dr. Ruth eat a Popsicle, and it triggered a bit of an existential crisis.

In my free time I pretend I am a writer. It's easier with the not writing too much. However, this month I am participating in NaNoWriMo, and am making some progress. Go me!

I have an ice cream maker, and recently made a really delicious mojito ice cream.
I’m really good at
Making people laugh; cooking (I love to eat, and hence learned to cook), being a father, selling books, procrastinating, typing poorly, singing (not *really* good, but enough to have studied it collegiately), forward thinking, hobnobbing.

I am *not* good at dancing. I dance like a mistake. Sorry.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my voice. Possibly my majestic beard, assuming I have not shaved it off. That while I may not win any beauty contests, I'm attentive, funny, and sincerely enjoy the people I choose to spend my life with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
a) Too many to list, Slowness by Milan Kundera is right up
there. Also lots of mysteries, (Joe R. Lansdale - he wrote
Bubba Ho-Tep, Dennis LeHane, John Sanford are among my
faves). Neil Gaiman is swell. John Connolly writes about the
best crime fiction out there. Hugh Howey's Wool is my favorite new find. Donna Tartt sure knows how to write!

b) Crouching Tiger; Blue Velvet; O Brother Where art Thou;
Star Wars (IV, V, VI), Tarantino Flicks, James Bond,
City of Lost Children; Bad Lieutenant; Amelie;
Dolemite; Flesh Gordon, Wes Anderson, P. T.
, more.

c) Chet Baker; Stan Getz; Josquin; blues; Neko
; New Pornographers, Tenacious D; Jenny Lewis;
Doves, Rachmaninov, The Pixies, Sonic Youth, Tom
, Erin McKeown, Bluegrass, The Cardigans, Bon Iver, John Prine, Over the Rhine, Otis Redding, Lone Bellow, Postmodern Jukebox, Willie Nelson etc. On the flip side, contemporary pop (Katy Perry, Taylor Swift, Stupid Bieber), R&B (Usher, Beyonce) and nashville country (Blake Shelton et al) are to me what nails on a chalkboard are to others. They make me writhe and cut speaker wires.

d) I love food, but not a big fish fan, and I *hate* sushi - though
I have no problem being around those who do like.. Really love Thai and most varieties of asian foods. I still like a steak dinner from time to time, and am growing ever fonder of Indian food. BBQ? That's right up my alley.
The six things I could never do without
There is no good way left to answer this question. I like things, I like people, I like vital organs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be a better dad. What to read next. Why people can't accept that one can be both spiritual and an atheist. Why tacos are so damn delicious. How in the name of all that is holy could it possibly be detrimental to anyone to allow gay marriage. Makeouts.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dadding, half of the time.

Wearing pants somewhat more than half of the time.

Looking for new fun things to do!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am GGG, and have an appreciation for some kink-but can also live without it.
You should message me if
If you think we would click. If my having a kid is not only not a problem for you, but is in fact exciting to you. If you're looking
to expand your social circle. If you are not going to expect me to convert at any point, to any religion - I embrace differences and will always expect your beliefs, but hope that you will feel the same about mine. If you want to laugh until you pee. If you don't mind typos, or if you really love tacos. If you believe
your life is a journey that is about the experiences, and you are looking for someone to share it with. You're liberal, and swell.

If you're looking for the guy to show up for happy hour in a perfectly pressed pastel shirt -open-collared, of course-in an immaculate suit-I'm not your guy.

If you're looking for macho, I'm not your guy. I'm masculine, and masculinity is not defined by being a meat-headed brute. I'm a dad, a professional, a feminist, a proponent of social justice. I can fix a lawn mower, but if I can pay someone else a reasonable amount to do it while I take my kid to the apple orchard, that seems like a better idea. I'm someone who believes in kindness, in dialogue, in using our brains and our hearts before using fists and bombs. That's how I define masculinity, and I hope you do too.

If you are shooting a firearm of any kind in any of your photos, or if you own a firearm of any kind, it's a dealbreaker. I will never have a gun in my home, and cannot be with someone who has gun(s).