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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 2
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Catholicism and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi, I'm Bernard.
Welcome to my best and worse, part time job ever. I have left my original profile up, but please just focus on this next part. I guess what I'm looking for here is the chance to meet people, and hopefully making friends, with the really remote chance of something more. I have met some great people here on OKC, which I can call real friends, including my best friend, so I'm very happy for that.
I find online dating, as I imagine most of us do, often an exacerbating experience. But it really is just like any other challenge in our lives; if you think it works, or if you think it doesn't work, well, you are right.
One thing about my personality traits, I don't understand how I became more old fashioned than most men, because 6 months ago, I was more conventionally moral than most, and my answers haven't changed. Btw, I am far from being Amish. I may need to re take my questions, urgh.
If I messaged you, I probably spent a long time pouring over your profile, personality traits, and answers, all in the effort to find reasons why I wouldn't match with you, or vice versa. I might read profiles for 3 hours and only contact 3 women. Regardless if you reply or not, not one second of my time was wasted. For that special person for me, she is definitely worth every second spent looking for her. Again, I am very grateful for your time reading this. It is really the most valuable thing we have. I wish all of us the best of luck with our own searches, and our own journeys.

Although I have many interests, but physical activities are elementary to my existence. I have no problem putting in a full day working physically, then after work, going for a 1 or 2 hour hike, or mountain biking, and next day, do it again. Presently, I'm looking for a activities partner(s) who might want to try rocking climbing, and/or surfing, mountain biking, or just a hike. As a life-long wallflower, I would love to learn how to dance. It has been a few years since I have climbed outdoors and I have only gone surfing twice. So if you have some interest, and have a day, I'm willing to share what I know, and equipment, to give you a feel for either sport. Who knows, you might really enjoy it. OK, stop reading :-)

I feel we are all a little too close to the subject matter to be completely objective. I would think a self-summary of our negative traits would be harder to write, but more telling.
Let me help anyone viewing me decide if I'm someone they would like to know better. I feel my explanations to the questions will give you more than enough information to get the ball rolling. Although I know a few things that would/did drive me crazy in a partner, but I feel an exact list of personality traits is neither helpful or possible. Like tools in a toolbox, a trait which comes in really useful is an ability to compromise, another might be letting go of anger, but there are many ways to get the job done. Sorry for the metaphor.
So if we don't have a friend match with aprox. 70% of our answers, please stop reading. Some, not all of those questions seem to cut right to the chase. Sorry for making you do the research, but those extra minutes may save you/me from emailing a person who you really don't connect with, or a wasted evening. My friends describe me as; warm, kind, genuine, honest (to a fault), love to smile, willing to help anyone. I hope I can live up to those adjectives.
I asked my best friend to describe my personality, he said, "you are definitely not vanilla, that's for sure, more like rocky road, an acquired taste". Please take notice of my personality traits, we should have some matches, otherwise, time spent with me might feel like getting a root canal. That's fine, only looking for one. Either way, good luck, and enjoy your journey.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I was a contractor. Just finished a full renovation on a house flip, did it with family, I will never, ever do that again. This year I started a new business doing furniture refinishing/restoration. I work out of the city. I feel very fortunate to be able to work in a field where I really enjoy the work, and do it well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I really enjoy embarrassing the over educated in triviaI pursuit. I can do anything in construction, and better than the best pro. Not bragging, just fact. This pride has got me into all sorts of problems, so I'm trying to be more pragmatic. I'm really good at making my orthopedic surgeon wealthy. I have played competitive soccer(football) for most of my life. I still love it, but just with my kids now. I enjoy mountain biking, hiking and rock climbing, but have limited my interests so I can avoid my orthopedist. I clean really well, and I like doing it. I'm also neat and organized, (but not mental about it), and yes, I'm sure I like women.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm bald! Boy, I used to have hair like a sheep dog, I miss that. Well, I better own this look, because its the only one I have. I have been told I could pass for Jason Stratham, but I think it would have to be a really dark night, and your glasses would have to be plenty dirty. That I'm really shy for the first couple of minutes, then I start to feel comfortable, but I'm working on that. I really enjoy smiling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read poetry often, that always seems to improve my day. I enjoy historical based romantic films, the year of living dangerously, kingdom of heaven, the English patient, etc..., I like watching Anthony Bourdain- No reservations, travel channel. Turner classic movies, I enjoy silent, B/W, classic, foreign, independent films. I see at least one movie a week. My favorite recent film would be, the lunch Box, "sometimes the wrong train, takes you to the right station" Isn't that a great line? I love that. I listen to everything, but lately my favorite is Italian Opera, I like the passion, the energy. I will eat almost everything, particularly Japanese food. I recently started to collect vintage postcards from WW1, the cards are overly sweet, and romantic, but I enjoy pondering the fate of those couples.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children's love
trying to make each day better
Emotional intimacy (believe it or not, more important than sex)
The chance to watch the stars at night
more to come
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, hmmm...., Regardless of my statement below, I will for once edit myself. I try to get plenty of exercise, and I think often of buying a really fast motorcycle. That's my answer and I'm sticking to it. Actually, there is something else I try to focus on; I ask myself each day, if I'm trying my best?, what can I do to be a better father?, what do I have to do to be a better person?. I am always telling my friends, tic toc, tic toc, time waits for no one.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The past year, tv and planning my weekend, but I'm determined to make a social life a significant part of my weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Online or in person, if you ask a question, regardless, I will give you an honest answer, I have been warned by friends that this is a mistake, but frankly, fuck it, that's me. Regardless of what my libido is telling me, I would really prefer to focus on activities/ friendship first, intimacy after a friendship is established. All this is confusing enough, without adding another emotion to the mix. This isn't a diabolical plot to put women off their guard either, its just me, rocky road.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are not vanilla, and like rocky road, or hell, if you are vanilla and still like rocky road. One day I'm going to have to taste rocky road. Seriously, before contacting me, you have had to have done your homework. I am much more than a guy that can do handstands, and bicycle tricks. Much more importantly, the homework is about yourself, and what you really what from a relationship and this life.
If you have had enough experience in life to honestly assess the person you are, and the person you are working on being. Someone who is grateful for the person you are on the inside, and have forgiven yourself for failures, and the ability to love your whole package; the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Also, you will need to find space in your heart for at least one more person.