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49 M Port Washington, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:18pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi, I'm Bernard. I'm back on again. I have left my original profile up, but please just focus on this first paragraph. Frankly, I don't know if online dating actually works for me, but I have met some great people so far which I can call real friends, including my best friend, so I'm happy for that. Although I have many interests, but physical activities are elementary to my existence. I have no problem putting in a full day working physically, then after work go for a 1 or 2 hour hike, or mountain biking, and next day, do it again. Presently, I'm looking for a activities partner(s) who might want to try rocking climbing, and/or surfing or even just a hike, or mountain biking. As a life- long wallflower, I would love to learn how to dance. It has been a few years since I have climbed and I have only gone surfing twice. So if you have some interest, and have a day, I'm willing to share what I know and equipment to give you a feel for either sport. Who knows, you might really enjoy it. OK, stop reading :-)

I'm Bernard. I feel we are all a little too close to the subject matter to be completely objective. I would think a self-summary of our negative traits would be harder to write, but more telling. My worse trait I have been told is that I am occasionally irritating (is there a man who isn't?), fortunately this is rarely fatal, but after a few hours of my company, you might wish it were.
Let me help anyone viewing me decide if I'm someone they would like to know better. I feel my explanations to the questions will give you more than enough information to get the ball rolling. Although I know a few things that would/did drive me crazy in a partner, but I feel an exact list of personality traits is neither helpful or possible. Like tools in a toolbox, a trait which comes in really useful is an ability to compromise, another might be letting go of anger, but there are many ways to get the job done. Sorry for the metaphor.
This is starting to feel like a dumb way to meet someone, but everyone seems to think this is the way to meet. The only ancillary benefit is that my typing has gotten much better, but that wasn't my intention. So if we don't have a friend match with aprox. 70% of our answers, please stop reading. Some, not all of those questions seem to cut right to the chase. Sorry for making you do the research, but those extra minutes may save you/me from emailing a person who you really don't connect with, or a wasted evening. My friends describe me as; warm, kind, genuine, honest (to a fault), love to smile, willing to help anyone. I hope I can live up to those adjectives.
I asked my best friend to describe my personality, he said, "you are definitely not vanilla, that's for sure, more like rocky road, an acquired taste". Please take notice of my personality traits, we should have some matches, otherwise, time spent with me might feel like getting a root canal. That's fine, only looking for one. Either way, good luck, and enjoy your journey.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a contractor. Just finished a full renovation on a house flip, did it with family, I will never, ever do that again. As soon as the permits are filed, I will be a job supervisor on a 4,000sq. ft. home here in Port, it will be my first foundation up project, so I'm excited. Close to getting my NYC refrigeration license, one test to go.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can do anything in construction, and better than the best pro. Not bragging, just fact. This pride has got me into all sorts of problems, so I'm trying to be more pragmatic. I'm really good at making my orthopedic surgeon wealthy. I have played competitive soccer(football) for most of my life. I still love it, but just with my kids now. I enjoy mountain biking, hiking and rock climbing, but have limited my interests so I can avoid my orthopedist. I clean really well, and I like doing it. I'm also neat and organized, (but not mental about it), and yes, I'm sure I like women.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm bald! Boy, I used to have hair like a sheep dog, I miss that. Well, I better own this look, because its the only one I have. I have been told I could pass for Jason Stratham, but I think it would have to be a really dark night, and your glasses would have to be plenty dirty. That I'm really shy for the first couple of minutes, then I start to feel comfortable, but I'm working on that. I really enjoy smiling.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read poetry often, that always seems to improve my day. I enjoy historical based romantic films, the year of living dangerously, kingdom of heaven, the English patient, etc..., I like watching Anthony Bourdain- No reservations, travel channel. Turner classic movies, I enjoy silent, B/W, classic, foreign, independent films. I see at least one movie a week. My favorite recent film would be, the lunch Box, "sometimes the wrong train, takes you to the right station" I love that. I listen to everything, but lately my favorite is Italian Opera, I like the passion, the energy. I will eat almost everything, particularly Japanese food. I recently started to collect vintage postcards from WW1, the cards are overly sweet, and romantic, but I enjoy pondering the fate of those couples.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My children's love
trying to make each day better
intimacy (believe it or not, more important than sex)
The chance to watch the stars at night
more to come
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, hmmm...., Regardless of my statement below, I will for once edit myself. I try to get plenty of exercise, and I think often of buying a really fast motorcycle. That's my answer and I'm sticking to it. Actually, there is something else I try to focus on; I ask myself each day, if I'm trying my best?, what can I do to be a better father?, what do I have to do to be a better person?. I am always telling my friends, tic toc, tic toc, time waits for no one.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The past year, tv and planning my weekend, but I'm determined to make a social life a significant part of my weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Online or in person, if you ask a question, regardless, I will give you an honest answer, I have been warned by friends that this is a mistake, but frankly, fuck it, that's me. Regardless of what my libido is telling me, I would really prefer to focus on activities/ friendship first, intimacy after a friendship is established. All this is confusing enough, without adding another emotion to the mix. This isn't a diabolical plot to put women off their guard either, its me, rocky road.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are not vanilla, and like rocky road, or hell, if you are vanilla and still like rocky road. One day I'm going to have to taste rocky road.
If you have had enough experience in life to honestly assess the person you are, and the person you are working on being. Someone who is grateful for the person you are on the inside, and have forgiven yourself for failures, and the ability to love your whole package; the good, the bad, and the ugly. Also, you will need to find space in your heart for at least one more person.