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48 Syracuse, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 7:36am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Mostly other
Other, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Japanese (Okay), C++ (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
More honest than most are comfortable with.
More intelligent than most are ready for.
More loving than many will know.

I suffered hardships, overcame challenges, fought battles, sacrificed much, burned bridges, forged friendships, squandered opportunity, gotten lucky, and learned from most of it- mostly that I'm fuckin' still not done learning yet...

I have many interests and, a few plans.
A partnership would be excellent.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
That would be telling...

I will say though that technology, thinking and creativity are often involved. Fun sometimes too. Work, other times.

Come play.

Copyright 2015, Herbert Williams.

The body sends out enzymes,
organic messengers,
of all kinds, you see.

And we are pretty subject
to both their
whims, and authenticity.

But that one 'we call 'love'
whatever makes it, and
then won't depart

Surely just another
side effect?
Or is it
in the heart?

Science talks of pheremones,
or immuno-system

Are we all just romanticizing
the mechanics
of joining
family trees?


is there something
beneath it all?
Perhaps like 'fate'
or 'destiny'?

I guess I'll know
when once again
another makes
my heart skip beat
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Not a brag list at this time...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Used to be that I was tall, then the glasses (I've never worn contacts- can't be bothered.). Need to take new pics- no longer have the dreads...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My tastes are eclectic.
I guess it's easier to say what I don't like:
I don't read romance novels.
I don't watch much TV and have no sports affiliation. I rarely go to movies since I don't see many commercials, which is, I guess somewhat surprising since I don't often feel like I'm missing much.
I don't listen to most Country, most current Rap, Any Reggae, Ska, Bluegrass, or Polka unless it's weird Al.
Currently into Universal Hall Pass.
I don't eat okra unless it's in gumbo. I'm learning to avoid crap additives & fillers.
I'll try most things though.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love, though I'm having to make do
Compassion, though it seems harder to express
Logic, though the world makes less sense now
Motivation, though mine often seems forced
Learning, the last thing that still comes naturally
Power*- though I have little.

*but if I get some... MUAHAHA!
(just kidding)
I should mention, in this day and age, that freedom is power. Respond to it's change with inaction at your peril.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1. The intrinsic nature of the universe, rules & patterns.
2. Metaphysics (see 1 above)
3. Spirituality, and the 'all that is' (see 2 above)
4. Philosophy, free agency & desire (see 3 above)
5. Sex (who doesn't? (see 4 above)
6. One of my various projects.
(not involving sex... no patterns here- well, it's a coincidental pattern. Completely coincidental.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working on the dream, or escaping from the grind.
On occasion, both simultaneously (bonus!).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Fah. Like you wanna know...
You should message me if
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You apply the same standards to others as you apply to yourself.
You're not married: Separated is married.
You're honest: I'll accept 'no lies to cover your own failings' if it's the best you can honestly offer.
You're faithful: I've no time for betrayal. If you can't be trusted, don't think I'll never find out, or put up with it after.
You're considerate: You respond to people not just because it's polite, but because it's a link in how humanity works.
You're intelligent: This is not a headfull of facts- but the ability to listen and act appropriately. In other words you have common sense.
You can, and like to hold conversations with people: You realize that technology is just a tool. You answer emails, don't screen calls, etc- because:
1. you know there is a real person on the other end.
2. You understand how 'emergencies' work, and how they can become 'regrets' after the fact due to casual inaccessibility.
You're any man's equal: Traditional roles die in the face of practicality. You don't need a person to 'pursue you' to give you worth (or worse, 'prove their interest'). You can appreciate effort or ask the right questions to get your answers.

This is a new era. I'm looking for someone who isn't still trapped in the past. If you're looking for a 'prince' to 'rescue' you (or even for 'the man' to make 'the first move'), then you might be a better match for someone else. You can sit and wait for him like a good little princess.

All of this may seem unrealistic or stupid in this day and age, and I'll grant you that- but I want a friend in my lover, not someone who I can claim as my 'prize' through dogged persistence. Yes- I know- you may be worth it-- but the woman I'm looking for has enough imagination to wonder if I'm worth it too...

Why I'm not messaging you...

If you message me, I'll always respond (at least) kindly, BUT I message people I might be interested in pretty infrequently now, since I don't just go for looks, and so many women are just posting so little info. Apparently that whole 'I'm a needle in a haystack' thing doesn't make people want to exhibit their uniqueness. Whatever...

If your profile is pretty much just a picture, I'm not bothering.
Likewise, If your profile has no picture, I'm not bothering. I'm sure you have your reasons- good luck with that...

If you've defined your preference and I'm outside of it, I'm not bothering.
Likewise if you've defined your preference, and I'm in it due to race, 'beardedness' or other arbitrary uncontrollable standard, I'm not bothering.

Why am I saying this?

'True Love' is magic. Once. Maybe a few times if you're lucky. (Yes, I know, but don't ask me- I don't make the rules) Mostly though, it's work. It fades, and it's work. It endures, but it's work. It's my opinion people who think that 'magic just happens' don't get- won't get, that there's work involved.
Been there, done that. Prove me wrong, good luck to you.

You ever date someone for weeks or months and eventually find out some intolerable aspect of personality or whatever?

Ok, let's just say everyone 'playing nice' up front is a drag.

All it does is waste everyone's time unless you compromise to put up with shit due to perceived investment, so instead I've made a fair effort of making sure you know I'm possibly 'not right for you' up front.

You're welcome.