Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You apply the same standards to others as you apply to
You're not married: Separated is married.
You're honest: I'll accept 'no lies to cover your own failings' if
it's the best you can honestly offer.
You're faithful: I've no time for betrayal. If you can't be
trusted, don't think I'll never find out, or put up with it
You're considerate: You respond to people not just because it's
polite, but because it's a link in how humanity works.
You're intelligent: This is not a headfull of facts- but the
ability to listen and act appropriately. In other words you have
You can, and like to hold conversations with people: You realize
that technology is just a tool. You answer emails, don't screen
calls, etc- because:
1. you know there is a real person on the other end.
2. You understand how 'emergencies' work, and how they can become
'regrets' after the fact due to casual inaccessibility.
You're any man's equal: Traditional roles die in the face of
practicality. You don't need a person to 'pursue you' to give you
worth (or worse, 'prove their interest'). You can appreciate effort
or ask the right questions to get your answers.
This is a new era. I'm looking for someone who isn't still trapped
in the past. If you're looking for a 'prince' to 'rescue' you (or
even for 'the man' to make 'the first move'), then you might be a
better match for someone else. You can sit and wait for him like a
good little princess.
All of this may seem unrealistic or stupid in this day and age, and
I'll grant you that- but I want a friend in my lover, not someone
who I can claim as my 'prize' through dogged persistence. Yes- I
know- you may be worth it-- but the woman I'm looking for has
enough imagination to wonder if I'm worth it too...