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betheXofyou

36 M Sofia, Bulgaria

My Details

Last Online
Jul 22
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other
Sign
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I was born in Africa and attended secondary school in Ireland. I went to university in Wales and Oxford. I don't feel particularly like I come from anywhere despite my passport saying my official nationality. I have a PhD in political philosophy but my interests are far wider than that and my temprament is rather artistic and literary.

I have travelled a lot in Europe and worked in the Czech Republic, Bulgaria and Romania. I love the Balkans and would like to work in the Middle East or north Africa. At the moment I am based in Brussels seven or eight months of the year.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently working on two books and a number of article projects. I travel as much as I can, although as I am trying to cut down my CO2 emissions, only in Europe. I'll attend any conference within easy distance of some good walking. I love long distance cycling (which I did more in the past than now) and hiking.
I’m really good at
Boasting about my abilities (joke).
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm not very tidy, scruffy even. If you think there is nothing
hotter than a guy in a suit then I am probably not your cup of tea.
I can, though, wear uniforms by appointment for those that like
that kind of thing. LOL. If you are really hot I will ask the titres service to iron a shirt for me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books
Cervantes, Fielding's "Joseph Andrews", Bohumil Hrabal, Milan Kundera, Ian McEwan's "The Cement Garden", Italo Calvino, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Ivo Andric, Lars Iyer. I do seem to read rather a lot in translation - wish my languages extended beyond going to the market - and tend to avoid all the novels that get talked about in the 'cultural pages' of British newspapers.

I'll read anything in the old black Penguin's World Classics series, there are some incredible books. It amazes me I can buy for one or two euros the text of something that five hundred years ago existed in only a handful of copies. We don't know how rich we are. I much prefer listening to poetry than reading it for some reason, maybe the lack of an immediate and innate sense of rhythm. In philosophy Hegel, Nietzsche, Heidegger, Levinas, Blanchot and Derrida particularly interest me.

Films
All sorts of strange things from Brief Encounter via the Wicker Man to Otasanek. Thinking more generally I guess I like something with a surreal edge that's not consistently realistic. The Enigma of Casper Hauser, Aguirre Wrath of God and Remains of the Day are all favourites as is Lars von Trier's 'The Idiots'. I thought it was a general parable about the human condition. But then I went to Denmark and realised it was a desperate cry for help. There are downsides to the "perfect" Scandinavian societies.

I also like The Big Lebowski and most other things by the Coen brothers. Withnail & I is amusing in the same way. The aesthetics of failure, I guess. Superbad is the last film I can remember laughing aloud at. I like a film for being well made rather than what it is about or who is in it.

Music
God Speed You Black Emperor, Neutral Milk Hotel, The Stone Roses, Glasvegas, The Zombies, Ramones. Veronica Falls is a band I have recently discovered. Very annoyed to miss their recent Brussels concert.

I listen to BBC Radio 3 for classical music and BBC Radio 6 for alternative and new stuff. I miss my LP collection which always seems to be in a different part of Europe to me. I guess there is a reason they invented mp3 although I just love the look, feel and sound of vinyl.

Shows
Don't have a TV. I do read the TV reviews in the papers though in order to know what people are talking about. Occasionally I have a look at something highly recommended on DVD. Usually I find most television programmes take a good idea and kill it by spinning it out too long. The first few episodes of The League of Gentlemen were amusing in a surreal way but nothing near as good as Blue Jam on BBC Radio 1.

Food
I love to cook. I'm vegetarian for many years now. My first great discovery was with cooking curries but I don't cook them as often now as in the past.I mostly like all kinds of mediterranean and Balkan cooking as they tend to not be meat orientated and use lots of fresh ingredients. My major indulgence is cheese.
The six things I could never do without
It depends for how long. Without exercise I would go mad very quickly. I think a selection of books gets pretty inevitable after a few days, probably even hours. Internet connection is also quite essential although I would love to try and withdraw this cherished drug in the same way I gave up coffee. Access to some pristine nature is also very desireable (Belgium is very frustrating for me). A garden I definitely need in the long term. And sex, although I think only girls are allowed to say that in this section, and I do have to do without it far more than I would like :p
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The constant compounding of presence with absence. LOL.
On a typical Friday night I am
In the gym. Well, seriously, maybe, they do have a nice sauna.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was circumcised as a baby.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n9xAQS8n-G4
(I should have added Momus to my music likes).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
* If you like to make the first move (I am a confirmed feminist and won't have anything to do with traditional gender assumptions LOL).

* You are potentially interested in meeting in person. I spend way too much time with my computer to want to have long virtual conversations. It is nice to see a human face while you communicate.

* Even if you are not the same as me in outlook. I would find a mirror image of myself extremely unerotic. I actually have a bit of an opposite attraction thing.

* You are Charlotte Roche.

* You are looking for someone to go walking or cycling with or have adventurous tastes in music and want to go to concerts.