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betterasaurus

46 M Pitman, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Jul 6
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Russian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Sick of dating websites. Would love to find a great match. What to do?

I'm a decent, considerate, artsy/musical, intelligent/discerning guy, looking for someone with whom to have fun, share love and support. Ideally I'd like to create a family, in whatever way that works. (Got questions? please ask!)

I've got "high intimacy potential," so I'm looking for a woman who wants to be in a relationship, is considerate of others, and reasonably responsible. If you're particularly religious, drink habitually, or smoke, probably not a good match. Physical attractiveness counts, and I don't tend to go for women who are obese, but I recognize beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I enjoy being in nature, playing non-violent sports like tennis, and I appreciate fine cuisine, music, and art. I have a dry and/or silly sense of humor, and can have a bit of an edge at times. Certainly more Jon Stewart than Vin Diesel. I might be more honest than most people, and sometimes have to remind myself to engage my filters, but I also need honesty in relationships.

I've been told that in person I look better than my photos (I was flattered, but not sure I believed it). Check out the photos' captions for a date stamp.

Other stuff: I enjoy singing and playing musical instruments, but only occasionally perform professionally. Sometimes watch TV. I still read books occasionally, and finish most of them eventually; although the more technology has crept into my life (I'm talking about you, iPad...and you, laptop...and now you, iPhone...), the less literature I consume.

My agnosticism and buddhist leanings belie my Jewish upbringing. I'm the child of a Holocaust survivor. I sometimes meditate at a Buddhist temple. NOT religious.

I have loved and been loved, yet sometimes love is not enough to make a relationship work. I am seeking the relationship that works.

One more thing...I haven't yet perfected a method of discerning compatible "chemistry" by reading anyone's self-description or analyzing a series of photos. Until then, meeting in person and spending some time together seems to be the best way to figure things out. (In other words, if we find each other interesting, please let's make a date.) I welcome any feedback.
What I’m doing with my life
Counseling and music. I help people learn, grow, and like themselves better. Then I try to do the same for myself. Oh yes, I'm also looking for an epic (or compatible) romantic relationship, and hoping to have a family.

Update: I seem to be in a transitional period, and considering modification to my career path. If you're not ok with that, it's better to find out now than on a date.
I’m really good at
Being a good friend, talking, listening, playing music and singing, analyzing social interactions, delivering a joke with a straight face, missing the basket, and seeing the glass as half-full AND half-empty. Also fairly good at frisbee, pool, table tennis, and regular tennis.
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe that I punctuate well, and use emoticons to indicate friendliness. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Most enjoyable movie of 2014 so far: American Hustle. Also liked Spike Jonze's "Her." Louie, Moonrise Kingdom, Flight of the Conchords, Lonesome Dove, Love in the Time of Cholera, classics I haven't read yet, Cole Porter, JCS, 70's Bowie, XPN's Sleepy Hollow, Shark Tank, documentaries, something new and different, movies at The Ritz, all kinds of international cuisine.
The six things I could never do without
Friends, family, movement/exercise, food and water, music, quiet time; adventure, safety, belonging, responsibility, purpose, and humor; Love. Yes, I know that's more than six.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
my future, my past, other people, food, music, money...and also, I wonder who you might be.
On a typical Friday night I am
Spending time with friends watching a movie, going to dinner, playing a game or an instrument, surfing the web, seeing a live performance. On a bad Friday night I will be looking at this website, cursing my fate. Please, no more bad Friday nights. :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Nothing today. Probably a lot if we get along well.

OK something happened today I feel like sharing: the news headline read "Tyson Recalls Chicken Nuggets," and my brain processed this as Mike Tyson reminiscing about chicken nuggets.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You want a loving, fun, life-long relationship, or a date. You express your thoughts and feelings in mostly healthy ways. You are not selfish. You look fine without makeup. You don't require alcohol on a regular basis. No matter how sweet your pet is, he/she is not your favorite person. You've read my profile and looked at my answers, and think we could be a good match.