I am smart, sarcastic, and irreverent; kind-but-tough, good-but-bad, fun-but-serious, shy-but-bold. I am a little quiet so it takes getting to know me, but I think I'm pretty good company, a great listener, loving, easy to be with, curious, and cheerful most of the time. I tend to listen more than I talk but I can also be very direct when necessary.

I’m a devoted single, working mother of a toddler, so my time is very precious. I try to fill it only with activities and people I love. For the most part, I succeed.

I'm kind of geeky, kind of dorky, kind of jocky. I've been known to write a line or two of elegant code, and I have a special place in my heart for emacs. I make my living working on big websites, which is a tad geeky, but it's really more of a job than a passion. I'm not into MMORGs and I don't run Linux. But if you do: great. I tend to hang out with people who are way more geeky than myself, and I’m just fine with that.

And then there's the dorky side. I have an old person's taste in music. I love to garden. I spend way too much time looking at the Breck's catalog (if you know what that is you should message me right now because we might be soul mates; either that or we can swap bulbs). I'm hopelessly behind on pop culture, I don't watch television, and I somehow managed to grow up in the 80s without having watched any MTV. I do, however, love public radio... Car Talk, This American Life, even Prairie Home Companion. Let’s face it, I’m un-hip.

And a bit of a jock. I'm pretty fit and I do as much exercise as my schedule permits. My favorite short workout is 100 burpees in my kitchen. I like to call it the busy Mom’s workout. I recently discovered Crossfit, I enjoy semi-regular relaxing, zoned-out runs, and I dabble in rock climbing. In my past lives I’ve been a gymnast, a dancer, a runner, and a rower.

I'm looking for companions and companionship, lovers and friends. I'm not looking for a boyfriend or a girlfriend, or a husband or a wife… at least not in the traditional sense. I am honest, loving, and I don’t do much drama. I don’t always know exactly what I want, but I’m out there looking for it anyway. I make it a point to learn stuff from the people in my life, so if you can teach me something new, fantastic.

Working full time, mothering a toddler, fixing up my fixer upper, taking care of myself as much as possible which includes working out, gardening, occasionally resting, reading a book now and then, and enjoying the company of wonderful people.

I don't know that I'm *really* good at anything, but I'm pretty good at:

Cooking healthy food
Tending my garden
Parenting my daughter
Interface layer web technologies
Listening and being a good friend
Making people feel happy
Parallel parking
Pushups
Handstands
Interior design on a budget
Speaking Spanish

I don't know... if we meet, maybe you can tell me!

Books: I am not terribly well read. Partly because my parochial school education frowned on literature, and partly because I'm a slacker. But, I have managed to crack open a book or two.

Siddhartha is my all-time favorite. I re-read it from time to time. Since I discovered Kindle on the iphone, I'm enjoying a bit of a personal reading renaissance. I always enjoy science fiction, especially classics like Neal Stephenson and William Gibson. I just finished Birthday of the World (had not previously read Le Guin). Love Isak Dinesen and Murakami. I'll always be fond of Hunter Thompson. For some reason, I also really love The Sun Also Rises, though I don't pretend to understand Hemingway.

Movies: Love movies of all kinds. Some of my favorites include Dersu Usala (don't worry, no one's ever heard of it) and Babette's Feast. I also love a good Kung Fu (love Jackie Chan and Chow Yun Fat) or action-adventure movie. And, I'll admit it... I've seen Terminator 2, like, a hundred times. What can I say? I love Linda Hamilton.

Music: All time favorites are Leonard Cohen and Nina Simone. My tastes in music run to the sort of old and fuddy-duddy. Love big band and swing and old time folk. I have been known to rock out on occasion but I don't seem to enjoy rock and roll as much as my peers. That said, sometimes after a few Shiners and a few great songs, a rock and roll show seems like just about the funnest thing on Earth.

TV: don't have one and don't really watch it. However, I'm a huge BSG fan. I haven't finished the series yet so no spoilers!

My daughter, sunshine, physical activity of some kind, a place to call my own, music, my computer, and coffee.

How to get everything done; how to fit work, recreation, and enough love into my life; my next home-improvement or landscaping project.

Chasing my toddler around, bonding with friends, or both.

I've done a lot of wacky stuff in my life, and yet people still assume that I'm "good". I guess I'm good-but-bad, which is the way I like it.

I cry at sad books and movies, and sad stories.

I can't spell worth a damn.

You should message me if you are smart, loving, and kind.

If you are experienced with, or curious about non-traditional, non-monogamous relationships.

If you are a parent, or okay with dating a parent.

If you love a good action movie, want to eat crepes for lunch, want to go for a run or lift weights, want to talk about polyamory, love gardening, are in expert in Rails and want to give me a tutorial, want to chat about interior design, can teach me something about architecture, know something about the Austin rock climbing scene or want to go for a climb, are a single (well, or married) parent, want to practice conversational Spanish (I speak quite well), share my taste in music, are an experienced bdsm top, want to go to gospel brunch, make a mean bloody mary, are fantastic in bed, like kissing, want to go clothes shopping or get a pedicure, want to hike the greenbelt, know something about sailing, or want to introduce me to a new sport.