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bettyboop120
31 / F / straight / Seeing someone
Saint Helens, United Kingdom
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It's nice to be nice or is it?
Looking through people's posts everyone is looking for a 'nice' guy or 'nice' girl. There are various posts from guys saying that nice guys finish last and no-one wants a nice guy. Well what about the nice ladies - where do they finish?
Is it just a lack of imagination when describing what we are looking for, or a misconception of what nice actually is, and is anyone actually looking for nice?
Nice is just a euphemism for undesirable.
pomelogranate commented on
I think saying "nice" is too vague. I don't say I want a "nice"
guys, because #1 What person would ever say 'I'm not nice'... I
think everyone's definition is different. Some of the nicest guys
just aren't boyfriend material for other reasons... Nice guys
finish last because, in my experience, nice guys tend to be clingy
and dare I say "too nice" (whatever that means, right.)... girls
don't want a guy they can run over... but at the same time they
don't want a guy who completely disregards their wants and needs. I
think "nice girls" have a better chance of not finishing lasts,
because a guy would LOVE a "go with the flow" "everything is
peachy", type of girl. However, nice, in my experience, fails when
u don't have sex on the 1st, 2nd, or OMG, 3rd date... then ur "too
nice", and not exactly what a guy wants to deal with. I think
saying nice is the easy way out, and people tend to not look deeper
at things that are so common, to see exactly what that person
means... and because u have done that, I do applaud u. (now
hopefully I didn't put that in my profile lol)
ohnowutwillitsay commented on
No. I'm looking for Henry Rollins.
TwinkieWhore commented on
This is a more involved question than you might have imagined when
you asked it; "nice" is one of the most complicated words in the
English language. It used to mean foolish and senseless, and it
also meant wanton and lascivious, but even as early as Caxton it
also meant elegant and smart ("full of proper and nyce"). The OED
says "The precise development of the very divergent senses which
[sic] this word has acquired in English is not altogether clear."
angellogic commented on
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