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bhaktivagabond

32 F Tucson, AZ

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 16
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It's like this:
I have many terrible qualities that you should know about, so please read this nonsense before you message me. If it feels like homework to read a whole profile and then think of something meaningful to say, please move along because your true love is waiting out there for you somewhere else, and she is sifting through dozens of unsexy cold calls just trying to find you.

I am nerdy and introverted and full of smartypants opinions. I was raised by philosophers and it has fucked me up for life, in a good way. I have a lot of creative energy but lack diligence, with the consequence that I do a lot of things -- paint, knit, write, garden, play guitar -- and none of them very well. I love to drive -- by myself for days or weeks on end, if I can -- which makes me a terrible environmentalist and not a very good grown-up either. My living room is full of books and paintings; I appreciate having someone around who can razz me a little bit, lest I take myself too seriously; I like other people, really I do, but I also like my own company so much that the first part isn't always evident.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I teach children and it is the best job ever. I get about 50 hugs a day. They help to keep me honest and still love and admire me no matter what. Being worthy of their admiration is a gargantuan task.

Saving for a big trip to Europe next summer. My piggy bank is about half-full.

Making plans to ride my bike to the pool. Thinking about roller derby. Taking a nap instead.

Driving around, painting sometimes, reading, working, living in the world. If I don't respond to your message, please assume that it is because I am busy doing one of those things, and not because of anything you said.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Unraveling ideas and then braiding them in with others.
Living with paradox.
Telling fairy tales.
Packing a suitcase/box/car to maximum density.
Walking into things.

Quitting smoking. I'm so good at it that I've re-started smoking dozens of times, just so I can quit again. This is my way of asking you, if we ever meet, to please never give me cigarettes, even if I ask you. Which I won't.

Things I am NOT good at:
Reading non-verbal cues.
Staying in one place for very long.
Being comfortable in bars.
Admitting I like you without a lot of encouragement, especially if I do.
Remembering what day is garbage day.
Trivial Pursuit. If we're smart enough to play this game instead of Candyland, why would we want to spend our whole evening on things that are trivial?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The tattoos. And the Tall.

I hear that I come off as somewhat less-than-approachable. I assure you that I have no control over this and am a whole lot more insecure than I seem.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:
Cyrano de Bergerac and Peter Pan.
World mythology. Fairy tales.
Les Miserables -- the book, the movie(s), and okay, the musical too.

Movies:
Amelie, Lord of the Rings, The Princess Bride.
I watch plenty of TV but I won't admit that to you.

Music:
Rock and roll.
Some bluegrass.
Tom Waits.

Food:
I like to eat it and I recognize its importance, but I fail to make it a priority. I eat organic as much as one can who never cooks. I am not vegetarian but I think of meat as a decadence on a planet with 7 billion people.

Oh, and I drink a shit ton of coffee.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Stories
Music
Coffee
Blue jeans
Autonomy
Cat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My students. If that sounds like a boring answer, think again. They're complicated!!!

The stories people tell each other -- myths, folk tales, legends, histories, biographies -- to understand All Of This.

While I don't adhere to any religious tradition, I am not an atheist. This is worth pointing out because so many smart people (ie, people I get along with) ARE atheists, and for some of them, this is a turn-off. So take note: your beliefs (or lack thereof) are a-okay with me, but I will not join you in vilifying the beliefs of others, so please don't ask me to. (edit: This is not to discourage healthy debate, which I love. I'm all for lively discourse, which is really only possible when diverse perspectives are welcomed without personal judgement. Right?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In theory:
Exploring Tucson, going on adventures, dancing at a bluegrass show, opining with someone smart over pancakes and diner coffee.

In practice:
Taking a nap, hanging out with work friends, knitting and watching old Twilight Zone episodes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am finally ready for my next relationship to be something more than a fun experiment. There, I said it. This doesn't mean I'm in a big hurry; in fact, just the opposite. Let's take our sweet time and make sure we actually fit well before we do anything too crazy.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you wouldn't mind waking up next to a lady pipe-fitter. (Update: No, I'm not really a pipe-fitter. Try to keep up.)

If you are not racist, sexist, homophobic, or otherwise a bigot. Those are dealbreakers, sorry. Ditto alcoholism; ditto abuse; ditto booty calls.

If you are busy Doing Something with yourself -- a job, an artistic or academic pursuit, a craft, a goal. I am a teacher, and therefore a workaholic, which means that if I am the most interesting thing happening in your life, this is probably going to be unsatisfying for both of us. But if you are a nerd about something, please write to me and tell me what it is. Even if we have zero chemistry, we'll both still learn something new. And if you aren't, please get off the computer and go outside and do some living.