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32 Tucson, AZ Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:18pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a pain in the ass.

I was raised by philosophers and it has fucked me up for life, in the best possible way. I have a lot of creative energy but lack diligence, with the consequence that I do a lot of things -- paint, knit, write, garden, play music -- and none of them very well. I appreciate having someone around who can razz me a little bit, lest I take myself too seriously.

I'm a nerd and an introvert, unapologetically. I like other people, really I do, but I also like my own company so much that the first part isn't always evident. I'm midwestern. A little bit oblivious. Self-deprecating. Always right. Often lost in thought. Fundamentally kind. Slow to reveal. A terribe liar. Principled, sometimes in stupid ways. A lover of logic and reason, but not at the expense of truth. And if we ever meet, I won't tell you anything that really matters about me, unless you ask first. Good luck knowing what to ask.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I teach children and it is the best job ever. I get about 50 hugs a day. They help to keep me honest and still love and admire me no matter what. Being worthy of their admiration is a gargantuan task.

Saving for a big trip to Europe next summer. My piggy bank is about half-full.

Making plans to ride my bike to the pool. Thinking about roller derby. Taking a nap instead.

Driving around, painting sometimes, reading books, working, living in the world. If I don't respond to your message, please assume that it is because I am busy doing one of those things, and not because of anything you said.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Unraveling ideas and then braiding them in with others.
Living with paradox.
Telling fairy tales.
Packing a suitcase/box/car to maximum density.
Walking into things.

Quitting smoking. I'm so good at it that I've re-started smoking dozens of times, just so I can quit again. This is my way of asking you, if we ever meet, to please never give me cigarettes, even if I ask you. Which I won't.

Things I am NOT good at:
Reading non-verbal cues.
Staying in one place for very long.
Being comfortable in bars.
Admitting I like you without a lot of encouragement, especially if I do.
Remembering what day is garbage day.
Trivial Pursuit. If we're so smart, why would we want to spend our whole evening on things that are trivial?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall, really tall. With tattoos. So....

Possibly related: I hear that I come off as somewhat less-than-approachable. Rest assured that I have no control over this. The truth is that on the inside, I am so, so silly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Cyrano de Bergerac and Peter Pan.
World mythology. Fairy tales.
Les Miserables -- the book, the movie(s), and okay, the musical too.

Amelie, Lord of the Rings, The Princess Bride.
I watch plenty of TV but I won't admit that to you.

Rock and roll.
Some bluegrass.
Tom Waits.

I like to eat it and I recognize its importance, but I fail to make it a priority. I eat organic as much as one can who never cooks. I am not vegetarian but I think of meat as a decadence on a planet with 7 billion people.

Oh and coffee, so much coffee.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A garden.
A library.

Blue jeans
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My students. If that sounds like a boring answer, think again. People are complicated and awesome.

The stories people tell each other -- myths, folk tales, legends, histories, biographies -- to understand All Of This.

I don't know what I am, but I know I am not an atheist. Smart people sometimes take issue with this. So take note: if you think that religion is a plague on the world, we are probably going to argue. That's okay with me if it's okay with you.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
too tired for dancing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't see what the big deal is about The Goonies. I'm sorry, everyone. I'm so sorry.

I am finally ready for my next relationship to be something more than a fun experiment. There, I said it. This doesn't mean I'm in a big hurry; in fact, just the opposite. Let's take our sweet time and make sure we actually fit well before we do anything too crazy.
You should message me if
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If you wouldn't mind waking up next to a lady pipe-fitter. (Update: No, I'm not really a pipe-fitter. Try to keep up.)

If you are not racist, sexist, homophobic, or otherwise a bigot. Those are dealbreakers, sorry. Ditto alcoholism; ditto abuse.

If you are busy Doing Something with yourself -- a job, an artistic or academic pursuit, a craft, a goal. I am a teacher, and therefore a workaholic, which means that if I am the most interesting thing happening in your life, this is probably going to be unsatisfying for both of us. But if you are passionate about something, please write to me and tell me what it is. Even if we have zero chemistry, we'll both still learn something new. And if you aren't, please get off the computer and go outside and do some living.