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32 F Tucson, AZ

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:08pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
It's like this:
I have many terrible qualities that you should know about, so please read this nonsense before you message me. If it feels like homework to read a whole profile and then think of something meaningful to say, please move along because your true love is waiting out there for you somewhere else, and she is sifting through dozens of unsexy cold calls just trying to find you.

I am nerdy and introverted and full of smartypants opinions. I was raised by philosophers and it has fucked me up for life, in a good way. I have a lot of creative energy but lack diligence, with the consequence that I do a lot of things -- paint, knit, write, garden, play guitar -- and none of them very well. I love to drive -- by myself for days or weeks on end, if I can -- which makes me a terrible environmentalist and not a very good grown-up either. My living room is full of books and paintings; I appreciate having someone around who can razz me a little bit, lest I take myself too seriously; I like other people, really I do, but I also like my own company so much that the first part isn't always evident.
What I’m doing with my life
I teach children and it is the best job ever. I get about 50 hugs a day. They help to keep me honest and still love and admire me no matter what. Being worthy of their admiration is a gargantuan task.

I've been away from okcupid for a little over a year and, well, it is maybe just a little bit depressing to be back. If I don't respond to your message, please assume that it is because I am busy driving, painting, reading, or working, and not because of anything you said.
I’m really good at
Unraveling ideas and then braiding them in with others.
Living with paradox.
Telling fairy tales.
Packing a suitcase/box/car to maximum density.
Walking into things.

Quitting smoking. I'm so good at it that I've re-started smoking dozens of times, just so I can quit again. This is my way of asking you, if we ever meet, to please never give me cigarettes, even if I ask you. Which I won't.

Things I am NOT good at:
Reading non-verbal cues.
Staying in one place for very long.
Being comfortable in bars.
Admitting I like you without a lot of encouragement, especially if I do.
Remembering what day is garbage day.
Trivial Pursuit. If we're smart enough to play this game instead of Candyland, why would we want to spend our whole evening on things that are trivial?
The first things people usually notice about me
The tattoos. And the Tall.

I hear that I come off as somewhat less-than-approachable. I assure you that I have no control over this and am a whole lot more insecure than I seem.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Cyrano de Bergerac and Peter Pan.
World mythology. Fairy tales.
Les Miserables -- the book, the movie(s), and okay, the musical too.

Amelie, Lord of the Rings, The Princess Bride.
I watch plenty of TV but I won't admit that to you.

Rock and roll.
Some bluegrass.
Tom Waits.

I like to eat it and I recognize its importance, but I fail to make it a priority. I eat organic as much as one can who never cooks. I am not vegetarian but I think of meat as a decadence on a planet with 7 billion people.
The six things I could never do without
Blue jeans
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My students. If that sounds like a boring answer, think again. They're complicated!!!

The stories people tell each other -- myths, folk tales, legends, histories, biographies -- to understand All Of This.

Interpersonal politics, and not because I care about them -- in fact, I vehemently DON'T -- but rather because I am starting to understand that I was put on earth to work on something, and this appears to be the thing I need to work on the most, at least for now.
On a typical Friday night I am
In theory:
Exploring Tucson, going on adventures, dancing at a bluegrass show, opining with someone smart over pancakes and diner coffee.

In practice:
Taking a nap, hanging out with work friends, knitting and watching old Twilight Zone episodes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Once I did somebody's Geometry homework in exchange for a haircut. The haircut was a travesty, but she got an A.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you are still prepared to put up with me after all that shit you just read.

If you are not racist, sexist, homophobic, or otherwise a bigot. Those are dealbreakers, sorry. Ditto alcoholism; ditto abuse; ditto booty calls.

If you are busy Doing Something with yourself -- a job, an artistic or academic pursuit, a craft, a goal. I am a teacher, and therefore a workaholic, which means that if I am the most interesting thing happening in your life, this is probably going to be unsatisfying for both of us. But if you are a nerd about something, please write to me and tell me what it is. Even if we have zero chemistry, we'll both still learn something new. And if you aren't, please get off the computer and go outside and do some living.