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big_jay71

30 / M / Straight / Single

Buford, Georgia

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Need a roommate

Oct 3, 2010

My current roommate is leaving me high and dry, moving out in 2 weeks. I need a new one. All that ask is that you be moderately clean, respectful, with no pets or kids.

My current roommate is leaving me high and dry, moving out in 2weeks. I need a new one. All that ask is that you be moderatelyclean, respectful, with no pets or kids.

Need a roommate

Did I wait too long?

Jul 26, 2010

Sometimes I wonder if I should have settled down when I was younger. Did I wait too long? I mean hell, I'm only 28 years old. I know I feel old sometimes but the truth is I'm not. But the real truth is I wasn't ready when I was younger. I was "young, dumb, and full of cum." All of my close friends are roughly the same age that I am, and most of them got married young when they were about 20-21. At the time and even years after I thought they were crazy. Sometimes I think they still are. Watching their relationships in the early 20's was brutal. Fighting over the most inconsequential bullshit. I have to say, I never thought any of their relationships would last. And to this day they are all still married. Now I'm not saying I'm looking for marriage. Honestly I'd just like a little companionship. As independent as I am it would be nice to have someone to do things with, someone to be a sounding board when I need to vent, just someone to be there for me. I don't know. Maybe I'm just ranting because I'm a little lonely at this very instant. It's not that I particularly dislike being single. I rather enjoy the freedom, but that freedom does come with a small price. Unfortunately I don't meet many woman I can connect with, or rather I don't meet many single/available women I can connect with. Lately the few I do click with are all married. Which brings me to my original thought, should I have sucked it up and gotten involved earlier when more women in my general age range were also single and without kids already. That's the other thing that makes it tough, finding women who don't already have a litter of children. Or aren't emotionally scared by divorce. But those are topics for a different post. It's not like I'm super picky. I really only have a couple of hard rules when it comes to a potential LTR. No kids, not overly religious, and be a Liberal or at least an open minded progressive. Oh well. Tough shit. Life goes on. Thanks for listening.

Sometimes I wonder if I should have settled down when I wasyounger. Did I wait too long? I mean hell, I'm only 28 years old. Iknow I feel old sometimes but the truth is I'm not. But the realtruth is I wasn't ready when I was younger. I was "young, dumb, andfull of cum." All of my close friends are roughly the same age thatI am, and most of them got married young when they were about20-21. At the time and even years after I thought they were crazy.Sometimes I think they still are. Watching their relationships inthe early 20's was brutal. Fighting over the most inconsequentialbullshit. I have to say, I never thought any of their relationshipswould last. And to this day they are all still married. Now I'm notsaying I'm looking for marriage. Honestly I'd just like a littlecompanionship. As independent as I am it would be nice to havesomeone to do things with, someone to be a sounding board when Ineed to vent, just someone to be there for me. I don't know. MaybeI'm just ranting because I'm a little lonely at this very instant.It's not that I particularly dislike being single. I rather enjoythe freedom, but that freedom does come with a small price.Unfortunately I don't meet many woman I can connect with, or ratherI don't meet many single/available women I can connect with. Latelythe few I do click with are all married. Which brings me to myoriginal thought, should I have sucked it up and gotten involvedearlier when more women in my general age range were also singleand without kids already. That's the other thing that makes ittough, finding women who don't already have a litter of children.Or aren't emotionally scared by divorce. But those are topics for adifferent post. It's not like I'm super picky. I really only have acouple of hard rules when it comes to a potential LTR. No kids, notoverly religious, and be a Liberal or at least an open mindedprogressive. Oh well. Tough shit. Life goes on. Thanks forlistening.

Did I wait too long?

"It's a celebration bitches"

Jan 18, 2010

Major brownie points for whoever knows where that quote comes from. Anyway, today's my birthday. I'm 28 years old. What am I suppose to make of it? It's not really a milestone of any type. I can already buy cigarettes and booze, and my car insurance has already been lowered. I'm still 7 years away from being able to run for President. I'm 2 years away from the dreaded 30. I feel lke I should be doing something. Unfortunately I really don't have any party friends anymore. All of my friends are married with kids, living lives too busy for a night of reckless fun. And any friends I've had in the past that would be into a night of drinking on a Monday I waved bye-bye to a long time ago. Last year I felt I owed it to myself to go out and have a little fun. But I pretty much ended up at a local bar, drinking alone, and being completely bored. My night was interrupted by someone I used to go to high school with, one of those that I cut out of my life a long time go because they refused to grow up. What turned into a night of boredom was made worse by him and his ridiculously irratating girl friend (note that this was not his girlfriend but a girl-friend, a.k.a. some clueless whore who made a pretend big deal of the fact that he had cheated on his GF with her previously while simultaniously kissing his neck and sticking her hand down his pants). So what am I to do tonight? Go through that again? Maybe this time will be better. Maybe I'll run into someone from my past that I would actually enjoy seeing. I don't know. I do know this, when I turn 30 I'm getting absolutely loaded and I'm going to insist that all my married friends come out and babysit me like i had done on so many occcasions previously before they got married and had all those little fun-killing rugrats. Just had to vent, thanks for listening.

Major brownie points for whoever knows where that quote comesfrom. Anyway, today's my birthday. I'm 28 years old. What am Isuppose to make of it? It's not really a milestone of any type. Ican already buy cigarettes and booze, and my car insurance hasalready been lowered. I'm still 7 years away from being able to runfor President. I'm 2 years away from the dreaded 30. I feel lke Ishould be doing something. Unfortunately I really don't have anyparty friends anymore. All of my friends are married with kids,living lives too busy for a night of reckless fun. And any friendsI've had in the past that would be into a night of drinking on aMonday I waved bye-bye to a long time ago. Last year I felt I owedit to myself to go out and have a little fun. But I pretty muchended up at a local bar, drinking alone, and being completelybored. My night was interrupted by someone I used to go to highschool with, one of those that I cut out of my life a long time gobecause they refused to grow up. What turned into a night ofboredom was made worse by him and his ridiculously irratating girlfriend (note that this was not his girlfriend but a girl-friend,a.k.a. some clueless whore who made a pretend big deal of the factthat he had cheated on his GF with her previously whilesimultaniously kissing his neck and sticking her hand down hispants). So what am I to do tonight? Go through that again? Maybethis time will be better. Maybe I'll run into someone from my pastthat I would actually enjoy seeing. I don't know. I do know this,when I turn 30 I'm getting absolutely loaded and I'm going toinsist that all my married friends come out and babysit me like ihad done on so many occcasions previously before they got marriedand had all those little fun-killing rugrats. Just had to vent,thanks for listening.

"It's a celebration bitches"

"The Good"

Jul 13, 2009

Anyone who knows me will instantly find out my good qualities. First off, I am fiercely loyal to the few close people in my life. I would do anything within my power to help them in thier times of need. So for anyone who gets to be in that circle should feel lucky in that aspect. Another great quality is my honestly, although sometimes I do find it to be a bit of a fault. I'm certainly not shy about voicing my opinions in a very blunt manner. Although I do try to put other peoples feelings into consideration before opening my big mouth. My anal-retentave, near OCD-like quality means that I'm never EVER late for anything. Some people like it, although I do get annoyed when other people don't stand up to my standard of puntuality. I've gone my whole life without cheating on anyone. I guess that should be a standard and not something worth noting but it's surprising how many people have done it at least once. Not that I'm judging. I above anyone understand primal impulses. I just know how angy and betrayed I would feel if someone were to do it to me. And it has been done before. What I believe to be my most endearing quality above all is my natural common sense. Everyone seems to think they have it, but I've come to realize it's actually a pretty rare quality. Thankfully I'm blessed to be driven by logic and reason, as opposed to emotion and indecision. Well I guess that's all for now. I do have more qualities than that but it's a good start right?

Anyone who knows me will instantly find out my good qualities.First off, I am fiercely loyal to the few close people in my life.I would do anything within my power to help them in thier times ofneed. So for anyone who gets to be in that circle should feel luckyin that aspect. Another great quality is my honestly, althoughsometimes I do find it to be a bit of a fault. I'm certainly notshy about voicing my opinions in a very blunt manner. Although I dotry to put other peoples feelings into consideration before openingmy big mouth. My anal-retentave, near OCD-like quality means thatI'm never EVER late for anything. Some people like it, although Ido get annoyed when other people don't stand up to my standard ofpuntuality. I've gone my whole life without cheating on anyone. Iguess that should be a standard and not something worth noting butit's surprising how many people have done it at least once. Notthat I'm judging. I above anyone understand primal impulses. I justknow how angy and betrayed I would feel if someone were to do it tome. And it has been done before. What I believe to be my mostendearing quality above all is my natural common sense. Everyoneseems to think they have it, but I've come to realize it's actuallya pretty rare quality. Thankfully I'm blessed to be driven by logicand reason, as opposed to emotion and indecision. Well I guessthat's all for now. I do have more qualities than that but it's agood start right?

"The Good"

Honesty is the best policy isn't it?

May 16, 2009

OK so look, when I say I don't like or want children I'm not implying that I think women who have them, or even want them, are some how undesirable. And I'm not saying that the lifestyle they've chosen is wrong. All I'm say is that I DON'T LIKE OR WANT CHILDREN FOR MYSELF. I hate that I even have to say this. But I've been the recipient of two unprovoked bitchy emails already so I have to say something. Although I'm sure to receive at least a few more because of this post. One woman bitched at me and I had never even had any prior contact with them. The other contacted me first and all I did was be honest and upfront with her that I'm not interested in being with someone who has children. If you have children "more power to you", but personally I don't have that innate desire to spread my seed, nurture a genetic replication of myself, or be tied to an 18 year bill. I'm always honest and upfront about this when talking to anyone, so I don't see why someone should be surprised by it. It even says on my profile "kids: Dislikes Children" on it. So is it suppose to be my fault if you don't read that?
OK so look, when I say I don't like or want children I'm notimplying that I think women who have them, or even want them, aresome how undesirable. And I'm not saying that the lifestyle they'vechosen is wrong. All I'm say is that I DON'T LIKE OR WANT CHILDRENFOR MYSELF. I hate that I even have to say this. But I've been therecipient of two unprovoked bitchy emails already so I have to saysomething. Although I'm sure to receive at least a few more becauseof this post. One woman bitched at me and I had never even had anyprior contact with them. The other contacted me first and all I didwas be honest and upfront with her that I'm not interested in beingwith someone who has children. If you have children "more power toyou", but personally I don't have that innate desire to spread myseed, nurture a genetic replication of myself, or be tied to an 18year bill. I'm always honest and upfront about this when talking toanyone, so I don't see why someone should be surprised by it. Iteven says on my profile "kids: Dislikes Children" on it. So is itsuppose to be my fault if you don't read that?
Honesty is the best policy isn't it?

Random update cause I'm bored at work

Mar 26, 2009

So there's nothing much to report in my life. Which is usually the case. The only new thing is that I'm growing a beard. It's funny, I've had facial hair since I was 13 but I never thought to grow a beard before. I've always been a goatee aficionado, minus the mustache. I hate having hair on my upper lip. It makes me constantly feel as though I need to wipe my mouth. But so far I've gotten mixed reviews. Most people seem to like it though. I think it makes me look like an aging mountain man. I have a lot of white hairs that mix with the brown and it almost look like gray tint to it.

What else? Right now I'm trying to design an addition to my Steelers tattoo. I got the one I have now after their last Superbowl victory and now that they've one again I need to update it. I'm thinking I'll get all 6 roman numerals from their victories on the backside of my calf. I love them to death but if they keep winning I'm going to run out of room on my calf.
So there's nothing much to report in my life. Which is usually thecase. The only new thing is that I'm growing a beard. It's funny,I've had facial hair since I was 13 but I never thought to grow abeard before. I've always been a goatee aficionado, minus themustache. I hate having hair on my upper lip. It makes meconstantly feel as though I need to wipe my mouth. But so far I'vegotten mixed reviews. Most people seem to like it though. I thinkit makes me look like an aging mountain man. I have a lot of whitehairs that mix with the brown and it almost look like gray tint toit.

What else? Right now I'm trying to design an addition to mySteelers tattoo. I got the one I have now after their lastSuperbowl victory and now that they've one again I need to updateit. I'm thinking I'll get all 6 roman numerals from their victorieson the backside of my calf. I love them to death but if they keepwinning I'm going to run out of room on my calf.
Random update cause I'm bored at work

What to say, what to say.....

Mar 22, 2009

So this is my first post of any kind. I'm not quite sure what to say really. I was a bit skeptical when I first came across this site but it's actually turned out to be pretty cool. I love the tests. They are a pretty good way to pass the time when I'm at work bored and with nothing to do. One thing I thought was pretty weird is finding out how many vegetarians there are in the metro Atlanta area. Not that I have anything against them, but meat just tastes so good. The one thing I do find particularly annoying is all the women who have an "available" status but are only looking for bi females for them and their boyfriends. So I do a search by match %, make sure the box for single is checked, and I end up getting too many women who are "available" but not looking for guys. That's what I like to call a "dick tease", if only in the metaphorical sense. Hey, you have the right to look for whatever you want on here. I'm just saying that it's frustrating. Well that's all I have for now.
So this is my first post of any kind. I'm not quite sure what tosay really. I was a bit skeptical when I first came across thissite but it's actually turned out to be pretty cool. I love thetests. They are a pretty good way to pass the time when I'm at workbored and with nothing to do. One thing I thought was pretty weirdis finding out how many vegetarians there are in the metro Atlantaarea. Not that I have anything against them, but meat just tastesso good. The one thing I do find particularly annoying is all thewomen who have an "available" status but are only looking for bifemales for them and their boyfriends. So I do a search by match %,make sure the box for single is checked, and I end up getting toomany women who are "available" but not looking for guys. That'swhat I like to call a "dick tease", if only in the metaphoricalsense. Hey, you have the right to look for whatever you want onhere. I'm just saying that it's frustrating. Well that's all I havefor now.
What to say, what to say.....