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bigheaduglyguy

26 / M / Straight / Single

Montgomery, Alabama

His Details

Last Online
May 23
Ethnicity
Height
3′ 11″ (1.20m).
Body Type
Used up
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
Sign
Taurus
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I moved to Montgomery in January. Still don't know anyone here. Not sure if there are actually people here. I'm probably going to quit my job soon and leave Montgomery since there isn't anything here for me.

I'm from a small town that no one has heard of about 60 miles southeast of Montgomery. I had been living in Birmingham working for a software consulting company from Madrid but took a job down here to be closer to my parents. My mom had a stroke a few years ago and my dad has dementia. He's 86. I'm adopted so that's why my parents are so much older than me. I have siblings but they were all grown and gone by the time I showed up so I basically grew up an only child. I didn't have a lot of friends growing up so now I have some serious issues with socializing as an adult. I simply don't know how to do it.

I don't actually know what to say about myself that would be worth knowing. I guess I'm a libertarian and that's not code for closet conservative. I think people should be able to do whatever they want short of impeding on another person's rights. I support people's right to think and do as they please even when I don't like it.

I like dogs. I have 3 dogs that live with me and two more that are at my parents that I'm pretty attached to but parents wouldn't let me bring them all with me.

I can be moody and mean spirited sometimes and tend to get annoyed with stupid stuff. I usually take a step back and remind myself that it's not a big deal before I snap at someone for chewing loudly. I wasn't always so patient but I've learned that I can improve as a person even if it's just small steps.

I can't think of a time that I've declined giving someone money when I had cash on me. I have a hard time saying no. I somehow always end up paying for the taxi to take drunk girls I met 5 minutes earlier home. People take advantage of that a lot. I guess people see the weakness in me.

I'm socially inept. I always look angry and rarely make eye contact. I don't come off as cool in any way when I respond to a stranger greeting me. I came off as a total prick just yesterday when a new neighbor was making small talk despite the fact that I would like to talk with the guy and make a new friend. I just suck at it. It takes me a little while to warm up to people and start to appear to be a normal guy. I'm basically a cave man around strangers.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a software developer. I don't like it. I don't hate it. I do want to be doing something else with my life and am trying to figure out the logistics of getting into a neuroscience graduate program. The problem is that a computer science degree satisfies pretty much none of the prerequisites and my grades plummeted the last few years of college (that's when mom had a stroke). I worked in a neuroscience lab building software for their data modeling and whatnot. I'd like to be doing that for my own research.

I also am an aspiring novelist that has written absolutely nothing. I have ideas swirling around but every time I start trying to produce just a few pages, I feel like the words were written by a cat with brain damage. If I ever do get around to writing a novel, I want it to be a damn good one and I have little faith in my ability at this point in time.
I’m really good at
Developing software I suppose. I'm at least good enough to get paid for it.
The first things people usually notice about me
My scowl and inability to make eye contact. They probably take note of my cracking voice as well. I need time to rehearse before I speak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like magazines like popular science and wired. I'm into sci fi novels and comics. I like some anime but I'm not a die hard. I like reruns of 90s sitcoms and shows like Falling Skies and The Walking Dead. I'm not picky about music. If it sounds good, I'll listen to it.

I like to go to see movies in the theater but not by myself. Since I don't know anyone around here, I haven't been in a long time.
The six things I could never do without
My dogs
My parents
A gun
Ammo
Glasses
PC
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why people get so butt hurt over what other people say especially when they have no respect for the people saying the things causing the butt hurt.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sitting at a computer or sleeping.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have no idea who my biological father is.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–100
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You want to I guess. I don't have any demands. I'll make an effort for anyone. I'm just bored and wouldn't mind a little company. Some people expect you to write a damn poem to say hello but my opinion of myself isn't that high so a simple "hi" is good enough.