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35 Brooklyn, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 1:11pm
Straight, Heteroflexible
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Judaism, and laughing about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a curious, open-minded person who believes everything in life should be tried at least once.

I like to hear people's stories. I've been told I ask a lot of questions and that I'm a good listener. Perhaps that's why I study anthropology.

If I could do it all over again, I definitely would have chosen a different OKCupid name. Even if I do love cycling.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a documentary filmmaker who is also working on a PhD in anthropology. My dissertation is a documentary film about Mexican migrant workers in the US who work for old Arkansas hippies. Before going back to school, I did a variety of jobs including teaching in high school and a prison, street performing, doing bike delivery for a BBQ joint, and acting as a mad scientist in a haunted house.

I also play a lot of music.

I'm from Boston and the I-95 corridor feels like home.....but I also spend a ton of time in rural Arkansas. I feel perfectly comfortable there too. I like the city and country. Each has their unique charms.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking to strangers. If I'm in line with people, I almost always strike up a conversation.

Playing Vicente Fernández covers on uke. His music is the bomb.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have pretty curly hair when it's long. An elderly gas station attendant recently asked me if my hair was all natural. It made my day.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - I'm a big poetry fan. Favs include Philip Larkin, Edna St. Vincent Millay, TS Eliot, Yeats, and Philip Levine. I read other books, but my heart lies with poetry.

Music - Where to begin....I love the Dead and jambands, as well as renaissance choral music. I would love to meet other people who also inhabit the Venn diagram where Thomas Tallis and Jerry Garcia meet. Other favorite artists include Damien Jurado, Neil Halstead, Dean Wareham, Bedhead, Dvorak, and Glen Gould.

Movies - I'm pretty certain the first two Godfathers are the best American art of the 20th century. Either that or Airplane. I also watch a ton of documentaries.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1 - My bicycle: I didn't learn to ride till age 25 and now it's one of my favorite things in the world.

2 - My video camera

3 - My instruments: I've now worked up to being able to play 3 at once. This might be the threshold for one man band status.

4 - Poetry: Reading it out loud with friends, lovers and strangers makes me happy.

5 - 24 hour diners: All I ever want in life is a place to go at 2 AM for a cup of coffee and bowl of soup. I feel a strong kinship with the Hemingway short story, "A Clean, Well-Lighted Place."

6 - Live music: I'm always down for seeing live music of any kind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why everyone else doesn't think midnight is the optimal time for starting a long bike ride.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I dont have a typical Friday night. I could be at a potluck, trying to convince friends to go on a 1 AM bike ride, jamming with friends, or editing film. Any and all of those make me happy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can play a pretty good version "Party in the USA" on uke.

Also, at this point I know myself well enough to know that sexually I don't want strict monogamy. I want emotional monogamy, but I also want a partner who occasionally wants to do group things together, as a couple. I imagine there are others here who also think that, while two pairs of hands is wonderful, several pairs of hands all at once has its place too.
You should message me if
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you want to grab a cup of coffee or go for a bike ride

the idea of wandering with no aim interests you

you find crowds energizing