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37 M Los Angeles, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:46pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I accidentally stumbled across the most wondrous place in ALL of Los Angeles not far from my house in Highland Park.

Lately: yoga, yoga, random circuit training, wing chun, doodle, draw, paint, clone. photographing for fun and for work, hike. camp. hike. wander lust, wander lust, wanderlust (In February was on a trip that went from the wilds of Komodo to snow-coated Japan, Hawaii in June and Tonga in August. Then I must go to the Redwoods and visit some friends' pot farms in Nor Cal. Anyone up for a road trip?).

I like discourse. I LOVE the ocean. I like hugs and kisses. I like building things with clay. I like astronomy. I love technology. I hate technology. I like shavasana. I like historical fiction. Once I get back from a long trip, I am happy to be home in LA, but within a month or two I am itching to get out again and do so.

Lately I am feeling the most wanderlust for this fair state of California. I spent my whole life here, but i have explored so little of it still! This year i want to change that. If anyone wants to drive to some beautiful spot up in the Northern part of the state and take some pictures, see some Redwoods, drive the Lost Coast, whatever - we should chat.



(I like parentheticals)
What I’m doing with my life
Buying camping gear. Making Manhattans at home for myself. Drawing and painting. Traveling too much for fun (Just back from diving in Komodo). Photographing people underwater. Working on an art installation for the Oakland Museum of California that will open in April 2014. Hitting the yoga studio more than usual so i can legitimately change my body type to "Fit" for you OKC people (yes I realize this misses the point of yoga, haha). Preparing for my dive trip to Komodo in February.
I’m really good at

Drawing bunnies.


Cuddling (especially with poisonous sea snakes!)

Backhanded compliments


Laying on the bottom of pools
The first things people usually notice about me
That i am soft spoken as fuck. When I first went to Japan my future in-laws assumed i was gay because i did not speak like a drunken cowboy. Somehow my voice is stuck in bedroom mode, 24-7. let's go some place quiet, please?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
- Wild Trees, The Golden Shore: California's Love Affair With the Sea, The Age of American Unreason, Sex At Dawn, The Omnivore's Dilemma, The Next 100 Years: A Forecast for the 21st Century, Sy Montgomery books, An Angel at My Table, Malcolm Gladwell (particularly the Outliers), Atlas of Remote Islands by Judith Schalansky, The Color Purple, Daniel Clowes, The Hunger Games Trilogy (guilty pleasure - are these books for kids? I don't know but i have a soft spot for TOUGH female heroines), Erik Larson's books, historical fiction about the lives and machinations surrounding the building of European cathedrals (now how is that for a specific genre!? Seriously though - i can give you my top three if you like)

- teenage lesbian coming of age movies (now that is a specific genre too), Alexander Payne's films, basically anything with Sam Rockwell in it, Alexander Payne, Coen Brothers, Planet Earth (Blue Planet, Life, etc), movies with Will Ferrell cameos (even if the rest of the movie is not good he will usually save it), Pixar stuff, stupid comedies, smart comedies, sc-fi, war movies (i can never think of favorite movies when people ask). Also - why is it the George Clooney makes such good movies? I never would have guessed his career trajectory and taste level when his career was just getting going. Also, weirdly, i am a sucker for movies with Channing Tatum (whose name my wife and I can never remember, so we took to calling him Chanting Totem, and that what has stuck).

- How To Dress Well, iamamiwhoami, Lil Spook, Jogger, Arthur Russell, Growing, Julia Holter, King Krule, Lee Hazelwood, Son Lux, Gal Costa, Phoenix (never was interested in them until seeing how TIGHT they were live at Coachella 2013), Lou Rawls, José James, Beach House, Prince, Susan Cadogan, Baths, M83, Nick Drake, Ashra, Moondog, Tame Impala, James Blake, Blood Orange, Tycho, Growing, Grace Jones, The Weeknd, tUnE yArDs, Sam Cooke, Purity Ring, Nina Simone, The Books, Youth Lagoon, and i also think EVERY rap song should have a cameo by Snoop (take a hike if you disagree). This stuff changes too much though - I can't update this list as often as new music discoveries happen in our studio. Like a lot of artists, i crave new and old sounds. Variety and beauty and power are key.

- Louie (CK is so brutal. Thank god its back!), Nashville (I am the only one that watches this. I am sure of this.), Portlandia, Maron, Orange is the New Black, The Good Wife, Madmen, Nurse Jackie, Silicon Valley, Girls, Boardwalk Empire, Game of Thrones, The West Wing, Sherlock, House of Lies, The Walking Dead, Spartacus (so sad its done - perhaps the most vile show ever put on TV, but so great in its own obscene way!), blah blah blah - Its interesting that even as television has descended into the dregs of the lowest common denominator, there has been a reaction of shows with more complex, layered writing than most films' screenplays. Getting to watch these kind of entertainments over 30 hours (or how ever many episodes) rather than 2 hours (for a film) can be a wholly more satisfying experience.

-Radiolab, TAL, TEDTalks, TTBOOK, Dan Savage, Uhh Yeah Dude, Re:Sound, The Moth, Science Fridays (These are podcasts in case you are lost here)

- i like to eat anything on that is served on small plates. At home i basically just eat vegetables and fruits, but i am not a vegetarian. I can't be bothered to go further into this subject (because i love to eat, and have a lot of favorites cuisines and dishes), but lets say I am mildly foodie, and most of the shit that passes for food in this country is frightening. Lately I have found that the food we make at home tastes better than the shit served at those celeb chef fine dining place. Fancy yes, but always over salted and too oily. I like a shot of Bulleit, but I am a sucker for mixology. Cannot lie. Its one food trend I have totally succumb to - Give me fancy cocktails! (Proper) Banh Mi 4 life though.
The six things I could never do without
the ocean, my passport,other sensualists, sunshine, witty banter, sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I seem to find myself giving a lot of unsolicited, albeit informative and entertaining (I promise!) rants about the coming of Singularity. It IS coming in our life time - if you really think you will never have a smart phone (well a smaller more powerful version of one that you will never use to physically "talk" with) implanted under the skin behind your ear that will allow you to communicate essentially telepathically through the internet cloud, then GTFO. All the technological elements are already in existence and Google will implement as soon as chips of the right speed are small enough. Kurzweil is on schedule (Hello - Google made Kurzweil himself their Goddamn Director of Engineering last year!!!!). The real question is - how long do we survive once we reach singularity - i predict about... 30 seconds? The topic is totally entertaining over a nice bottle of wine or two.

Joe Kittinger.
On a typical Friday night I am
I hate traffic and having to wait to be seated at dinner, so i usually stay home and work on Friday night. Also videos of slow loris' are usually viewed.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For some reason I know the entirety of the Les Misérables musical by heart. I don't know how it was impressed upon my permanent memory, and i don't make a habit of listening to Broadway musicals in the last 15 years, so I can't understand why I still know every word! But if you play it for me I can sing the whole thing through. I sing it poorly, but with so much heart! You will be embarrassed or rolling in the aisles...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
- You are NOT only looking for THE ONE (I already found mine - think poly, polyamorous, non-monogamous). You need a hiking or yoga partner. If you need a camping partner (I want to learn how to camp properly!). If you are a scuba diver and want to nerd out about sea animals, diving, or underwater photography.

-You always wanted to be a mermaid and model underwater (this sounds stranger than it is...). instagram: kozyndan

-Also i don't know many poly people, so if you are one i would love to discuss (even if you and I have zero chemistry ourselves), or if you have a CamelBak and use it.