Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hallo! So, to start, I'm in a long-term open relationship with the
. Currently looking for fun
secondary partners to share drinks, conversation, and adventure.
Most likely in that order, but I'm not a stickler for
I enjoy secondhand records, dancing into the wee hours, rambling
conversations, inspired improv, a good ginger beer, pick-up trucks,
flying by the seat of my pants, and campfires.
What I’m doing with my life
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Depending on the day, I am doing one (or more) of the following:
playing in bands, organizing events, leasing apartments, producing
radio, drinking with friends, reading novels, writing copy, or
gazing starry-eyed at the horizon.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, asking questions, jamming on a I/IV/V, streamlining
chaos, massages, dreaming up crazy ideas and seeing them through.
The first things people usually notice about me
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If we're talking about physical attributes, it's my eyes. In
general, however, it's probably my polite demeanor (the benefits of
a midwest upbringing), ever so undercut by dry humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: currently running through Jacqueline Carey's output. It's
been a long time since I've read fantasy and had almost forgotten
how much I like it. The romance! The magic! The sword-fighting!
Ahem. All time faves: A Prayer for Owen Meany by John Irving,
Wind-up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami, Jitterbug Perfume by Tom
Robbins, and Fragile Things by Neil Gaiman.
Movies: Is it cliche to say Casablanca? I hope not, because I'm
gonna. Casablanca. It's so very good. Also, The Big Lebowski,
Magnolia, Real Genius, Out of Sight, Hedwig and the Angry Inch,
Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, and Ocean's 11.
Shows: The West Wing, Community, Archer, MST3K, Arrested
Development, and Law & Order (specifically the Briscoe
Music: Neutral Milk Hotel, Low, Nina Simone, Pillow Army, Hey
Marseilles, Les Miserables, Orkestar Zirkonium, Tom Waits, Emperor
Norton's Stationary Marching Band, and Diminished Men. For ten. I
could keep going, but I imagine that's tiresome reading.
Food: I'm not much of a foodie, but I do enjoy a well-prepared
delicious meal. I haven't any allergies and I'll try anything once.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- My acoustic guitar (it's beat to hell, but I've had it since I
- Access to music (specifically my vinyl collection, but that feels
a skosh materialistic, and misses the larger point, I think).
- My community (the fine people in marching bands, vagabond operas,
independent radio, variety shows, burlesque troupes, chamber-rock
septets, and the like).
- My partner. She's wonderful in all ways.
- Gel-ink pens. They write so nice.
- Lemonade on a summer day. Or fireflies. Oooh, firefly lemonade. I
imagine it would taste horrible, but it might be worth it if my
butt lit up afterwards.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably out on the town. At a show, or a bar, or a show at a bar.
Maybe volunteering? I volunteer a fair bit. Which means I could
also be ready for a night at home, clad in comfy pants and in the
company of a good book. My schedule makes it something of a
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Honestly, I'll talk about anything, especially if you're willing to
ask. But since I'm writing in an asynchronous environment right
now, let's say it's my tattoo: four crosses between my shoulder
blades, two right side up, two upside down. There's a reason for
it, and it doesn't—swear!—have anything to do with religion. Well,
as much as you can reasonably claim when you've inked crosses in
your skin anyway.
You should message me if
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You like open-ended conversations, second-run movies, exploring
parks at night, seeing shows at dive bars, and have a sense of
humor. Also, if you like what you've read here. That's probably a
Oh, and you're passing familiar with the open/poly dynamic and
willing to meet my primary partner.
Who are you looking for?
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