**NOTE: My life is super hectic at the moment for several reasons. I'm replying even less than usual mostly because I don't have time at the moment to really write good replies or to meet up with people.

I'm also feeling like I've hit a place in my life where I want to concentrate on building relationships with all the great people I have around me. My time and energy are finite, therefore I'm focusing on the friendships and so on that I am most excited about, energized by, etcetera. And it also means I'm starting to say No to people, even those with whom I am already involved in some way.

I am a people-pleaser at heart, but I realize I can't please everyone, and so I'm going to work on making myself happy instead. Unfortunately that sometimes means ending or scaling back relationships, even with nice and wonderful folk, and telling people things they'd rather not hear. You are warned.**

My passions in life include food, music, and general creativity. I love to cook and bake, especially for others, and sometimes even dream about new recipes to try. Singing and dancing bring me great joy, and putting on something with a good beat can bring me out of almost any bad mood. I'm also really into costumes, getting dolled up, and not taking life too seriously. I've just recently gotten into yoga, although I don't go as often as I'd like. Also, I like camping, and swimming in the ocean.

These days I'm working on living more in the moment, accepting the uncertainty of life, and spending time on things and people that energize me. I'm at university, STILL working on my undergrad, but there is finally an end in sight! I'm looking forward to more sunshine, more time outside, more swimming, more picnics, and more late nights as the weather improves. Although I think sunrises are beautiful, I'm more likely to see one by staying up than by getting up early. I loved Paris because even really late at night you would see lots of people out and about.

I'm an open minded individual with diverse interests, definitely on the political left, but not really part of any fixed "scene." I think I appear more mainstream or preppy than I really am. I'm interested in finding people I can have a conversation with. I'm not interested in bullshit, self-centredness, arrogance, or bigotry.

I'm in a period of transition in my life, and I'm not looking for anything too serious or long term at the moment. On the other hand, I'm not really interested in a one night stand. Then again, you can never predict what life will throw at you, so I'm not going to say that either of those are complete impossibilities. If I am interested I'd probably want to meet somewhere where we could chat a bit, and find out if we are both actually interested in/attracted to each other. From there who knows?

...listening.
...talking.
...cooking.
...baking.
...singing.
...crafts.
...sex.
...making people laugh.
...making a good impression on parents.
...dancing around.
...writing papers.
...working with kids.
...working with people.
...costuming.
...editing.
...making my own fun.

I know Andraste_tree5, BabysInBlack, Beakerboxxx, breakingwave, CaptainQueer, djspaz, DSteel, fish_cat, i_are_lost, lil_ashy, mailorderzombie, miss_rocktober, miss_tweak, skinnyghost, SlurpeeJones,SnideBromide, updoc, VancouverExile, WhenImsixtyfour, and Zyvod in real life.

More? Fine. I'm vegan. I mostly like boys, but I like girls too. I'm picky but on an individual basis. I honestly believe I am good at the things I listed myself as good at. I'm chronically adorable. I'm a dangerous flirt. I know enough about a lot of things to carry on or at least follow a conversation. I might have made a good geisha in a traditional sense. I'm a person of apparent contradictions. I'm girly, but not in a girly way. I'll sometimes get obsessed with something -- a song, an album, a type of food -- for a period of time, and then entirely forget about it for a while. I am not static, although I spent much of my life trying to hold on to things-as-they-are instead of allowing things to be as they are. I make a lot of references, but I know I'm not good at remembering exact quotations, so I tend to make them more vaguely than I'd like to. I think fast, and sometimes talk too much and too fast. I'm both easily distracted and very focused. I often make unintentional puns. I prize honesty and communication over monogamy. I spend too much time online. I wish I sounded more like Etta or Nina or Amy or Dionne or Billie among others. I care a lot, even sometimes when I wish I didn't, and then sometimes I find I don't care enough. I prefer organizing to cleaning. I have secrets I'd probably never tell you, and some I'd probably tell you too soon.

...you think we'd have a fun time hanging out, you find me attractive, and you're ok with the fact that I will likely not answer back.

To be honest I get a lot of messages and IMs, probably 'cause I'm female and reasonably attractive, and I don't reply to many of them. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, or seem snobby or anything like that, but I also don't see much reason in spending a lot of time responding to messages if I think there's not likely to be a connection. I'm picky. I don't want to lead anyone on, or promote false hopes.

I believe in honesty, and so I will be honest, but I also really care about people emotionally and don't enjoy disappointing folks. So yeah: if I'm interested I'll get back to you (eventually) and if I'm not I probably won't. If you press me on it, I'll be honest, but I don't see any reason for rudeness or cruelty or any of that crap that seems to come oh so easily online.

In any case, best of luck to you!!