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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Aug 15
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I love the outdoors, and try to spend as much of my free time there as possible. I'm happiest when backpacking (in the summer) or skiing (in the winter). I mix other stuff in too, but those are my passions. I've been trying to take up biking, with little success. So if you want to take me on a ride, that would be swell.

I tend to be pretty easy going and get along with most people. That said, I'm definitely an introvert with socially anxious tendencies and can seem a little closed off at first (this is something I'm working on). But once I'm comfortable in a situation I loosen up and let my natural good nature shine through. Someone at work once even called me gregarious, an adjective I never, ever, would have thought to use to describe myself.

I think about the world a lot, but in an abstract way, not so much in concrete, "how can I change things?" terms. I guess spending a decent chunk of ones life in academia will do that to a person. But I think escaping that path has been for the better.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to get out on backpacking trips whenever I can. Scheming about how much skiing I'll be able to get in the rest of winter.

Going to baseball games. I loves me my Giants, but am perfectly happy with the A's as a cheaper, more convenient substitute. This situation has caused me a bit of existential angst -- I really prefer the A's and their fanbase, intellectually, but I just can't seem to escape being raised a Giants fan. 2010 and 2012 weren't bad, either.

Examining my life, and trying to learn to live more mindfully and from the heart, not the head. I had the realization about 3 years ago that just coasting through life might not be the best idea, and the work I've done sense has been transformational. When I can catch myself and stop overthinking things, I tend to be much happier.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening. guiding people. teaching. beating myself up....i am working on this one. including people. working. finding the good in people who have a hard time seeing it in themselves.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile and laugh. I'm generally a happy person, but I smile when I'm nervous, too, so that's my default.

Also, I have a beard and wear orange almost everyday. I love the color orange.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Let's start with food: is it food? If yes, then I probably love it. Unless it's raisins. Reminds me of line I heard the other day: "Let's face it, pretty much anything with raisins would be better with chocolate chips. For example, a box of raisins." Raisins aside, I love to eat. I'm glad the word gourmand exists, because it describes me quite well.

TV: I'll just list these. I probably spend too much time with that glowing rectangle, but think we're in a golden age for good television. Some of my favorites, in no particular order:
-Battlestar Galactica (just blasted through the entire season again on netflix)
-Arrested Development
-30 Rock
-Suits, although I think its jumped the shark in Season 3
-Star Trek TNG
-The Office -- the british version and first two seasons of the American version

Movies: As a genre, I like quotable comedies...
-The Big Lebowski
-Dazed and Confused
-Blazing Saddles (yes, Mel Brooks is a comic genius)

Books: I don't read enough. I'll make that judgment on myself. But I do love surrealist or austere modern fiction: Thomas Pynchon, Jonathan Lethem, Jonathan Franzen, Annie Proulx, Cormac McCarthy. I've been meaning to pick up Infinite Jest for some time. Best book I read recently was The Art of Fielding by Chad Harbach.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The mountains
Skis (in the summer, replace with sleeping bag)
Fresh air
The color orange
Close friends
Bulletproof coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to make myself a better person
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, and getting ready for a weekend of work. My "weekends" tend to be Tuesday-Wednesday, so Monday night I'm usually getting ready for that week's adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am sober.
You should message me if
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If you are gentle. If you are super compassionate. If you are willing to know yourself as well as I know myself. If you enjoy sarcasm. If you aren't too too nice.