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  • Ages 20-42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Today – 8:16am
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I love the outdoors, and try to spend as much of my free time there as possible. I'm happiest when backpacking (in the summer) or skiing (in the winter). I mix other stuff in too, but those are my passions. I've been trying to take up biking, with little success. So if you want to take me on a ride, that would be swell.

I tend to be pretty easy going and get along with most people. That said, I'm definitely an introvert with socially anxious tendencies and can seem a little closed off at first (this is something I'm working on). But once I'm comfortable in a situation I loosen up and let my natural good nature shine through. Someone at work once even called me gregarious, an adjective I never, ever, would have thought to use to describe myself.

I think about the world a lot, but in an abstract way, not so much in concrete, "how can I change things?" terms. I guess spending a decent chunk of ones life in academia will do that to a person. But I think escaping that path has been for the better.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to get out on backpacking trips whenever I can. Scheming about how much skiing I'll be able to get in the rest of winter.

Going to baseball games. I loves me my Giants, but am perfectly happy with the A's as a cheaper, more convenient substitute. This situation has caused me a bit of existential angst -- I really prefer the A's and their fanbase, intellectually, but I just can't seem to escape being raised a Giants fan. 2010 and 2012 weren't bad, either.

Examining my life, and trying to learn to live more mindfully and from the heart, not the head. I had the realization about 3 years ago that just coasting through life might not be the best idea, and the work I've done sense has been transformational. When I can catch myself and stop overthinking things, I tend to be much happier.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening. guiding people. teaching. beating myself up....i am working on this one. including people. working. finding the good in people who have a hard time seeing it in themselves.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile and laugh. I'm generally a happy person, but I smile when I'm nervous, too, so that's my default.

Also, I have a beard and wear orange almost everyday. I love the color orange.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Let's start with food: is it food? If yes, then I probably love it. Unless it's raisins. Reminds me of line I heard the other day: "Let's face it, pretty much anything with raisins would be better with chocolate chips. For example, a box of raisins." Raisins aside, I love to eat. I'm glad the word gourmand exists, because it describes me quite well.

TV: I'll just list these. I probably spend too much time with that glowing rectangle, but think we're in a golden age for good television. Some of my favorites, in no particular order:
-Battlestar Galactica (just blasted through the entire season again on netflix)
-Arrested Development
-30 Rock
-Suits, although I think its jumped the shark in Season 3
-Star Trek TNG
-The Office -- the british version and first two seasons of the American version

Movies: As a genre, I like quotable comedies...
-The Big Lebowski
-Dazed and Confused
-Blazing Saddles (yes, Mel Brooks is a comic genius)

Books: I don't read enough. I'll make that judgment on myself. But I do love surrealist or austere modern fiction: Thomas Pynchon, Jonathan Lethem, Jonathan Franzen, Annie Proulx, Cormac McCarthy. I've been meaning to pick up Infinite Jest for some time. Best book I read recently was The Art of Fielding by Chad Harbach.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The mountains
Skis (in the summer, replace with sleeping bag)
Fresh air
The color orange
Close friends
Bulletproof coffee
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to make myself a better person
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, and getting ready for a weekend of work. My "weekends" tend to be Tuesday-Wednesday, so Monday night I'm usually getting ready for that week's adventure.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am sober.
You should message me if
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If you are gentle. If you are super compassionate. If you are willing to know yourself as well as I know myself. If you enjoy sarcasm. If you aren't too too nice.