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30 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27-46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 30, 2013
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Working on Two-year college
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I guess I am kind of a odd mix between a sweet, vulnerable, geeky girl, and a dark, tough in some ways, mischievous, kinda kinky girl, with a very dark sense of humor...

I am usually pretty shy at first in real life, until I warm up to someone. Once I do however, its a pretty big change.

I usually date/get along with people who are at least a few years, older than me for multiple reasons, but have met exceptions. I don't want someone that is exactly like me in every way. I want someone who has strengths and interests in some areas where I am weak.

Also I do like darker/alternative/punkish styles and looks as far as how I dress, but I am not goth... I am attracted to a wide range of styles but tattoos, alternative things like that are a big plus...

I am not perfect, I have gone through some tough times in my life, made mistakes, felt rock bottom, tempted fate and used up most of my lives. These things are in my past but still part of who I am. I also don't really desire or want someone that is perfect, I would much rather be with someone that is able to understand me. I am not broken, but if you want perfect, I am not your girl...

I have a weak spot for helping people... even when I know better. Making someone else happy or smile even in small ways has always made me happier than almost anything else in this world. Sadly this often leads to getting taken advantage of cause people can suck.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
As far as hobbies, an odd mix of things from almost everything geeky, but also things like cars (owned, modified and worked on multiple), guns, history, psychology, sociology, pretty much anything interesting, I love learning new things, I guess you could call that my main hobby.

For work I have done everything from general tech support, to server support/setup, high tech security systems, CAD (solidworks), web design, product design and prototyping, bit of metallurgy having to do with that, other stuff I am forgetting....

I am intelligent, but I am not a grad student or anything, most is self taught, I am broke, and so on... I have always been more interested in love and companionship than money/success (this has caused me a lot of grief but so far I have not been able to change it)...

One thing I am NOT doing, and will NEVER do, is LARP.......
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
One thing I am NOT good at is listing things I am good at.... ^_^
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I guess the most likely is my dark hair and eyes and pale skin.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Fear and Loathing, Lost in Translation, Shaun of the Dead, Trainspotting, Requiem for a Dream just to list a few movies.

I love a lot of downtempo electronic stuff and triphop, Good hip-hop (Atmosphere, Ceschi), Punk (Bad Religion, Social Distortion), industrial music of various kinds, ska even (Bosstones), also bands like Morphine (do they even fall into a category?), a lot of classic rock, post-grunge, Some kinda emo stuff sadly :P, a pretty eclectic mix.

Often I am reading a educational book rather than a story, I can spend hours watching the history, discovery, pbs, channels. I love learning new things.

"I would never advocate the senseless loss of human life,
So if we start running out of people
Let me know and I'll apologize"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My computer, rain, dark humor, intelligent conversation, cuddling(that feeling of being safe with someone, protected from the world), love.....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I am always trying to learn new things and expand my knowledge, this brings me great joy.

Also, Sadly often being a bit hard on myself about things.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends at some event, staying up too late, or at home on my computer, staying up too late.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really miss being in love, and knowing I am loved just as much in return...

I have a hopeless romantic side...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are not perfect, have gone through some tough times...

You could love someone who isn't perfect or had a perfect life...

Open minded...

You want to start as friends and see what happens...

You are not pretentious or a snob...

Tall, Ink(just got 9 hours done over two days), you want to go explore in the middle of the night/are a night person in general...

Caring, affectionate, want to fall in love, would text or call just to say goodnight...