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My details

Last online
Aug 23
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly other
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Anti-authoritarian social liberal and economic moderate. Zen pagan, mystical materialist, Pastafarian scientist, Taoist Discordian Pope. Musician, artist, maker, gamer, and hedonist.

I hold a master's degree in engineering and work in high tech.

I'm an out of practice musician who enjoys playing a wide variety of instruments, but the only instrument I can say I've achieved a very high level of skill at is guitar, which I've been playing for about 30 years. Besides guitar I also play Appalachian dulcimer, hammered dulcimer, didgeridoo, harmonica, banjo, ukulele, and hand drums (djembe and dumbek mainly.)

I am a proud geek and I subscribe to Make magazine. I have played around with a few projects using the Arduino microcontroller and I am handy with a soldering iron.

I'm polyamorous. I won't consider a partner who does not respect that.

I LOVE Dr. Who. I learned to knit in Jr. High so I could re-create Tom Baker's long multi-colored scarf. I managed about a foot and a half before my mother took pity and finished it for me. I also went to high school with John Barrowman of Torchwood fame.

If you know what "epistemology" means I'll be your friend for life. Two of my favorite books in the universe are Prometheus Rising and Quantum Psychology by Robert Anton Wilson.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have recently turned a corner after a being in a funk for about a year... working on developing and manifesting a paradigm of continuous improvement in every aspect of my life.

I've been a bi-coastal business traveler for nearly 3 years now, spending half my time in California and the other half in New York (alternating weeks, typically.)

I've been experimenting with an exercise in non-doctrinal faith. I've decided that I'm a lucky motherfucker. Luck is when preparation meets opportunity. If you consider yourself lucky, you will be more aware of when opportunities present themselves, and more self confident that you will be prepared to meet the opportunity successfully. I'm an Atheist by nature but I do praise Fortuna and throw her a bone whenever possible.

I am also working out the details of at least one new religion.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Problem solving, learning, cooking, jamming on guitar or hand drums, giving back rubs, writing erotica (when I'm in the right mood), arguing, wearing 5 3/4" heels.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told I'm physically imposing and/or intimidating. I'm not super tall (six feet) but I'm broad shouldered and big boned. I'm built to knock things over, not to run away. Personality wise, people seem to somehow detect my manic wildman nature even if I'm totally behaving myself. I don't understand it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm going to have to come back to this as I think of stuff, but here goes:

Latest obsession has been with the Harmontown podcast, which I discovered via Rick & Morty.

Books: Prometheus Rising, Quantum Psychology, The Discoverers, 21st Century Kinkycrafts, anything by Philip K. Dick, anything by Kurt Vonnegut, the Titan Trilogy by John Varley, any of the Discworld novels by Terry Pratchett, the Hitchhiker's Guide series, The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings, Flatland, Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty trilogy, and Escape From Eden. World War Z... I am a book hoarder, I have way way too many and can't seem to part with any.

Movies: Anything by Terry Gilliam but especially Time Bandits, Brazil, Twelve Monkeys, and Life of Brian. All of the Monty Python movies. All of the Alien movies. Amelie. Run, Lola, Run. Rocky Horror. Inception. Memento. The Matrix. Dark City. Iron Man and The Avengers. Koyannisqatsi. Baraka. Any festival of animation. Flash Gordon. Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band. Yellow Submarine. The Fifth Element. This Is Spinal Tap. The Corpse Bride. The Dark Crystal. City of Lost Children. A Clockwork Orange. THX1138. The original Star Wars trilogy (the version where Han shoots first.) I've recently discovered the Fanedit community and downloaded several amazing fanedits of different Star Wars episodes as well as an incredible 3-hour fanedit of the five original Planet of the Apes films.

TV Shows: Game of Thrones, Archer, True Detective, RuPaul's Drag Race, Orange is the New Black, Girl Code/Guy Code, Battlestar Galactica (the new one.) Monty Python's Flying Circus. Firefly. The Dollhouse. Jeeves and Wooster. Blackadder. Dr. Who. Torchwood. The Mighty Boosh. Spaced. Red Dwarf. Peep Show.

Music: Oh my. I'm also a CD hoarder. A few of the bands I love are AC/DC, Led Zeppelin, Dead Can Dance, Klaatu, Queen, Fatboy Slim, The Gorillaz, George Thoroughgood, Daft Punk, Bjork, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Jack White, Soundgarden, and the greatest band of all time: The Beatles.

Food: I am currently on a low carb diet (well, on and off) which has been very successful for me but has restricted me from some of my favorite foods. I love to cook and I love to eat -- one of my merchant marine friends has a saying "never trust a skinny cook" and I understand where that comes from. My favorite foods are probably sushi and pizza. I'm famous for a few signature dishes which I've perfected by making hundreds of times... one is a Tom Kha Gai soup (Thai lemongrass & coconut milk based) and another is a Chinese stir fried noodle dish. I also love a good steak and I know how to cook a mean ribeye. I can make Chicago style Italian beef sandwiches from scratch. I developed the recipe when I spent 10 years living in Austin, Texas and developed a craving for that particular comfort food. I also love wine and cheese. And oysters. Pretty much any shellfish, actually.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Hmm. I'm just going to wing this (mmmm... wings)
1. A computer with an internet connection
2. A musical instrument
3. My library
4. A gas stove... I HATE cooking on electric stoves (update... getting used to it after moving into my new apartment in Japantown. I still don't love it, but at least it's an induction stove and not one of those electric burner ones.)
5. Friends
6. My three handled moss covered family gredunza.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The nature of the brain and consciousness. How do we justify our beliefs. Confirmation bias and other cognitive distortions. Whether we're all just living in a post-singularity computer simulation. I try to approach life from a non-Aristotelian logic system, specifically instead of "true or false" I consciously try to bear in mind the options "true", "false", "indeterminate", and "meaningless." I also try to think of truth in terms of statistical probability. I'm 95% confident that Jesus Christ was not the son of the mountain storm god JHVH, and I'm pretty sure he never claimed he was, other than to claim that we are all the "sons of God." I get unduly agitated by Republicans and fundamentalists.

How all Belief Systems are BS.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably watching a movie or playing a videogame. I have custody of my daughter on Saturdays so I usually don't stay out too late Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If I'm willing to admit it, I suppose it's not private. I'm fascinated by transgender folks and have had positive romantic interactions with both MTF and FTM people.
You should message me if
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Message me if you find anything in my profile interesting and you're not a complete psycho or an emotional or financial leech.