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40 M Seattle, WA

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Last Online
Apr 8
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Has a kid
English (Fluently), C++ (Poorly), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
A friend of mine wrote this to me once and i thought it was really beautiful:

“I don’t want to be insane, I want to be fey.
Fey with the same root as Faery, fey as in knowing
hidden things, fey as in not acting right for banal
reality because you are seeing things that magnify,
shrink, and erase the normal world all at the same
time. Fey as in being in touch with the
not quite natural that is somehow the spirit of the
forest. Fey as in the wisest old woman that nobody
admits to respecting. Fey as in Hamlet, not a
madman. If you are insane you are lost in a
threatening void, but if you are fey you are lost in
an endless tangle of paths.”

First of all, I’m the boy you want after the zombie apocalypse. My random anarchist eagle scout skills will come in handy. =)

I’m an abstract thinker. And I’m curious about everything. I love to talk. And I love people who are not afraid to have a discussion. I have no interest in being right or being smart or whatever it is people seem to need. I just want to explore ideas and question things and find amazing new connections between seemingly unrelated ideas.

I’m attracted to kind and good natured people. Don’t get me wrong, I love dark and gloomy. But people who get their kicks out of picking on weaker people or bringing pain to the world are not valuable people to me (see nemesis). On the other hand, I have a huge problem with authority. Breaking the law to me has nothing to do with being a good person. It is probably our duty as moral beings to completely disregard it.

I also have a special love for art kooks, tinker gnomes, people with a complete disregard for social norms, mad faeries, gruff and tortured intellectuals, philosophers, writers, people who talk to plants, musicians, people who smile, people who draw on themselves (even notes), people with a cause (read as people with a passion), people who care about the world (not just wearing the tshirt), space cadets, visionaries, the quiet and the fragile, travelers and nomads, road trippers, hackers, burlesque dancers, roller derby girls, the self reliant, independent filmmakers, Buddhists, people who know the difference between politics and what’s really going on, skeptics, shamans, healers, most burners, farmers, urban crafters, the misunderstood, goths, the compulsive, anachronisms, anarchists, beer brewers, absinthe drinkers, scientists and mathematicians, street performers, people who think Miyazaki films express something important about themselves. . . . the list goes on and on really. But I think you get the idea.

I’m also very easy-going, drama free, and gifted at cohabitation and long loving relationships.

I had this on my last profile but I think people thought I was a bit insane. I fluctuate between wanting to write a bunch of bat shit crazy stuff on here and wanting to seem less threatening or more down to earth. I guess the truth is I’m pleasantly somewhere in the middle. I never want to scare off quality people but if any of this stuff does it then honestly we probably wouldn’t get along anyway.

Quoted: “I have fiery shiny-eyed ideas and like to brew my own absinthe. I write books about feral children that live under the streets of new orleans and battle creatures that destroy innocence. I collect bits of metal i find on the street and books by brian froud and post modern philosophers. i have engineering diagrams of theo janson's kinetic theory taped on the wall over my computer. i get excited at recycled stores and love miyazaki films. i want more out of life. and i have a decent vegetable garden even though i have to use planter boxes at my apartment.”
What I’m doing with my life
I am an artist and writer (I'm working on my third novel and I do gallery installation mostly but also guerrilla installation and photography) but I make my money as a web designer and creative director. Currently focusing on UXD. I would love to be building houses with a nonprofit or saving the planet in an R&D think tank somewhere underground but the right vocation has not yet presented itself. Though i'm totally open to wonderful things.
I’m really good at
I have alot of hobbies. =) I've never been able to settle into one thing or one medium. But right now i'm writing fiction. Tomorrow i might be installing concrete casts of buddhas into alley nooks. and the day after i might be brewing wine or building a new computer or designing a spider legged walking machine that's pedal powered.

I play hand drums and the saw and i just bought a melodica and trying to teach myself piano. sometimes i make cryptic art movies or think up new ways to get people to see beautiful things they walk by every day.

I'm good at turning mundane things into a search for meaning and truth (which guess can be good or bad depending on your mood).

I'm good at turning the world into a magical and fantastic place to be. (or that's my intention anyway) =)

i used to write short dramatic poems when i lived in new orleans and trade them for tarot readings and baguettes. mixing with the street rabble and musicians. but they were never really that good. beyond an immediate sense of communication. little gutter glitter snapshots. i write short stories, too. but my interests tend to cycle, from writing to visual, to more philosophy, to just adventuring. i can't really control it i just go with the flow. i mix alot of text into installations. it's all mixed together for me. i can't really separate out different mediums. textures and sounds and words. sometimes the only way to say what you're thinking is with an immediate red or with a distorted heartbeat booming over a story being read out loud or cinching rope into flesh. writing on skin with a sharpie.

not to sound too dramatic. I think the world is a beautiful and amazing place and most of my art is built around trying to awaken that in people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I guess it depends on where you meet me. But i would say my playful and curious nature, my smile and my interest in what you have to say.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

I love food. I will try anything (except maybe giant live slugs and brains out of a monkey i have to mallet to death). I especially love expensive cheese and gourmet things I've never tried but equally love finding the perfect cheeseburger or hotdog stand. I was a vegetarian for years, i respect that diet, but i'm more an experimenting omnivore now. but i'm very diet compatible. I still eat tofu dogs because i like them.


Amelie, My Neighbor Totoro or anything by Miyazaki, Donnie Darko, Harold and Maude, Nightmare Before Christmas, Edward Scissorhands, Fight Club,Happiness, Labyrinth, Dark Crystal, BeetleJuice, Dude Where's My Car?, Super Troopers, Baraka, Koyaanisqatsi, Raising Arizona, Shakes the Clown, City of Lost Children, Delicatessen, SLC Punk, Manufacturing Consent, Pump Up the Volume, Garden State, Anything by Svankmajer, etc. Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle, I Heart Huckabee's, You and Me and Everyone We Know, 40 Year Old Virgin, FLCL, Lain, Night Watch, Let the Right One In, Big Trouble in Little China. I could list hundreds or worthwhile movies.


I tend to read more nonfiction than fiction but I'm currently reading Invisible Monsters by Chuck Palanuik. Other books I love: Deleuze and Guattari's Thousand Plateaus, Primary Perception by Cleve Backster, Simulations by Jean Baudrilliard, T.A.Z. by Hakim Bey, Shamanism by Nicholson, Black Elk Speaks by Black Elk, Lies My Teacher Told Me by Loewon, The Art of the Dark Crystal and Faeries by Brian Froud and everything else really except maybe Strange Stains which was ok but unfortunate, Witch Baby by Francesca Lia Block, Edward Gorey (all), The Structure of Scientific Revolutions by Kuhn, Exploring Madness: Experience Theory and Research by Fadiman Kewman, The American Cultural Dialogue And Its Transmission by G. Spindler


Ever growing and changing.

I currently have a taste for Gogol Bordello and Balkan Beat Box. Rediscovering the Smiths again. Always love the Cure and Portishead. I've been putting my iPod on shuffle and finally listening to the hundreds of songs i've accumulated but never had time to listen to. Things I would typical run across on a playlist:

Portishead, Bjork, Postal Service, Styrofoam, Sage Francis, CocoRosie, Devandra Banhart, Aesop Rock, the Shins, Sxip. Mike Doughty(Soul Coughing), RJD2, Disposable Heroes of Hiphopracy, the Cure, Magnetic Fields, VAS, Air, Tricky, Massive Attack, RadioHead, Rage Against the Machine, Cyndi Lauper, Tom Waits, Iron and Wine, Clara Rockmore, Elliot Smith, Nick Drake, the Cranes, Ekova, Yma Sumac, Missy Elliot, Mr. Lif, the Perceptionists, the Gyuto Monks, BioSphere, Bob Marley, punjabi comps, Amon Tobin, Tabla Beat Science, Atari Teenage Riot, Robert Johnson, Benny Benasi, Aphex Twin, Attrition, Bass Nectar, Black Eyed Peas, Blackalicious, Cat Power, Circus Contraption, Colin Hay, Combichrist, Cypress Hill, David Bowie, Feist, Imogen Heap, Infected Mushroom, Joanna Newsom, Kimya Dawson, The Legendary Pink Dots, Marilyn Manson, Miranda Sex Garden, Morcheeba, Nine Inch Nails, Prince, Psapp, Regina Spektor, Richard Cheese, Siouxsie, Squarepusher, Dead Can Dance.
The six things I could never do without
I don't really Need much. A change of clothes and a toothbrush. How about six things that make me happy:

a variety of yummy food
cuddles and kisses and sex
new ideas/ great conversation
a playful world to explore
my super comfy bed. (sleep, you delicious bastard)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Just thinking. I think way too much. It keeps me up at night. Sometimes i wake up for no reason and have to sketch out pages of diagrams and math equations. Or sketch a new harness for faerie wings. Or a new idea for a social networking game.

If i had to have one best hobby it would be thinking about
On a typical Friday night I am
No typical for me. i'm up for anything. although generally it won't include a tie or thousands of dollars of equipment from REI.

Lately lately I've been spending most of my time writing. Previously I would say beer and nachos. Getting into trouble. Exploring the world.

I don't mind staying in and watching a movie. I love movies. But I also still like to go out and stumble into whatever can be found. Speeding off to some close but foreign city on a car trip. Hosting an absinthe party.

I'm not really an eXtreme sportsy guy. But I love nature and the woods. I love going to burning man and building structures out of PVC and weathering dust storms to have insane nighttimes.

If it's a deal breaker, I'm not really a dancer. Sorry. =/
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um . . . I've always been leery of people who admit deep personal secrets the first moment you meet them. But honestly I'm an open book. There's very few things I won't talk about. Just ask.

Oh! How about this. i have really bad facial memory. =) same for proper names, state capitols, multiplication tables, names of theorems, titles of books. I can remember every little detail of plot but not the name. . . ??? when i run into someone out of context sometimes i have no recognition. it makes networking very difficult. so if you know me on here say hi if you see me because i will most likely be oblivious. i mean no offense.

my Myers-Briggs: (if this means anything to you)

ENTP - the Mad Scientist
Extroverted (E) 51.43% Introverted (I) 48.57%
Intuitive (N) 81.25% Sensing (S) 18.75%
Thinking (T) 55.88% Feeling (F) 44.12%
Perceiving (P) 67.86% Judging (J) 32.14%

"ENTPs are creative, complex people who seek to improve their understanding of the natural world, usually by building armored fifty-story-tall robotic monsters with iron jaws and death-ray eyes, or by creating genetically mutated plagues that spread unstoppably across the land, turning all who are contaminated into mindless zombie drones. They are less likely to want to conquer the world than to destroy it utterly, reducing it to nothing but slag and rubble--though this is often merely a side-effect of their pursuit of knowledge."
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
If you like great conversation, goofy fun that ends in sneaking into an abandoned warehouse or drinking wine under the moonlight out of the bottle, if you have a taste for adventure and like to stay up late, if you like quiet simple moments or have ideas that no one seems to understand, if you enjoy sneaking into a second movie after the first one or thrift store shopping or sampling imported beers or eating cheese spatzle.

I'm a complex person but i have simple tastes. I mostly like to snuggle and eye gaze, eat great food and enjoy another great person's company.

And what the hell, if you've made it this far you can read the prologue to my first novel:

"Crowchild huddles next to his little fire made from the bleached and twisted deadfall. The night sounds and terror thralls surround him, the threatening world stretching out to places unimaginable, endless void, awaiting his helpless sleep.

But just then, the desert wind caresses him, hushed and tender, melting darkness into a melody.

Crowchild begins to cry. For the desert's gift (it's what his mother's voice would have sounded like, he thinks, if he had a mother). For the desert's kindness.

An orphan's lullaby.

He dips into his worn canvas backpack and pulls out a small box he has been decorating, tiny spirals of sand glued to the outside, and catches just a little of the wind, to remind him. Puts it back into the sack with maybe ten others to keep it company and curls into blue and red striped wool blanket to dream."