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blacktout

30 M Manchester, NH

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–35
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:49pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Ugh, self-summaries. I guess there are two ways to attempt to describe yourself: either you can write some vague, broad, and probably inaccurate paragraph about who you think you are in general, or you can list a bunch of cute, trivial facts about yourself and assume that the reader will plug them into some equation and do a little addition, and hope the solution they come up with resembles you at least a little bit.

So, both methods.

The tl;dr me: I'm a quiet, rather shy person who enjoys books and movies and discussing--God, now I know why so many of these profiles read the same. Listen, I'm an introvert. I'm not really into socialization for socialization's sake, but I love real discussions, particularly if they are about literature or movies or politics or about what someone is actually, honestly thinking or feeling. I am not an exciting person to be around, unless you are excited by words and ideas, then I'm passable, I guess. And this is already too long for a tl;dr.

OK, random pointless facts about me. Intuit what you will:

- I am left handed, and I'm proud of this, for some reason.
- I have green eyes.
- I am a cat person. I have two now, a young black male shorthair that I took in as a kitten and an older female that I adopted from an animal shelter recently. Honestly, they are probably more important to me than most of the people in my life.
- Since everyone gives their Myers-Briggs types for some reason, I'm usually an INFP, sometimes an INTP. The I and the N are extremely strong, the F/T and the P less so.
- OK, yeah, I can't think of anything else. If you want to know something specific about me, send me a message. Seems like a solid way to start a conversation.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm currently a program coordinator for a non-profit. I'm not terribly interested in talking about my job, which is odd, because the work itself is actually very rewarding. But, like most jobs, it sounds like a yawn-fest on paper.

My dream is to publish a novel someday, even if it's self-published. Mostly, I just want to prove to myself that I can write more than 15 coherent pages, and produce something that I'm proud of. This is not as easy as it sounds.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This is insanely subjective.

I can't speak to what I'm good at, but I can say what I try my damnedest to be good at:

I try to listen to others, to understand their motivations and to empathize with them.

I try to speak and write and think with clarity and depth.

I try to be emotionally honest. I try to experience and express my feelings, completely, without becoming a victim of them. (I try, but I don't always succeed.)

I try to see the world as ambiguous and complex, and to not be superficial or rigid in my thoughts or beliefs.

I try to be uniquely myself without becoming a caricature of myself. (Definitely fail at the latter sometimes.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I get the old "you're so quiet!" line a lot. I guess that's fair, but not very unique.

Otherwise, people will notice that I have a lot of nervous or restless energy. I'm a habitual pacer, and I'm rarely sitting still unless I'm in front of a computer screen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
So, I have a lot of these. I am also a terrible snob. I tend not to think there is any difference between "high quality" and "fun." I like works that try to express something profound and emotionally honest.

Anyway, my choices:

Books:
Notes from Underground and The Brothers Karamazov by Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Lolita and Pale Fire by Vladimir Nabokov
The Dream Songs by John Berryman
"The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock" by T. S. Eliot
Breakfast of Champions by Kurt Vonnegut
East of Eden by John Steinbeck

And a bunch of others. I particularly like modern and pre-modern fiction. Don't ask me about your favorite YA author or fantasy/sci-fi series (unless it's LOTR), because I probably won't have any idea what you're talking about. I can count the number of books I've read that were published in the last 20 years one hand, and I could count the number I've read from the last five years on one finger. (It would be The Signal and the Noise by Nate Silver, who is one of my personal heroes.)

Movies:
Taxi Driver
As Good as It Gets
Dr. Strangelove
District 9
The Seventh Seal
The Tree of Life

And so many others. I particularly love Bergman and Scorsese, but there are a huge number of films that I've enjoyed, from basically every genre.

TV Shows:
The Wire
The X-Files
Mad Men
Breaking Bad
Arrested Development

Those are the greats, but if you limit it just to shows still on the air, I love Louie, Mad Men, The Good Wife, and Justified. Oh, and I know I'm entering tumblr fan girl territory here, but I also think Hannibal and Sherlock are fantastic.

Music:
My musical tastes are in flux. Right now I've been listening to a lot of Tom Russell. He's an amazing lyricist whose songs are everything a good story should be.

I love The Wallflowers. Maybe they aren't great by any technical standard, but their songs really express things that I feel (my identity?) better than any other band.

Food:
I am the kind of person who orders the same food everywhere he goes. Risk averse behavior, I guess. Chicken Parmesan and General Tso's Chicken are eternal favorites.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A list like this is always going to have some glaring omissions, but, sure.

In no particular order:
- My cats, obv.
- My computer, with internet access.
- Books, physical or electronic.
- Work, or some productive outlet to keep despair at bay.
- Family? Friends? I feel obligated to mention something that will humanize me.
- Yeah, OK. I'm out of ideas. What do you really need when you're a social recluse whose not that into material things? Hope, I guess.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It varies, but here are a couple of my favorite topics:

Stories. I'm fascinated by how narratives work. I think a lot about what makes books, TV shows, and movies good or bad or interesting. I like to take them apart in my mind and examine all the bits and pieces.

Politics. I'm not as sure of my political leanings as I used to be, but I'm still very interested in the political process. I've worked on a few small campaigns (once as a campaign manager). I'm a huge Nate Silver fanboy. I don't have many political convictions. I'm more interested in hearing what other people believe and why. I do feel strongly about poverty. I guess it's pretty hard to be pro-poverty though.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in my room, in my apartment, on my computer.

I am not an adventurous dude. I am not a guy who goes to parties or clubs or stays out until the break of dawn. I have no interest in being that guy, or being liberated from my shell or of stretching my boundaries.

I am always interested in exploring new ideas and having new conversations, but I am not interested in doing new things. I like safety and consistency. I don't like lots of noise or being around drunks or new, uncomfortable social situations. I know this will turn off a lot of people, but, frankly, I don't care.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've struggled with depression and anxiety. They aren't debilitating, but they have been a major source of pain and suffering for me in the past (and, yes, sometimes in the present). This isn't something I'm ashamed of. In fact, I'd love to meet someone who has as well. I think a lot of good can come from honestly discussing your weaknesses with someone who has had similar experiences.
You should message me if
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Well, first of all, if you think that I'm someone that you would like to have a conversation with. Everything must start there, right?

I will say that I am looking for a long-term, committed relationship. I have no interest in a one night stand or casual sex or a booty call or whatever the kids are calling it these days.

I want to find another human being who I feel comfortable around, who I can have long, in depth conversations with, or sit on the couch and watch movies with, or otherwise just honestly and affectionately share space with.

I am looking for someone who isn't into drinking, or drugs, or partying, and who doesn't feel the need to spend most or all their time orbiting large groups of other humans beings. There are plenty of extroverts who are wonderful people, and I know you don't have to be teetotal to be a good human being, but I also know that I need to find someone whose lifestyle is compatible with mine if this is going to work in the long run (and that's what I'm interested in).

Beyond that, hey, I've been pretty thorough here. Draw your own conclusions.