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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 16
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Korean (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I love music, video games (everything from RPGs, FPS, Strategy, on the xbox, iPad, laptop, you name it) anime, poetry, comics, books, and most humans, despite being slightly nihilistic.

I'm married/ polyamorous with kalopsian, with whom I practice responsible nonmonogamy, have 3 young kidlets, an awesome software engineering job, and a fun group of friends with which I play obscene amounts of video games and board games. I love my life! ^_^

Despite being so busy I really love meeting awesome people! Which is why I'm here, after all. I'm looking for people who enjoy thinking and talking about life, philosophy, literature, music and human behavior, but can just as easily unplug and be silly. In reality, most of the time I'm just silly. I can have as much fun at a poetry reading as I would at a karaoke bar, or sitting home laughing at weird internet videos, watching old Jackie Chan movies, or browsing Reddit. I'm easy to get along with and I love internet culture.

If you're weirded out about the polyamory stuff feel free to ask me questions; I'm happy to talk about it!

I'm looking for interesting, engaging relationships with people - girls or boys. I enjoy both sexes (and all the sexes in between) equally. Just wanna drink wine and read classic lit to each other by candelight? I'm your girl. Wanna be naked at the same time? Even better.

I'm curvy, rather tall for a girl at 5'8", am not the biggest fan of physical exercise (hence the curvy) since I'd rather be reading or gaming or cooking or oh just about anything else. So if you're a die hard fitness nut... we might not have a lot in common. Just sayin'. (^o^)
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a software developer and I get to work from home... yay!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, listening to people, sharing, being silly, gaming, cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
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um... no idea. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lord of the Rings, Dharma Bums, A Moveable Feast, The Sun Also Rises, Railsea, Great Gatsby, Ender's Game, Breakfast of Champions (and anything by Vonnegut), Wuthering Heights, Siddhartha, Earthsea, anything by Charles Bukowski, Sylvia Plath... I could go on forever.

Freakangels, Y: The Last Man, Wet Moon, Wonder Woman, Batman, Locke & Key, The Massive, Saga.

Mass Effect, Skyrim, Bioshock, Gone Home, GTA, Bastion, Minecraft, Diablo, Tomb Raider, Borderlands, Portal, Civ, Digital A Hate Story, Analogue A Love Story, Alice, Neverwinter, and yes, all the old mario games, atari games (pong, pitfall, etc).

Movies and Shows:
Primer, Chasing Amy, Mallrats, Clerks, Arrested Development, Say Anything, Ponyo, Totoro, Serenity, Firefly, Boys Over Flowers, Coffee Prince, Better Off Ted, Buffy, Doctor Who, Invader Zim, Ouran Host Club, Serial Experiments Lain, Casshern, Cowboy Bebop, Outlaw Star, Ghost in the Shell, Final Fantasy Advent Children, Alice in Wonderland, Star Trek, Practical Magic, Dr. Horrible, Garden State, Hackers, ANY Jackie Chan movie... :) any documentary - most recently Helvetica, Empires: The Medici, Objectified, and Indie Game: The Movie.

I like a good mix of electronica, indie/folk, emo/punk, classic rock, etc. Of note: Dar Williams, Iron & Wine, Ben Folds, Death Cab, Postal Service, Panic at the Disco, Ben Harper, Jason Mraz, Skrillex, Deadmau5, David Bowie, The Decemberists, Infected Mushroom, Johnny Cash, MGMT, Paramore, Regina Spektor, St. Vincent, Sufjan Stevens, Vampire Weekend, Tom Petty, Violent Femmes, Van Morrison, M83, Azure Ray, Sam Hart, Crystal Castles, DJ Tiesto. And MOAR. SO MUCH MOAR.

Sushi, Indian food, Korean food, Thai food, southern BBQ, Irish food, Otto's pizza, roasted chicken, greek food, rice... Local 188, Benkay and Hot Suppa are my local faves.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Since I suppose air, clean drinking water and food are a given I'll focus on my #firstworld requirements, rather shamefully :)

1. Books. All the books.
2. My kids and husband - they're just awesome.
3. Autumn. The darker half of the year actually, including winter.
4. The spaces in between.
5. Friends.
6. Music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Your mom.

The cycle of life, trying to figure out what matters and what doesn't, relationships, the way humans treat each other, trying to filter out the noise and discover what is sacred and vital.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing Battlefield 3, GTA V, reading a comic, listening to podcasts, working, watching Korean dramas on Hulu, making something yummy to eat, or traipsing around the city!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I hate horror movies. My friends hate me for it, and I know you will too, but I hate feeling scared. :)
You should message me if
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You want to challenge me to a round of Battlefield or Halo. ^_-

Seriously though, I'm here as much to find fun friends to hang out with as I am to find people to be intimate with. You can message me if you are interested in either option! I'm slow to actually meet people IRL just because I try to flex my bullshit detection muscle at first and weed out drama and such, but please don't be afraid to start a conversation with me! (^o^)