(It's a long and winding profile. No pics. You have been warned.)

Freedom of thought, curiosity, sarcasm, literature, music, darkness, exploring new souls, passion, tolerance, kindness, intelligence, wit, charm & grace...

*Edit, some years later: Life has changed, the abovementioned things haven't. These are the things I look for, and rarely find, in friends and lovers. I've been called picky but I see it as being rational - with the limited time we have on this earth, why spend it with people who bring you down& use your energy and take everything and give nothing? I value opinions and personality (it is possible to not have one, I've noticed).

I am bright, alert, and responsive. (These "define yourself in three words" -words come from the early days of OKC, and I'm keeping them here for the sake of nostalgia and because I think they do describe my personality).

I'm also spectaculary old-fashioned in that I'm not in Facebook or any other social media site (I have a twitter account that I'm effectively not using). I still prefer email and regular phone calls. I'd send snailmail if it wasn't so darn slow. (I used to love writing and receiving letters, you know, paper ones, long ago in a different world. Now you don't learn to recognize people's handwriting anymore.. it's a shame, and so much history (personal and cultural) is lost because of this.)

I am generous and loyal to my friends and will always value relationships over money. My ambitions and motivations have little to do with posessions or career moves.

I dream of life in the country side & wide open spaces, work that has nothing to do with my current job, traveling (I have a top100 list of places to see), getting a kitty (not possible quite yet), having time to see all the movies and read all the books I want to, maybe doing some writing of my own.. Yeah, and of meeting someone I would want to do these things with.

Probably wasting it and will regret it later. Things don't feel right, even though they might look that way from the outside. Wrong country, wrong town, wrong partner, wrong job, wrong hair color and wow how the word "wrong" is starting to look wrong.

EDIT: I've now changed two and a half of the above-mentioned things. Still working on the rest. No idea how things are going to go, but at least I'm feeling hopeful for a change..

EDIT pt 2: thinking of moving on again in a few months. Feeling restless. But free.

pt 3: Moved on. Still no plan, but it doesn't matter.

There are some things I secretly think I'm good at.. like singing, photography, writing, my work.. don't know if that's true. Sometimes I have these creative urges. But I wouldn't quit my dayjob for them. (I often wonder how people do that - just change careers and slow down and become florists or whatever and all happy and relaxed. I'd be worried sick that I wouldn't make ends meet.)

Also really good at: procrastinating, staying up late (recovering from it gets harder every year), debating, wishful thinking and second-guessing. I love talking and writing.

And spelling. Username with c was taken at the time.

I look younger than I am. I'm slender and petite and look mostly harmless.

I've been a vegetarian for over 16 years now, so that's the main thing about food - apart form that I like spicy Asian dishes, fresh pastas, barbequed/grilled things and chocolate. Soups, not so much. Traditional Finnish cuisine neither.

Ok, so that was easy. Books, movies and music on the other hand - well. Let's tackle music first: I want to say that I do not like *everything* - there are people who claim to listen to and like "all kinds of music". That's one of the ultimate turn-off's for me. Music is something very private and important to me, and I'm just as selective about it as I am about people. That's like one new favorite every five years :).

Actually, the same goes with books&movies; specific tastes, strong opinions and will make (long) lists if asked. I read and watch movies less than I used to, which is a shame. I do seem to find time for good tv series, though.

I seem to veer towards scifi and fantasy, metal & melancholy, the quirky and the unexplained, but also non-fiction, science and pop.

And geeky guys with pale complexion and red hair. Mostly.

Friends& love, music, photography, nature&animals, literature. (math I can do without, it seems)

EDIT: Reading this now, it looks like I could do without internet, movies, tv shows and men. That's not true. (I might also prioritize men above, say, photography. At least some men, some of the time.)

I mean why would I be here, writing this nonsense to no one in particular if I wasn't looking for that special someone. It seems that back when I wrote that I just tried to make it sound like my motives were more pure.

What is right/ethical, what is suffering and what is happiness, how should I spend my time on this planet? What's my next travel destination? What perfume to wear? How not to waste time? Why not get a kitten?

And, lately, a _lot_ of time thinking about two brothers in a '67 impala.

I want to go on a road trip across the US. Some months, all the states you can reach by car (something reliable that eats less than a vintage Chevy). Anyone? It would be very risky with someone you don't know very well. But at the moment I don't know anyone I'd like to go with.

not in a bar.

Admit nothing. Sail down the river of D'Nile.

That's one thing I'm good at, by the way. Should add it to that list.

You're looking for a friend, conversation, company.. No pressure, no deadlines.

Just please don't send a text that's
- a copy of your profile or contains much of it (I can read it from there), or
- a standard message that you always send everyone (I can tell)
Thanks.

Also, don't say "I'm an open book". No one really is, nor should they be, and people who claim to be, usually fail miserably at being honest and /or remotely original.

It seems that many here at OKC have chosen "located anywhere" and "friends/penpals" but don't really mean that (and many seem to be looking for a long distance pen-pal who is near them, which still baffles me). I do. I also happen to think - despite also believing that the OKC percentages actually, magically seem to have some.. accuracy.. - that it's ridiculous to try and define in advance whether someone would be a better friend or a romantic interest.. It takes a while to know that and I want to get to know you first.

I think "friends/penpals" is a good way to start, especially in a place like this with people from all over and where words still stand a chance.

I'm looking for something meaningful, something deeper than what this forum might suggest. I've chosen "friends/penpals" not to exclude all other possibilities but as a prerequisite for them.

(I have to add this after stumbling upon a particularly disturbing profile: Please don't contact me if you think that cruelty to animals is okay and that I should relax and not make a fuss because a) foie de gras is just so good or b) children/humans are just so much more important and we must save all of them first. I have zero respect for you if this is how you honestly feel and I want to have nothing to do with you. Sorry for being so uptight about this, I guess I just can't "chill" when it comes to hurting defenseless creatures (whatever the species). I don't take very many things seriously but this I do. I'm not a violent person but I would have no problem torturing and killing people who have tortured animals or little kids. So there. Take your foie gras and flee before I forcibly stuff it down your throat and then eat your liver.)