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My self-summary
- I like making lists.
- When I eat with a fork and knife, I don't put my knife down to switch with my fork.
- I like films that make you wonder who the bad guy is.
- People refuse to believe that I'm shy or introverted, but spoiler alert: I'm shy and introverted.
- If I were to describe myself in one word, sybaritic would be it.
- Many of my friends believe my ideal weekends are adventurous: e.g., sailing in 15+ kn TWS, trekking a rainforest, surfing some exotic locale, sky diving, motorcycling, etc. While I enjoy those things, my ideal weekends are actually indoors.
- I sometimes enjoy gender normative role-reversals.
- I kick ass at racing video games.
- I don't like soy sauce.
- Off hiatus for the moment, though I have decided to continue not checking likes.
- I do not respond to occupational questions. I like my job, but I leave it at work. If you want to talk about your job, feel free, but I won't ask you any questions either.

**In mid-2013, I started a relationship with fellow adventurer, romantic, and geek extraordinaire out2munch, and for a while, we kept things traditionally monogamous. However, being consensually and consciously slutty at the core, we're starting to date others both separately and together. Caution: I think that every relationship requires that the persons involved feel special, appreciated, and valued, so my non-monogamy is a lot of things, but emotionally or intellectually casual they are not (just in case slutty was distracting).**

"Well, I believe in the soul, the cock, the pussy, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”
What I’m doing with my life
I work hard, play hard, love deeply, bruise easily, and smile often.

I pursue being vulnerable, transparent, and authentic in all aspects of my life with reckless abandon -- this is of profound importance to me in myself and others.

Sometimes I'm afraid that I don't have what it takes to overcome the challenges I encounter; other times I'm a fearless, swashbuckling conqueror. Regardless of which mode I'm in, to others I often appear to have everything under control (don't panic!).

“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body. But rather, to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up,totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming .... WOW what a ride.”
I’m really good at
just about anything I put real effort into.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too many... so recents (i.e., 90 days) at random:

Radical: My Journey Out Of Islamist Extremism

The Lunchbox
The Martian
Hitting the Apex

Criminal Minds
Pitbulls & Parolees

Billie Holiday
Nouvelle Vague
Peter Gabriel
Friends Of Dean Martinez
Gregor Samsa
Blue Swede
Unlimited Four
David Bowie/James Murphy
Daft Punk/Ki:Theory
The Glitch Mob
Darkest Hour
From Autumn To Ashes
The Pogues
Lhasa de Sela
Rosemary Clooney

karachi chicken
The Front Porch <3
brisket sliders
golden eye snapper nigiri

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- effective ad copy
- sexual orientation and identification issues
- how identification issues hurt us
- why people want to be so angry
- how technology changes us
- what is beautiful
- where humor is born
- why wanting to feel liked can be so consuming
- dog training
- travel plans
- personal growth
- the meaninglessness of personal opinion
- how we communicate with each other
- what "real" really means
- why do people who identify as monogamous like me
- what about my profile indicates I am interested in one night stands or transient interludes
- what about being sexual makes some people appreciate said sexuality as devoid of connection
- what makes people believe that sapiosexiality is defined as being ONLY attracted to intellect
- why do some people insist on "conversating" instead of conversing or making conversation
- while browsing profiles, if someone in one of the user's group photos is attractive to me (but not the user), should I write to inquire who it is and how I could meet him/her
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Dear Holly, I don't have much time. I don't mean literally, I mean you're out buying ice cream and you'll be home soon. But I have a feeling this is the last letter, because there is only one thing left to tell you. It isn't to go down memory lane or make you buy a lamp, you can take care of yourself without any help from me. It's to tell you how much you move me, how you changed me. You made me a man, by loving me Holly. And for that, I am eternally grateful... literally. If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you're sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you'll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my wife. I'm a man with no regrets. How lucky am I. You made my life, Holly. But I'm just one chapter in yours. There'll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don't be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you.
You should message me if
At least 3 of the 4 things below are true:

1) You enjoyed my profile for more than just the pictures.
2) You wear cowboy boots on occasion and know how to perform at least one ranch/farm task (Yes, I do, and yes, I can.)
3) You are kinky and/or have a FetLife profile (Yes, I am, and yes, I do.).
4) You have a great idea for a first date.