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blckvlvt

31 San Francisco, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:07pm
Orientation
Sapiosexual
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Status
Open relationship
Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
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- hopeless romantic (see below)
- hobby collector
- curious
- pensive
- shy
- affable
- witty (I hope)
- addicted to music
- sybaritic
- silly
- realistic-idealistic-cynical
- independent (aka loner tendencies)
- snuggle/affection monster

In mid-2013, I started a relationship with a fellow adventurer, romantic, and geek extraordinaire out2munch, and for a while, we kept things traditionally monogamous. However, being consensually and consciously slutty at the core, we're starting to date others both separately and together.

On that note: I like the idea of an intimate, emotionally deep relationship, however monogamy is not a permanent state for me (and "don't ask, don't tell" kinds of open relationships are not for me either). Some might find this challenging... I personally enjoy making my partners feel special, appreciated, and valued without having exclusivity as the crutch.

Film lines I like (for a taste of what kind of romantic I am):

"I've already wasted my whole life. I want to tell you with my last breath that I have always loved you. I would rather be a ghost, drifting by your side as a condemned soul, than enter heaven without you. Because of your love, I will never be a lonely spirit."

"We're so arrogant, aren't we? So afraid of age, we do everything we can to prevent it. We don't realize what a privilege it is to grow old with someone. Someone who doesn't drive you to commit murder or doesn't humiliate you beyond repair. "

"Well, I believe in the soul, the cock, the pussy, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”

"I really like you, but I can't be the Invisible Man. I'm tired of being the shoulder, I want to be another body part. I want to use up a woman so she's ruined for all other men. (You don't want to do that.) No, I don't want to do that. I want to date a woman who actually likes men, I want to be somebody's Gerry."

"Look, I guarantee there'll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you're the only one for me."
What I’m doing with my life
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I work hard, play hard, love deeply, bruise easily, and smile often.

I pursue being vulnerable, transparent, and authentic in all aspects of my life with reckless abandon -- this is of profound importance to me in myself and others.

Sometimes I'm afraid that I don't have what it takes to overcome the challenges I encounter; other times I'm a fearless, swashbuckling conqueror. Regardless of which mode I'm in, to others I often appear to have everything under control (don't panic!).

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body. But rather, to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up,totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming .... WOW what a ride.”
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
just about anything I put real effort into.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told my eyes/smile... other times, my confidence in speaking. I have also been called intense and/or intimidating.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Way too many too list all... so I'm listing a few recents at random.

Books//
Doggy on Deck: Life at Sea with a Salty Dog: Absolutely Everything You Need to Know Before Cruising With Fido
Case for the Cruising Trimaran
Vampire Hunter D Volume 19: Mercenary Road

Movies//
TED
Guardians of the Galaxy
The Lunchbox
We Bought A Zoo
Hitman
Mad Max: Fury Road

TV//
Criminal Minds
The Glades
Archer
Firefly
Star Trek TNG

Music//
Lindsey Stirling
Rob Dougan
Porter Robinson
Gustav Holst

Food//
sushi
Ethiopian/Eritrean
smoked pork shoulder
fried pork chops
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I spend lots of time in my pajamas. And naked.
You should message me if
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Something about my profile interests you. Some things you should also know:

- likes are cool, and I may even like you back if you like me, but I often don't look at them.
- I'm in the midst of moving and travel, so my bandwidth for OkC inconsistently varies between interactive and voyeur.
- I'm not initiating contact with anyone due to the previously stated. I know that I'm slacking in my feminist duty for not being more proactive, but hey, bandwidth.