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blckvlvt

31 San Francisco, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:39am
Orientation
Sapiosexual
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Status
Seeing Someone
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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- hopeless romantic (see below)
- hobby collector
- curious
- pensive
- shy
- affable
- witty (I hope)
- addicted to music
- sybaritic
- silly
- realistic-idealistic-cynical
- independent (aka loner tendencies)
- snuggle/affection monster

Film lines I like (for a taste of what kind of romantic I am):

"I've already wasted my whole life. I want to tell you with my last breath that I have always loved you. I would rather be a ghost, drifting by your side as a condemned soul, than enter heaven without you. Because of your love, I will never be a lonely spirit."

"We're so arrogant, aren't we? So afraid of age, we do everything we can to prevent it. We don't realize what a privilege it is to grow old with someone. Someone who doesn't drive you to commit murder or doesn't humiliate you beyond repair. "

"Well, I believe in the soul, the cock, the pussy, the small of a woman's back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”

"I really like you, but I can't be the Invisible Man. I'm tired of being the shoulder, I want to be another body part. I want to use up a woman so she's ruined for all other men. (You don't want to do that.) No, I don't want to do that. I want to date a woman who actually likes men, I want to be somebody's Gerry."

"Look, I guarantee there'll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna want to get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you're the only one for me."
What I’m doing with my life
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I work hard, play hard, love deeply, bruise easily, and smile often.

I pursue being vulnerable, transparent, and authentic in all aspects of my life with reckless abandon -- this is of penultimate importance to me in myself and others.

Sometimes I'm afraid that I don't have what it takes to overcome the challenges I encounter; other times I'm a fearless, swashbuckling conqueror. Regardless of which mode I'm in, to others I often appear to have everything under control (don't panic!).

“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.”

“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body. But rather, to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up,totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming .... WOW what a ride.”
I’m really good at
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just about anything I put real effort into.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told my eyes/smile... other times, my confidence in speaking. I have also been called intense and/or intimidating.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Way too many too list all... so I'm listing a few at random.

Books
The Unbearable Lightness of Being
The Agony and the Ecstasy
Exit to Eden
Suicide Casanova
The Prophet
The Way of the Superior Man

Movies
Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter, and Spring
The Grass is Greener
Tropic Thunder
Le Mans
On Any Sunday
Downloading Nancy
Devdas
Lilo & Stitch
TED
Dogma

Shows
Archer
The Newsroom
House
Law & Order (& SVU)
Oz
Moral Orel
Robot Chicken
South Park
The Wire

Music
DeVotchKa
COLD
Clint Mansell
Hans Zimmer
Dvorak
Pink Martini
Valentina Lisitsa
Etta James
Otis Redding
Melody Gardot

Food
sushi
Ethiopian/Eritrean
chicken & waffles
mesquite smoked beef brisket
barbecue eel over rice
Greek
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm happily divorced and not looking to be married again. I like the idea of an intimate, emotionally deep relationship, however monogamy is not a permanent state for me (and "don't ask, don't tell" kinds of open relationships are not for me either). Some might find this challenging... I personally enjoy making my partners feel special, appreciated, and valued without having exclusivity as the crutch.
You should message me if
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Something about my profile interests you. With that said, please understand that I can't respond back to everyone... I always appreciate the interest.