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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 42-60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5' 9" (1.75m)
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Average build
Other and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
My self-summary
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I loved the EMPTY streets over Pope weekend. The cars should go away forever. The entire vibe of center city changed. For the better.

That said,

I watched "Her" recently and was moved by such an allegory to online dating. Spike Jonze captured the on line dating experience. Just a bunch of bits and bytes hoping. Nothing real, entirely virtual. No character - just like here - really had any skin in the game. Just like here. Just like OKCupid. Life imitates art or...

Imagine having dinner with someone less than perfect.
Imagine actually being human! Ah such thought.
Imagine falling in love with flaws as well as virtues.
Imagine realizing that OKCupid is a construct and your ideal is not at all what you imagined.

That sounds like an analogue, offline life, you know - breathing, walking, talking. And it sounds good to me.

I am living a version of off line life. My version. And I am glad. Flawed, amazing, evolving, alive. Imperfect, honest and responsive. Totally human. But our device addled society prompts me to venture to the land of virtual and sigh. Oh well I soldier on...

Autumn 2015

I am best defined by the choices I made. Moving to NYC - from SF - 30 years ago, leaving NYC 12 years ago, living on Shelter Island, next to the sea, the whole time and relocating to center city Philadelphia. Committing myself to creativity and design, answering my calling, not hewing to convention.

I love creating - professionally (print, motion, interactive, live action), in the kitchen, on a walk and interpersonally and I love indulging my curiosity in things trivial and profound.

It has been a life of amazing adventures.

I appreciate each one and look forward to more. My life is informed by these experiences and while most have been good, some have not, yet they have created a beautiful tapestry, provided great lessons and I would not trade a single one of them.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Acclimating to my new home. Creating community
and social fabric - here and in the real world.

I want to meet new people here in Philadelphia. My primary motivation is to expand my social circle and if in that expansion something were to evolve to other places, super.

Still learning. Really! Expansive, inquisitive. I work in design with success, I'm a musician, and I cook (well... enough) I regularly question my status quo which keeps me on an ever evolving path.

Nothing is static. Metaphysically agile.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Self Respect
Trying, succeeding, failing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have no idea
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music, art, community, expression.

In the interest of some disclosure. Most of my media consumption is music. Currently: Tei Shi, Moon Duo, Wolf Alice, Toro Y Moi, Ryan Adams - especially the solo stuff. The Smiths, PJ Harvey, Polica, The Sensational Space Shifters, Sun Ra, Future Islands, Phillip Glass, Meshell Ndegeocello, Low, The War On Drugs - and thats just the tip of the iceberg.

I prefer the scene and the music at Boot and Saddle, The Troc or Union Transfer to the larger places.

News, current events, celebrity and Hollywood are a tad depressing so I kind of avoid traditional media. But I can find things to read and stream.

I collect art, I have some famous some not famous artists in my home. I have been collecting for about 30 years.

I am an omnivore - I like well prepared food - usually in my kitchen. But Philadelphia has a collection of fantastic restaurants - I am totally impressed with the dining scene here from Fitler Dining Room to Cheu to Tria to V Street. Totally amazing stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
living in possibility

I know none of the above are "things". I like this modern way we live, but if it were all to vanish, and it won't, I think life, living, might actually be better. And none of the above would go away if we were to lose iPhones/iPads/iCrap.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Being and experiencing now.


...spending time with a woman without it officially being called
a “date”.

Men and women can spend casual time together without any precise, complex rules. Prior to internet dating, in my experience, things were closer to that model. A lot of meta data (excuse me) is shared through interpersonal interactions, i.e. work, mutual friends, hobbies and through that, interest/intention is clearer and more energetic. As a result, if we appreciate each other’s company, we can go for a walk, to the movies, to the museum, try tree climbing or wine tasting, whatever.

The convoluted and binary "on line dating” system is a bit of a drag. It feels rigid, limiting reactive and restrictive. For me, “first date, second date, third date” doesn’t make a lot of sense. I like to keep it simple and natural, and just see how it evolves.

The above might be perceived as a way of having an exit plan. That could not be farther from the truth. It takes a while to get a sense of another, for reality to define itself and I think however things grow is better than quick decisions based on a few photos and a few more words... quixotic I know, but better, much better than the "catalogue" dynamic of this forum.

My 2¢

How Ashtanga changed the course of my spirit/being. How something that is so quiet and personal can be so profound.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!

There is so much the eyes say that we don’t speak...
You should message me if
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you are looking for an engaging, honest, expansive relationship,
I am interesting, enlightened and fun.