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64 Santa Barbara, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 54–70
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:35am
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Has kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm so enjoying my life in Santa Barbara. I have lots of friends, stay social and love to laugh.

Questions for you:
How do you nourish your partner? YourSelf? How would you like your partner to nourish you? What would make it safe for you to ask a woman out?

Everyone likes to be heard. How are your listening skills? Are you open to sharing your feelings? Do you feel this is a strength or a weakness? Do you want an intimate connection? Vulnerability leads to intimacy.

My Ideal Partner: One who loves himself and others unconditionally and accepts me just as I am. He is kind, gentle, funny, generous and vulnerable.
He is one who is also physically fit, confident and likes to hold hands, hold me in warm embraces and snuggle.

This is an interesting and accurate view of internet dating:

I'm financially secure and have high integrity and expect/want the same in my partner. I'm very honest and value that quality in my partner. I appreciate the 'likes' but would rather hear how you think we connect via email. What are our common interests in your opinion? Talk to me. Thank you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I appreciate learning and growing in mySelf, photography, wine tasting, jazz, theater, traveling around the world (and close-by), hiking in the mountains, lakes and hills, and pretty much anything outdoors.

Hawaii is a no brainier...always love visiting there.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Trusting and loving unconditionally.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a good listener, so I'm quiet at first. Then what they notice is my smile and friendly personality.

(an interesting read that is accurate for on-line dating).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite authors: LOTS!

Eckhart Tolle. (If you connect with A NEW EARTH, we'll likely connect. I also loved LOVEABILITY by Robert Holden and everything by Harville Hendrix. Getting the Love You Want comes to mind)

I love plays, movies (not violent) ones that make me laugh and fun movies. Have some you can recommend?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
loving: my children, grandbabies and friends; Spirituality; appreciation; gratitude; my health.

If you email me, please let me know if you resonate with letting go of patterns that don't work for you. Do you do the work to get free? This is a very important part of my present and my future.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much I appreciate my life. How to release judgments... and loving unconditionally.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
entertained with a movie, play, speaker, band, party or sitting quietly and peacefully at home listening to 'quiet' music and / or watching a recorded show or cooking with my that you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am authentic. I have no secrets...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are gentle, romantic, loving; confident, open to looking within to find your own happiness and not looking for it outside of yourself, and are willing to heal unresolved issues. Above all someone who is into living your best life!

I do not enjoy talking politics or strong, rough personalities or men who tend to be loud or ego-led.

(Unfortunately, I'm highly allergic to cats. It's down to them or me. I choose to breathe).