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64 Santa Barbara, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 54–70
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
May 19
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Has kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm so enjoying my life in Santa Barbara. I followed my heart and moved here 6 years ago!

I notice many men who contact me do not post photos. Why? If you have a photo where I can see your eyes and you email me (with reasonable questions or statements, not hit on), I will email you back.

Questions for you:
What is nourishing for you? How do you like to nourish your partner? YourSelf? How would you like your partner to nourish you?

Are you open to sharing your feelings? Do you feel this is a strength or a weakness? Do you want an intimate connection?

My Ideal Partner: One who loves himself and others unconditionally and accepts me just as I am. He is kind, gentle, funny, generous and willing to be vulnerable.
He is one who is also physically fit, confident and likes to hold hands, hold me in warm embraces and snuggle.

I'm financially secure and have high integrity and would like the same in my partner. I'm very honest and value that quality in my partner. I appreciate the 'likes' but would rather hear how you think and connect via email. I would love to hear what are our common interests in your opinion Feel free to reach out to me. Thank you. ☺
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I appreciate learning and growing and deepening in the exploration of mySelf, photography, wine tasting, jazz, theater, traveling around the world (and close-by), hiking in the mountains, lakes and hills, and pretty much anything outdoors.

Hawaii is a no brainier...always love visiting there. Italy and Ireland are also favorites. I've never been to France and would like to see that countryside and explore Paris. I'm open to traveling most places. I'm curious.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Trusting and loving unconditionally.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a good listener, so I'm quiet at first. Then what they notice is my smile and friendly personality.

(FYI: an interesting read that is accurate for on-line dating).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite authors: LOTS!

Eckhart Tolle. (If you connect with A NEW EARTH, we'll likely connect. I also loved LOVEABILITY by Robert Holden and everything by Harville Hendrix. Getting the Love You Want comes to mind)

I love plays, movies (not violent) ones that make me laugh and fun movies. Have some you can recommend?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
loving: my children, grandbabies and friends; Spirituality; appreciation; gratitude; my health.

If you email me, please let me know if you have a willingness to work on areas of yourself that may no longer be working for you and with looking at old patterns that may need updating. A commitment to personally growing and evolving, It’s a very important part of my present and my future.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much I appreciate my life. How to release judgments... and loving unconditionally.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
entertained with a movie, play, speaker, band, party or sitting quietly and peacefully at home listening to 'quiet' music and / or watching a recorded show or cooking with my that you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am authentic. I have no secrets…

... I feel awkward with this whole online dating thing but I really long for a partner that I can play and grow with.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are gentle, romantic, loving; confident, open to looking within to find your own happiness and not looking for it outside of yourself, and are willing to heal unresolved issues. Above all someone who is into living your best life!
If you do not post a photo, do not expect to hear back from me…it's part of taking that first step to being vulnerable. :)

(I've recently been hearing about disappointed men in connecting to another profile/woman and found them to be much unlike their profile in photos and word. I'm sorry for your experience. Not all women are like that. These are recent photos and an authentic me. Don't give up on all women.)

I do not enjoy talking politics or strong, rough personalities or men who tend to be loud or ego-led.

And I have a question: why are you 20 and 30 something's looking at my profile and emailing me? I just don't get it. It's not gonna happen.

(Unfortunately, I'm highly allergic to cats. It's down to them or me.)