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40 Amherst, MA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Nov 21
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), Arabic (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), Croatian (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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My daughter created this profile and username for me. Unfortunately I can't alter it without ponying up a fee. Apparently many people are pinging me with curiosity about my username. A simple Google search should clarify; but please don't take it too seriously.

I have played around on the survey questions primarily to humor a friend and must say, as a social scientist, I find most of them entirely laughable, but hey, laughing is fun. Now am filling out essays to kill time while watching Star Wars marathon with son in Machete Viewing Order. Apologies if I accidentally refer to you as a scruffy-looking nerf-herder.

Judging by replies so far there also appears to be some confusion about my status. Am "currently in a committed relationship with fun and freedom" BUT this emphatically does NOT mean what a number of you seem to think it means.

To the rest of you: I may be willing to correspond when time permits and/or if you have something interesting to say. Would welcome activity partners for fun around the valley.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Parenting. Writing books about human rights and armed conflict. Blogging and working less frenetically than I used to. Rock-climbing. Snowboarding. Connecting w/ my far-flung tribe of friends / family. Teaching future policymakers why bad things happen and how to prevent them. Taking stock of life and its changing currents, resting for a spell while figuring out my next maneuver (which will likely have something to do with a new book project and transcontinental travel). Putting the tao into practice.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Over-analyzing science fiction movies or pretty much anything. Speaking truth to power, not always effectively though! Baking extremely creative birthday cakes (toast-making skills not so brilliant...) Cranking out books and articles and inspirational videos about human security. Being outside my comfort zone. Making lemonade.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I try not to speak for other people, unless they are vulnerable and unable to speak for themselves (or I'm leading a game of "Wolf!"...) Anyway, it would depend on which people. My students tell me I'm fun and stylish "for a prof" but really tough. From others, I get comments on my eyes and my wit. It depends on if they meet me in person or on the internet, and which of my many selves I'm wearing that day...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ender's Game
The Hobbit
A Horse and His Boy
Star Wars
Pirates of the Carribean
The Piano
L.A. Story
Immortal Beloved
Game of Thrones
Battlestar Galactica
Tori Amos
Breaking Benjamin
Shiny Toy Guns
Lemon Cake
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
well, well, well another trite and ridiculously phrased question. people can do without most things besides water, food and sleep. even those, for awhile: just ask any prisoner of conscience.

anyway aren't we our best selves when we are learning what we can live without?

what do i not WANT to go without? the internet. meaningful time with my children and siblings. great food, travel to far-off countries beyond the sea, good books, time in the mountains and on beaches and in caves, new experiences of most sorts.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what the universe is trying to teach me
how to meet my children's needs and find time for my own
how to better protect civilians in armed conflicts
killer robots: on balance, good or bad??
game of thrones: who will be alive at the end?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
finishing up a writing day while kids are elsewhere, having drinks or dinner with a friend, hitting the climbing gym, heading home for a bubble bath, some yoga and an episode of Homeland.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
yeah. right.
You should message me if
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you want to connect and can handle me not responding until/unless i have the time or if you happen to catch me in between other craziness. it's not personal, i'm just very busy and pretty content

WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects-you DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice. @FreshStart39